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The Values Factor: The Secret to Creating an Inspired and Fulfilling Life
Based on his landmark research and teachings, Dr. John Demartini has discovered the key to fulfillment in all aspects of life.
What is the most important step you can take to achieve the life you’ve always dreamed of? You might think the answer is something like, start saving money, get a better job, find my soul mate , or improve my marriage . Solutions like these might offer temporary satisfaction, but none of them can provide true, lasting fulfillment or help you achieve your unique purpose in life.
The Values Factor shows you how to create a life in which every minute can be inspiring and fulfilling. The first step is to identify what you find most meaningful—the values in life that are most important to you. Once you understand your own unique values and align your life accordingly, you can achieve fulfillment in every aspect of your deepening your loving relationships, creating an inspiring career, establishing financial freedom, and tapping into a rich spiritual life.
Dr. Demartini’s provocative thirteen-part questionnaire will reveal to you what you value most. The answers may surprise you! Then, each chapter of this book explains how to align every aspect of your life with your true values, so that you can finally achieve the success that you were capable of all along.
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What is the most important step you can take to achieve the life you’ve always dreamed of? You might think the answer is something like, start saving money, get a better job, find my soul mate , or improve my marriage . Solutions like these might offer temporary satisfaction, but none of them can provide true, lasting fulfillment or help you achieve your unique purpose in life.
The Values Factor shows you how to create a life in which every minute can be inspiring and fulfilling. The first step is to identify what you find most meaningful—the values in life that are most important to you. Once you understand your own unique values and align your life accordingly, you can achieve fulfillment in every aspect of your deepening your loving relationships, creating an inspiring career, establishing financial freedom, and tapping into a rich spiritual life.
Dr. Demartini’s provocative thirteen-part questionnaire will reveal to you what you value most. The answers may surprise you! Then, each chapter of this book explains how to align every aspect of your life with your true values, so that you can finally achieve the success that you were capable of all along.
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400 pages, Paperback
First published September 3, 2013
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About the author
John F. Demartini
70Ìýbooks160ÌýfollowersDr Demartini is considered one of the world's leading authorities on human behavior and personal development. He is the founder of the Demartini Institute, a private research and education organization with a curriculum of over 72 different courses covering multiple aspects of human development.
His trademarked methodologies, the Demartini Method and the Demartini Value Determination, are the culmination of 39 years of cross-disciplinary research and study. His work has been incorporated into human development industries across the world.
Dr Demartini travels 360 days a year to countries all over the globe, sharing his research and findings in all markets and sectors. He is the author of 40 books published in 28 different languages. He has produced over 50 CDs and DVDs covering subjects such as development in relationships, wealth, education and business. Each program is designed to assist people to activate leadership and empower themselves in all seven areas of their lives: Financial, physical, mental, vocational, spiritual, family and social.
His trademarked methodologies, the Demartini Method and the Demartini Value Determination, are the culmination of 39 years of cross-disciplinary research and study. His work has been incorporated into human development industries across the world.
Dr Demartini travels 360 days a year to countries all over the globe, sharing his research and findings in all markets and sectors. He is the author of 40 books published in 28 different languages. He has produced over 50 CDs and DVDs covering subjects such as development in relationships, wealth, education and business. Each program is designed to assist people to activate leadership and empower themselves in all seven areas of their lives: Financial, physical, mental, vocational, spiritual, family and social.
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May 19, 2024
To understand yourself you must understand your values. To understand others you must understand their values. This book is a study of what drives human action which is our unique set of values. It helped me understand why some goals are easy for me to achieve while others seem to be very hard. It also helped me appreciate the people around me and understand why they do what they do.
As with most books, I found it to be overly long but I really enjoyed it. I re-read this book every year as a refresher. Understanding and implementing The Values Factor has changed my life. I am very grateful for this book.
**update - I’ve been read this book 6 times to date. It’s super repetitive but I still love it.**
As with most books, I found it to be overly long but I really enjoyed it. I re-read this book every year as a refresher. Understanding and implementing The Values Factor has changed my life. I am very grateful for this book.
**update - I’ve been read this book 6 times to date. It’s super repetitive but I still love it.**
May 8, 2018
This book is very powerful. In addition to breaking down in simple terms how your life is made up of voids and values, it includes hands-on exercises for determining what you do value, and therefore, what to focus on to create long-lasting happiness. With very simple shifts in perspective, life circumstances can change in profound ways, and this book helps get you there. I would like to re-read this book once per year to help re-evaluate what I value and where I'm at with my goals and dreams since our values are constantly changing. Highly recommended!
July 30, 2018
Life changing for anyone seeking answers to how to unlock thier inner gold. The accompanying Values Test offered at was fantastic.
Dr. Demartni is brilliant and I look forward to reading his other work and seeing him live at the Breakout Event.
Dr. Demartni is brilliant and I look forward to reading his other work and seeing him live at the Breakout Event.
July 14, 2020
It was ok.
Pros: Getting you to really think about what brings value to your life is useful. That's in the first 20% of the book. Also a plus, I enjoyed the stories of his students putting his lessons into practice and seeing positive results.
