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Name of Your Game Four Game Plans for Success at Home and Work
Book by Atkins, Stuart
Hardcover
First published February 1, 1982
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September 4, 2017
I've recognized over the past few years that I'm not as quick to adapt, especially emotionally, compared to other people. Although I have read a lot of psychology books, I have never stopped reading them because I wanted to understand myself more and desired to relate better with other people.
Atkins's Life Orientations Theory is essentially an appropriation of Freud and Rogers with a bit of Fromm admixed into the cocktail.
It makes a lot of sense.
I am a conserving-holding person. This means that I tend to accumulate information before making decisions, but on the other hand, take a long period of time to choose. Atkins called this vacillation analysis-paralysis. It was extremely accurate in my case: sometimes, I want to know everything about a certain topic that I fail to make a decision because I want it to be the most knowledgeable one. My weakness is the excess of my strengths: I am cool under pressure, but I eschew most forms of emotionality, even when apt.
Other personalities, like the 'opportunistic' controlling-taking, the perservering supporting-giving or the flexible adapting-dealing can be found in other people. We misunderstand each other because the fundamental lens by which we view the world is ultimately different.
This is what the LIFO Theory addresses. We may think of other personalities as weaknesses, but each of them offer advantages other orientations do not possess. Similar to Hayakawa's thought, the theory believes that the world is not binary. It's not either/or, and with each strength is a weakness: it's a continuum, and one's aim is equilibrium.
With this theory I realize that my brother occasionally chafes me because of his Adapting-Dealing orientation with a bit of Controlling-Taking. These are orientations I prefer less, and this book made me realize that people who perceive the world differently from me are not my enemies - they're simply other people, and the more I'll grow to realize that, the more I'll grow as a person.
I'd still love to hoard books, though. And overthinking is my speciality. Well, we all start with baby steps.
Atkins's Life Orientations Theory is essentially an appropriation of Freud and Rogers with a bit of Fromm admixed into the cocktail.
It makes a lot of sense.
I am a conserving-holding person. This means that I tend to accumulate information before making decisions, but on the other hand, take a long period of time to choose. Atkins called this vacillation analysis-paralysis. It was extremely accurate in my case: sometimes, I want to know everything about a certain topic that I fail to make a decision because I want it to be the most knowledgeable one. My weakness is the excess of my strengths: I am cool under pressure, but I eschew most forms of emotionality, even when apt.
Other personalities, like the 'opportunistic' controlling-taking, the perservering supporting-giving or the flexible adapting-dealing can be found in other people. We misunderstand each other because the fundamental lens by which we view the world is ultimately different.
This is what the LIFO Theory addresses. We may think of other personalities as weaknesses, but each of them offer advantages other orientations do not possess. Similar to Hayakawa's thought, the theory believes that the world is not binary. It's not either/or, and with each strength is a weakness: it's a continuum, and one's aim is equilibrium.
With this theory I realize that my brother occasionally chafes me because of his Adapting-Dealing orientation with a bit of Controlling-Taking. These are orientations I prefer less, and this book made me realize that people who perceive the world differently from me are not my enemies - they're simply other people, and the more I'll grow to realize that, the more I'll grow as a person.
I'd still love to hoard books, though. And overthinking is my speciality. Well, we all start with baby steps.
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