Cons: It was quite long and repetitive. His reliance on dichotomy was both boring and bizarre; I don't live life in black and white, so reading "addiction" vs "subdiction" was pretty weird, as was "Attention Deficit Disorder" vs "Retention Surplus Order". His last chapter, using the Values Factor to improve wellness, was also bizarre- his example was his student who had diabetes- well, she still has diabetes (and still needs insulin), so I have no idea what his point was there. Did I mention it was long? And *extremely* repetitive? It reminded me of books like "The Count of Monte Cristo" (which started out as a serial novel), where Dumas was paid by the word. Demartini used "highest values" several times, per page, throughout the book.
Summary: The man REALLY likes lists. In order to see a change in your life, you should list (variously) 20, 50, or 2000 answers to the life questions he poses. I mean, it works for him... and I like lists myself... but the guy has an INTENSE love of lists. LONG lists. If that's your thing... you'll like this book.
NOT your thing? Go to . Finish the 10-minute exercise to find your values. Spend a couple days thinking about how your life does, or does not, reflect those values. Think of a few things you could change to tip the balance more in the direction of reflecting your values. Bam. I just saved you a couple weeks of reading. You're welcome!
Pros: Getting you to really think about what brings value to your life is useful. That's in the first 20% of the book. Also a plus, I enjoyed the stories of his students putting his lessons into practice and seeing positive results.
Cons: It was quite long and repetitive. His reliance on dichotomy was both boring and bizarre; I don't live life in black and white, so reading "addiction" vs "subdiction" was pretty weird, as was "Attention Deficit Disorder" vs "Retention Surplus Order". His last chapter, using the Values Factor to improve wellness, was also bizarre- his example was his student who had diabetes- well, she still has diabetes (and still needs insulin), so I have no idea what his point was there. Did I mention it was long? And *extremely* repetitive? It reminded me of books like "The Count of Monte Cristo" (which started out as a serial novel), where Dumas was paid by the word. Demartini used "highest values" several times, per page, throughout the book.
Summary: The man REALLY likes lists. In order to see a change in your life, you should list (variously) 20, 50, or 2000 answers to the life questions he poses. I mean, it works for him... and I like lists myself... but the guy has an INTENSE love of lists. LONG lists. If that's your thing... you'll like this book.
NOT your thing? Go to . Finish the 10-minute exercise to find your values. Spend a couple days thinking about how your life does, or does not, reflect those values. Think of a few things you could change to tip the balance more in the direction of reflecting your values. Bam. I just saved you a couple weeks of reading. You're welcome!
August 22, 2014
If you have felt out of touch with your inner voice/guide too long, this book contains useful exercises and a comfortable storytelling approach to expand understanding.
If you feel like you are already on your path, this book could reinforce your work.
For some, you may find that the book contains nothing original or new to you. This book is not intended to appeal to your intellect and broad capacity for thought. Read it and appreciate it for its simplicity.
If you feel like you are already on your path, this book could reinforce your work.
For some, you may find that the book contains nothing original or new to you. This book is not intended to appeal to your intellect and broad capacity for thought. Read it and appreciate it for its simplicity.
February 11, 2023
3.75 â�
July 7, 2014
This book is one of the best that I have read ever. It is powerful in the common sense way that Dr. John Demartini explains how we are all successful in following our highest values; albeit, we may be following them without our own knowledge. The book explains how that works, and helps us understand our own uniqueness and our unique set of value where no two are alike exactly. At first that makes it clear enough why many don't get along with others, yet goes on to say how to enhance a mutually beneficial sharing by recognizing not only our own, but the highest values of others, then using ways to help each other meet those values in ourselves and in the other at the same time. I sure could have made great use of this book had I been open to it early in life, yet there is always time to change, and that time is always going to be now.
I've bought several copies and passed them out to people just to share a bit of the wealth that I have gained from this great book. I have enjoyed so many of Dr. Demartini's books, and this his latest is the best so far.
I've bought several copies and passed them out to people just to share a bit of the wealth that I have gained from this great book. I have enjoyed so many of Dr. Demartini's books, and this his latest is the best so far.
July 18, 2014
It's okay, I found it a useful tool.
I think it would work great if you are the author, and may be for others, they need to find their own way. Just my impressions.
It's about finding your values and living by them. It's not very useful for actually finding said values, in my experience, but it's ok.
A more realistic book to counterbalance DeMartini's unjustified rationalist optimism that everyone can live by values would be Cal Newport's book on why following your passion is an error, "So Good They Can't Ignore You."
I think it would work great if you are the author, and may be for others, they need to find their own way. Just my impressions.
It's about finding your values and living by them. It's not very useful for actually finding said values, in my experience, but it's ok.
A more realistic book to counterbalance DeMartini's unjustified rationalist optimism that everyone can live by values would be Cal Newport's book on why following your passion is an error, "So Good They Can't Ignore You."
December 14, 2024
Really great book for bringing awareness to what you truly value in life. It highlights things that you are doing (spending your time, attention, filling our house with, talking about) into categories to see what you truly value.
I found this book interesting and very helpful to find out what I wanted to do in life. Having read it a few years ago, it’s interesting to see where I began saying what I valued and what I actually put down to my assumed values & where my life has gone which was my values but lower on the list.
Then, there are some unique exercises , such as writing a statement about how values will improve your life. But not just one statement. It’s about writing as many statements as you can think of to fill multiple pages in order to rewrite your brain to believing deeply that what you truly value can truly happen in your life.
This book was bought as a Christmas gift from one of my first mentors in life and I highly recommend it to others.
I found this book interesting and very helpful to find out what I wanted to do in life. Having read it a few years ago, it’s interesting to see where I began saying what I valued and what I actually put down to my assumed values & where my life has gone which was my values but lower on the list.
Then, there are some unique exercises , such as writing a statement about how values will improve your life. But not just one statement. It’s about writing as many statements as you can think of to fill multiple pages in order to rewrite your brain to believing deeply that what you truly value can truly happen in your life.
This book was bought as a Christmas gift from one of my first mentors in life and I highly recommend it to others.
January 7, 2025
Nemaniau, kad Å¡ita knyga bus man tokia vertinga. Rekomenduoju.
July 11, 2020
Immense, another one for my top 5
October 4, 2024
A 5+ book and I should definitely re-listen in following years!
When your goals don’t align with your core values, you end up "limping" through life, unable to put in the necessary energy and drive. True fulfillment comes when you align your actions with your own highest values, not those dictated by society or others. Often, we adopt values from friends, family, or society, but these aren’t truly our own. Real values are unique, like fingerprints, and come from within.
To discover your real values, write down what you think people around you value and reflect on how these might differ from your own. You should feel free to think about things that might upset or disappoint others—because this can help uncover your true values. What you perceive as lacking in the world often points to what you value most. For example, your personal frustrations and what you feel is missing in the world often reveal what you should pursue.
Each person has different areas where they excel or have a great memory. This often points to their values and can even inform a career path. People who pursue their highest values—whether praised for social or ethical achievements—succeed not because they are imitating others, but because their actions are authentically aligned with their core values. The book emphasizes the importance of identifying the "shoulds" in your life (what society tells you to do) versus the "I'd love to" (your true desires). Key exercises include examining what you make time for, what energizes you, what you spend money on, and what you consistently visualize or talk about. Even tasks or activities we don’t enjoy can be linked to our highest values if we find creative ways to connect them.
It’s crucial to understand that your greatest voids—what you feel is missing in your life—are actually the source of your greatest potential. Challenges are not roadblocks but opportunities to grow and achieve your highest goals. Life isn't just about ease and pleasure; it requires a balance of support and challenge to truly evolve.
In relationships, the key to harmony lies in understanding each other’s highest values. If you value your own values more than your partner’s, you might become self-righteous or expect them to live by your standards. Conversely, if you overvalue your partner’s values, you may find yourself walking on eggshells. The healthiest relationships come when you value each other equally, finding common ground and supporting one another’s growth.
This book encourages exploring the values of both partners and finding connections that motivate action. Rather than settling for compromise, it promotes finding win-win solutions where both partners feel their highest values are met. The goal is to foster dialogues, not monologues, where each partner can see how their own values help fulfill the other’s top values.
The book also stresses that we distribute our "life partner" qualities across different people in our lives, so we don’t need to rely on one person to meet all of our needs.
Pain and suffering are seen as necessary parts of growth when striving for higher values. Embracing these challenges brings us to new levels of skill and fulfillment. Often, parents fail to see the genius in their children because they project their own values onto them, rather than recognizing the child’s unique values.
One of the key takeaways is that success and leadership come when we align our actions with what we are obsessed with learning and growing in. A leader is someone who is most certain of their path, not someone simply following trends. People will only follow those who are deeply certain and aligned with their own values.
Finally, the book highlights an important exercise on grief, showing how we often idealize the past and imagine only things that brought us a dopamine or serotonin rush. By listing both the positive and negative aspects of what we miss, we see that nothing is purely good or bad, and every experience has a balance. Love, too, is a balance of good and bad—acknowledging both allows for deeper gratitude and understanding of relationships.
In summary, the book teaches that challenges help us grow, values shape our lives, and balance is essential for fulfillment in both personal and professional relationships.
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When your goals are not aligned with your highest values then you are limping your life because you do not put the energy in that you would otherwise
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When your values are aligned with Society and Friends and people around you then they are actually not your real values but rather something you think that should be done and your real values are you need to you like your fingerprints and are not aligned with society and other people and really come from yourself
So in a way you should write down your values and think what people around you like and those probably are not your own real values and you should be welcome to think of things that make other people around you angry and disappointed and be totally free to dream up your own
What is lacking and what do you feel liking this creates a word and this creates a value meaning what you feel is missing in the world hides your value to go towards that so my own personal needs Miss keeping the old system in my country
Some people remember all details about shoes and some people remember a lot about psychology or finances so what is the field that you remember most and this is aligned with your values and would be good to turn into a business like for me programming really isn't something I value or remember that functions but I do value creating news stuff and Technology I don't value because I see it as a means not an end
People supporting it themselves and do what they think they ought to do
When someone has high social ethical values then they might be praised a lot by their achievements towards Humanity but those achievements were only possible because they live there highest values which just happened to be beneficial for society but when you try to imitate this without really having those values then your time is never full and your output is never maximum so the first exercise in this book is right down all your social “should and should not� and write down which authority made this rule for you like your family
1) mis mõtted tulevad I SHOULD
2) Mis mõtted I'D LOVE TO
3) Kes Sa oled? You identify yourself with your value: im a traveler, artist Vms.
4) which items you keep close, how do you design surroundings
5) what do you make time for
6) what energies you
7) what do you spend money on
8) what is most organized in your life
9) what areas you most disciplined on doing
10) what do you Visualize most. What outcome
11) internal dialog mostly
12) what do you talk to others, your extrovert topics. What updates you ask friends most often
13) what inspires you, people or actions
14) most consistent long term goals, dominating your world
15) what are you most reliable most
Ja Veel: what lifestyle Sind tõmbab (cheap) Ja mis mitte
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What you feel is the void in the world for you, this you want to fill.
1) what's wrong in your life (or has been).......
Your frustrations, not speaking up. Woman at home controlling etc�
You must see problems as being on the way not in the way. Solvable. They are things that help you grow towards your highest goals and your greatest aspirations.
Life can not be only ease, support and pleasure. You must also have difficulty, challange and pain. Develop and grow. � There has to be balance, to get to higher and higher values.
Your greatest voids create your highest highs.
Kõiki takistusi peame nägema kui lahendatavad� Ja Pikemad sihid pead jaotama chunks et kergem.
Kui lte ema jaoks highest value on ilu, siis ilusad riided lastele on tema armastamise väljendamine, kuigi laste jaoks see on ebameeldiv. Ema peaks väljendama laste armastuse keeles.
Partneri highest values Kui Sina enda omadest hindad�
� A) vähem, siis careless oled, self rightues, expect them to live in your highest values.
� B) rohkem, siis you're walking on eggshells, carefully. Try to live in their highest values. Put them on a pedestal. What is wrong with me, why can't I do it.
� c) võrdselt, siis grow and appreciate each other
(Ja a ja B viscous cycle käiakse korduvalt läbi kuni on common ground c)
Harjutuse eesmärk on teha võimalikult palju seoseid teie mõlema higist values vahel, et motiveerida neid tegema. Siis on dialogs, not monoloogid. Leidke top 3 value. “kuidas minu dedication keskenduda nr 1 Value peale aitab partneri top 3 value täita�. Ja 2 ja 3.
Wow 15 vastust kõik 6 küsimust.
4h25m peal meeldis kuidas toodi võrdlus 3 päevane seksi juhtum hotellis, ning kuidas mees hiljem oma suhteid sellega võrdles. Aga 3 päeva tutvus ei jõua leida negatiivseid asju, seega sellega ei saa ükski suhe võrrelda, tuleb leida miinuseid,meenuta kõik need 50. Ja enda püsi suhte partneris plusse. Meenuta ka need.
We need support and challenge. Kui liiga palju support siis leiad challenge mujalt.
A la peale work trips tuleb romance trip Naisega Venice. Või kallid lõunad asendada äri võimaluse lõuna
LAIAS LAASTUS, MIS MEELDIKS MULLE, MIS MEELDIKS TALLE, KUIDAS MÕLEMA PLATES ARE FILLED.
Communicate so the other person sees this in her highest values.
Oluline et mõlemal on win, mitte kompromiss. Iga asi mõtle välja 10 eri linki kuidas see teema highest value täidab.
We have life partner qualities jaotatud erinevate inimeste vahel. Sul polegi ühte partnerit vaja. Ja siis sa pole nii needy.
Mitte meeldiv tegevus tuleb linkida highest values külge sadat viisi, et see tõmbaks automaatselt
When you are reaching for your highest values then you Embrace that pain and suffering because you know this will bring you on the next level and you will cherish being able to claim higher on your skills needed
Usually parents don't see a Genus in their child because they are not looking for the genius but they are looking for their own highest values in that child and those do not align
Wow ütleb et 200 korda pead vastama küsimustele nagu “miks suurem kasum mu firmal oleks kasulik mu highest values suunas� vms. Hästi palju seoseid tekitada, et tõmbaks.
When you have $1,000 saved and then you hang out with people who have saved $1,000 and you only get to hang out with millionaires when you have saved a million dollars
don't put all your eggs in one basket even if it is your own company
When you don't value your teachings money wise then no one other will value it also so first you have to value your teaching and yourself
Leader is the one who is most ncertain because people follow others who seem certain
You can only become a leader or a teacher in a field where you are obsessed about learning and growing in. Where to you run to learn?
Nobody is loyal to your company, they only work there until highest values are aligned. Even you are not loyal to your company.
The author creates in every seminar and experience where he asks people who are grieving and let them decide who has the biggest tree and then makes an exercise asking about his loss and to list all the good things he misses and in the end the author points out that they are all dopamine related and nobody misses that negative things and then goes on to ask and list new people and situations that have taken its place providing the same emotions and then goes on to a list all the negative things about the positive things that they are missing now to see the whole picture balanced in harmony with that bad not just the good because every trait is neutral until we create a fantasy around it
And when you start to realize that love is not just the good things but both the good and the bad in a person meaning you are also experiencing the bad with a son of gratitude sense of gratitude about everything and you don't see the experience as it should be only good but you know it is whole with the bad and now you have much more meaning when going through that rough things knowing that they are an essential part that makes up the whole experience and if this bad thing wouldn't exist then another bad thing would take its place
With addictions no behavioral pattern is a disease but they are old strategies of getting something so you must write 200 things what you are getting from something and then even more authorities how you can get those things from somewhere else, viable alternatives.
When your goals don’t align with your core values, you end up "limping" through life, unable to put in the necessary energy and drive. True fulfillment comes when you align your actions with your own highest values, not those dictated by society or others. Often, we adopt values from friends, family, or society, but these aren’t truly our own. Real values are unique, like fingerprints, and come from within.
To discover your real values, write down what you think people around you value and reflect on how these might differ from your own. You should feel free to think about things that might upset or disappoint others—because this can help uncover your true values. What you perceive as lacking in the world often points to what you value most. For example, your personal frustrations and what you feel is missing in the world often reveal what you should pursue.
Each person has different areas where they excel or have a great memory. This often points to their values and can even inform a career path. People who pursue their highest values—whether praised for social or ethical achievements—succeed not because they are imitating others, but because their actions are authentically aligned with their core values. The book emphasizes the importance of identifying the "shoulds" in your life (what society tells you to do) versus the "I'd love to" (your true desires). Key exercises include examining what you make time for, what energizes you, what you spend money on, and what you consistently visualize or talk about. Even tasks or activities we don’t enjoy can be linked to our highest values if we find creative ways to connect them.
It’s crucial to understand that your greatest voids—what you feel is missing in your life—are actually the source of your greatest potential. Challenges are not roadblocks but opportunities to grow and achieve your highest goals. Life isn't just about ease and pleasure; it requires a balance of support and challenge to truly evolve.
In relationships, the key to harmony lies in understanding each other’s highest values. If you value your own values more than your partner’s, you might become self-righteous or expect them to live by your standards. Conversely, if you overvalue your partner’s values, you may find yourself walking on eggshells. The healthiest relationships come when you value each other equally, finding common ground and supporting one another’s growth.
This book encourages exploring the values of both partners and finding connections that motivate action. Rather than settling for compromise, it promotes finding win-win solutions where both partners feel their highest values are met. The goal is to foster dialogues, not monologues, where each partner can see how their own values help fulfill the other’s top values.
The book also stresses that we distribute our "life partner" qualities across different people in our lives, so we don’t need to rely on one person to meet all of our needs.
Pain and suffering are seen as necessary parts of growth when striving for higher values. Embracing these challenges brings us to new levels of skill and fulfillment. Often, parents fail to see the genius in their children because they project their own values onto them, rather than recognizing the child’s unique values.
One of the key takeaways is that success and leadership come when we align our actions with what we are obsessed with learning and growing in. A leader is someone who is most certain of their path, not someone simply following trends. People will only follow those who are deeply certain and aligned with their own values.
Finally, the book highlights an important exercise on grief, showing how we often idealize the past and imagine only things that brought us a dopamine or serotonin rush. By listing both the positive and negative aspects of what we miss, we see that nothing is purely good or bad, and every experience has a balance. Love, too, is a balance of good and bad—acknowledging both allows for deeper gratitude and understanding of relationships.
In summary, the book teaches that challenges help us grow, values shape our lives, and balance is essential for fulfillment in both personal and professional relationships.
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When your goals are not aligned with your highest values then you are limping your life because you do not put the energy in that you would otherwise
�
When your values are aligned with Society and Friends and people around you then they are actually not your real values but rather something you think that should be done and your real values are you need to you like your fingerprints and are not aligned with society and other people and really come from yourself
So in a way you should write down your values and think what people around you like and those probably are not your own real values and you should be welcome to think of things that make other people around you angry and disappointed and be totally free to dream up your own
What is lacking and what do you feel liking this creates a word and this creates a value meaning what you feel is missing in the world hides your value to go towards that so my own personal needs Miss keeping the old system in my country
Some people remember all details about shoes and some people remember a lot about psychology or finances so what is the field that you remember most and this is aligned with your values and would be good to turn into a business like for me programming really isn't something I value or remember that functions but I do value creating news stuff and Technology I don't value because I see it as a means not an end
People supporting it themselves and do what they think they ought to do
When someone has high social ethical values then they might be praised a lot by their achievements towards Humanity but those achievements were only possible because they live there highest values which just happened to be beneficial for society but when you try to imitate this without really having those values then your time is never full and your output is never maximum so the first exercise in this book is right down all your social “should and should not� and write down which authority made this rule for you like your family
1) mis mõtted tulevad I SHOULD
2) Mis mõtted I'D LOVE TO
3) Kes Sa oled? You identify yourself with your value: im a traveler, artist Vms.
4) which items you keep close, how do you design surroundings
5) what do you make time for
6) what energies you
7) what do you spend money on
8) what is most organized in your life
9) what areas you most disciplined on doing
10) what do you Visualize most. What outcome
11) internal dialog mostly
12) what do you talk to others, your extrovert topics. What updates you ask friends most often
13) what inspires you, people or actions
14) most consistent long term goals, dominating your world
15) what are you most reliable most
Ja Veel: what lifestyle Sind tõmbab (cheap) Ja mis mitte
�
What you feel is the void in the world for you, this you want to fill.
1) what's wrong in your life (or has been).......
Your frustrations, not speaking up. Woman at home controlling etc�
You must see problems as being on the way not in the way. Solvable. They are things that help you grow towards your highest goals and your greatest aspirations.
Life can not be only ease, support and pleasure. You must also have difficulty, challange and pain. Develop and grow. � There has to be balance, to get to higher and higher values.
Your greatest voids create your highest highs.
Kõiki takistusi peame nägema kui lahendatavad� Ja Pikemad sihid pead jaotama chunks et kergem.
Kui lte ema jaoks highest value on ilu, siis ilusad riided lastele on tema armastamise väljendamine, kuigi laste jaoks see on ebameeldiv. Ema peaks väljendama laste armastuse keeles.
Partneri highest values Kui Sina enda omadest hindad�
� A) vähem, siis careless oled, self rightues, expect them to live in your highest values.
� B) rohkem, siis you're walking on eggshells, carefully. Try to live in their highest values. Put them on a pedestal. What is wrong with me, why can't I do it.
� c) võrdselt, siis grow and appreciate each other
(Ja a ja B viscous cycle käiakse korduvalt läbi kuni on common ground c)
Harjutuse eesmärk on teha võimalikult palju seoseid teie mõlema higist values vahel, et motiveerida neid tegema. Siis on dialogs, not monoloogid. Leidke top 3 value. “kuidas minu dedication keskenduda nr 1 Value peale aitab partneri top 3 value täita�. Ja 2 ja 3.
Wow 15 vastust kõik 6 küsimust.
4h25m peal meeldis kuidas toodi võrdlus 3 päevane seksi juhtum hotellis, ning kuidas mees hiljem oma suhteid sellega võrdles. Aga 3 päeva tutvus ei jõua leida negatiivseid asju, seega sellega ei saa ükski suhe võrrelda, tuleb leida miinuseid,meenuta kõik need 50. Ja enda püsi suhte partneris plusse. Meenuta ka need.
We need support and challenge. Kui liiga palju support siis leiad challenge mujalt.
A la peale work trips tuleb romance trip Naisega Venice. Või kallid lõunad asendada äri võimaluse lõuna
LAIAS LAASTUS, MIS MEELDIKS MULLE, MIS MEELDIKS TALLE, KUIDAS MÕLEMA PLATES ARE FILLED.
Communicate so the other person sees this in her highest values.
Oluline et mõlemal on win, mitte kompromiss. Iga asi mõtle välja 10 eri linki kuidas see teema highest value täidab.
We have life partner qualities jaotatud erinevate inimeste vahel. Sul polegi ühte partnerit vaja. Ja siis sa pole nii needy.
Mitte meeldiv tegevus tuleb linkida highest values külge sadat viisi, et see tõmbaks automaatselt
When you are reaching for your highest values then you Embrace that pain and suffering because you know this will bring you on the next level and you will cherish being able to claim higher on your skills needed
Usually parents don't see a Genus in their child because they are not looking for the genius but they are looking for their own highest values in that child and those do not align
Wow ütleb et 200 korda pead vastama küsimustele nagu “miks suurem kasum mu firmal oleks kasulik mu highest values suunas� vms. Hästi palju seoseid tekitada, et tõmbaks.
When you have $1,000 saved and then you hang out with people who have saved $1,000 and you only get to hang out with millionaires when you have saved a million dollars
don't put all your eggs in one basket even if it is your own company
When you don't value your teachings money wise then no one other will value it also so first you have to value your teaching and yourself
Leader is the one who is most ncertain because people follow others who seem certain
You can only become a leader or a teacher in a field where you are obsessed about learning and growing in. Where to you run to learn?
Nobody is loyal to your company, they only work there until highest values are aligned. Even you are not loyal to your company.
The author creates in every seminar and experience where he asks people who are grieving and let them decide who has the biggest tree and then makes an exercise asking about his loss and to list all the good things he misses and in the end the author points out that they are all dopamine related and nobody misses that negative things and then goes on to ask and list new people and situations that have taken its place providing the same emotions and then goes on to a list all the negative things about the positive things that they are missing now to see the whole picture balanced in harmony with that bad not just the good because every trait is neutral until we create a fantasy around it
And when you start to realize that love is not just the good things but both the good and the bad in a person meaning you are also experiencing the bad with a son of gratitude sense of gratitude about everything and you don't see the experience as it should be only good but you know it is whole with the bad and now you have much more meaning when going through that rough things knowing that they are an essential part that makes up the whole experience and if this bad thing wouldn't exist then another bad thing would take its place
With addictions no behavioral pattern is a disease but they are old strategies of getting something so you must write 200 things what you are getting from something and then even more authorities how you can get those things from somewhere else, viable alternatives.
November 20, 2014
Demartini has good insight into values, especially when relating to others. His writing style is reminiscent of motivational speakers or podcasts rather than literature. It irritated me that he claims to value research and writing, but he rarely cites anything and he writes like a person speaks. But personal qualms aside, his ideas are insightful and helpful. He provides anecdotal stories to serve as proof, while I don't buy it as proof for the advice, they do serve as proof for his genuine concern for the rest of humanity. In a world of cold wisdom and uncaring knowledge, he gives a unique positive warmth to my library.
October 11, 2020
It’s a bit repetitive. Basically, know your highest values and align that to your life.
He has about 10 questions to help flesh it out.
I found his idea of values coming from voids more powerful though.
For example, what do you not have in your like that you want. From voids you can find your hidden values.
Always connect your highest values to your goals or you won’t be motivated.
He has about 10 questions to help flesh it out.
I found his idea of values coming from voids more powerful though.
For example, what do you not have in your like that you want. From voids you can find your hidden values.
Always connect your highest values to your goals or you won’t be motivated.
January 13, 2020
I always enjoy reading good books, great books and then there are books that are life changing... not because they are discovering something new , but because the concept that its explained simply resonates with your life and who you are at this very moment , so it’s easy to understand and apply the learning. � Aja!! Moments � and “now I get it�
This are the changing books in my life .
This are the changing books in my life .
March 6, 2022
This book seems like a 5000 words school assignment where you have repeat two or three nain ideas over and over to met the requirements.
I won't deny the necessity of making a list with your top values (which I did and worked out pretty well), but I suspect this guy of being a fraud. Do yourself a favour and skip the book.
I won't deny the necessity of making a list with your top values (which I did and worked out pretty well), but I suspect this guy of being a fraud. Do yourself a favour and skip the book.
August 25, 2024
Values!
Hi!
I hope you are all doing well.
How are you spending your bank Holiday?
I’d like to share with me the thoughts from my latest read.
Yesterday, I completed “The Values Factor� by Dr. John Demartini. For those who doesn’t know him he contributed along with other very successful people in creation of the book and movie “The Secret� by Rhonda Bryne.
The book made me think about my true values and I’m still thinking now as writing this review.
I understood from the book that I need to align my life goals with my true values. This alignment will bring greater fulfilment, reduce stress and internal conflict because I would live authentically.
Prioritisation is a key aspect discussed in the book and should be respected because if you don’t do the important jobs at the beginning, you will fill that time with unimportant tasks.
Demartini differentiates between being inspired and being motivated. When you’re living in alignment with your highest values, you’re naturally inspired and energized. In contrast, if you’re trying to pursue goals that are not aligned with your values, you might need external motivation to keep going.
This book made me appreciate how to understand others. Recognizing other people unique set of values helps in understanding and communicating better with them. This improves relationships, whether personal or professional, as you can appreciate and respect others' values even if they differ from my own.
I came to the conclusion that if I don’t find my true values, I will end up spending too much time helping other people achieve their true values. Don’t take me wrong, is good to help other people and friends achieve their highest values, however this act should be balanced and this way we’ll achieve the harmonisation much desired, by helping each other.
In life everything is balanced; we can’t have pleasure without the pain negative without positive bad without good we need to understand that and to leave the emotions aside when taking decisions and taking the life as it comes. There are some great examples in the book.
By setting goals that align with your highest values, you’re more likely to achieve them because they resonate deeply with what you truly care about. This approach ensures that your goals are meaningful and sustainable in the long term.
Now, I have a question to you. What are your true values?
Hi!
I hope you are all doing well.
How are you spending your bank Holiday?
I’d like to share with me the thoughts from my latest read.
Yesterday, I completed “The Values Factor� by Dr. John Demartini. For those who doesn’t know him he contributed along with other very successful people in creation of the book and movie “The Secret� by Rhonda Bryne.
The book made me think about my true values and I’m still thinking now as writing this review.
I understood from the book that I need to align my life goals with my true values. This alignment will bring greater fulfilment, reduce stress and internal conflict because I would live authentically.
Prioritisation is a key aspect discussed in the book and should be respected because if you don’t do the important jobs at the beginning, you will fill that time with unimportant tasks.
Demartini differentiates between being inspired and being motivated. When you’re living in alignment with your highest values, you’re naturally inspired and energized. In contrast, if you’re trying to pursue goals that are not aligned with your values, you might need external motivation to keep going.
This book made me appreciate how to understand others. Recognizing other people unique set of values helps in understanding and communicating better with them. This improves relationships, whether personal or professional, as you can appreciate and respect others' values even if they differ from my own.
I came to the conclusion that if I don’t find my true values, I will end up spending too much time helping other people achieve their true values. Don’t take me wrong, is good to help other people and friends achieve their highest values, however this act should be balanced and this way we’ll achieve the harmonisation much desired, by helping each other.
In life everything is balanced; we can’t have pleasure without the pain negative without positive bad without good we need to understand that and to leave the emotions aside when taking decisions and taking the life as it comes. There are some great examples in the book.
By setting goals that align with your highest values, you’re more likely to achieve them because they resonate deeply with what you truly care about. This approach ensures that your goals are meaningful and sustainable in the long term.
Now, I have a question to you. What are your true values?
January 3, 2023
Did not finish - August 2022.
Heard someone mentioning this book was helpful for them in a podcast and got audiobook from local library. Wow, this book is trash, though it only becomes entirely apparent a little ways in, since the exercises themselves seem fine (at least at the point I stopped) but the ideological undercurrents are appalling and propped up by tossing around "science" irresponsibly.
First hour of audiobook was just an advertisement without clear scientific backing for why this stuff works (TM) -- a little bit of hype at the beginning of a book like this is fine, but the amount of pages devoted to it was excessive.
But from there we quickly get to increasingly questionable anecdotes and pseudo science once we get past the lengthy intro.
In one early example, the author blames people's illnesses on their body trying to call them to their highest values!!! BULL. And continues to try to use pseudo science to justify it, noting that challenges cause "mylinzation" in the brain if people rise to those challenges, and keeps going on from there with "physiology" and "predator/prey" nonsense.
The author uses terms like “law of nature� but basically just skirts around law of attraction with all this.
Mindset matters, but sometimes people get sick and their highest values have nothing to do with it. Sometimes people have bad luck, and that's the real "law of nature." There are lots of better ways to change your mindset to help you pursue changes to your life than the garbage ideas propping up this book.
The early exercises don't seem like they're bad -- think about what you feel like you "should" do and where that message is coming from, reflect on what you love and find inspiring, identify values and revisit quarterly -- but the surrounding text and what it promises are a toxic ideology to internalize, and nearly identical exercises are out there in the internet and so many other self help books too (e.g. not so different from the exercises in Atomic Habits).
Heard someone mentioning this book was helpful for them in a podcast and got audiobook from local library. Wow, this book is trash, though it only becomes entirely apparent a little ways in, since the exercises themselves seem fine (at least at the point I stopped) but the ideological undercurrents are appalling and propped up by tossing around "science" irresponsibly.
First hour of audiobook was just an advertisement without clear scientific backing for why this stuff works (TM) -- a little bit of hype at the beginning of a book like this is fine, but the amount of pages devoted to it was excessive.
But from there we quickly get to increasingly questionable anecdotes and pseudo science once we get past the lengthy intro.
In one early example, the author blames people's illnesses on their body trying to call them to their highest values!!! BULL. And continues to try to use pseudo science to justify it, noting that challenges cause "mylinzation" in the brain if people rise to those challenges, and keeps going on from there with "physiology" and "predator/prey" nonsense.
The author uses terms like “law of nature� but basically just skirts around law of attraction with all this.
Mindset matters, but sometimes people get sick and their highest values have nothing to do with it. Sometimes people have bad luck, and that's the real "law of nature." There are lots of better ways to change your mindset to help you pursue changes to your life than the garbage ideas propping up this book.
The early exercises don't seem like they're bad -- think about what you feel like you "should" do and where that message is coming from, reflect on what you love and find inspiring, identify values and revisit quarterly -- but the surrounding text and what it promises are a toxic ideology to internalize, and nearly identical exercises are out there in the internet and so many other self help books too (e.g. not so different from the exercises in Atomic Habits).
October 6, 2024
I wasn’t expecting to love this one so much. It was mentioned in an off hand comment in a podcast I was listening to, and it just happened to be available on hoopla so I decided to give it a try.
I listened to it, and then got a physical copy on thrift books because I want to go back through and listen while reading and doing all of the exercises.
I’ve been struggling with clarity for the future lately and this was honestly a god send.
I feel like everyone would benefit from this book, the whole thing is so on point.
My only complaint is the narrator in the audio book has the worst infection, he sounds like a snotty brat, which was really off putting, but after I worked on ignoring it, I was able to move past it. That had nothing to do with the quality of the content.
5/5 highly recommend.
I listened to it, and then got a physical copy on thrift books because I want to go back through and listen while reading and doing all of the exercises.
I’ve been struggling with clarity for the future lately and this was honestly a god send.
I feel like everyone would benefit from this book, the whole thing is so on point.
My only complaint is the narrator in the audio book has the worst infection, he sounds like a snotty brat, which was really off putting, but after I worked on ignoring it, I was able to move past it. That had nothing to do with the quality of the content.
5/5 highly recommend.
July 7, 2023
This book made a lot of sense; Demartini helps you to define your highest values - the things that motivate you to succeed - it might be giving your kids a great life or helping people to excel. He shows you how to look at tasks you hate and link them to your highest values. He covers a lot of key life areas like finances, health and relationships. I did learn from this book but it’s better if you buy the book snd do all of the exercises - they’re quite demanding eg listing 200 things you like about your job/partner/ kids etc. However at the back of my mind I kept thinking - here’s another white American male trying to tell me the best way to succeed! And when he mentioned Donald Trump as a success I vomited into a bucket 🤣🤮
August 25, 2024
The actual content of the book was interesting, and the exercises the author has you do to identify your values and so on make a lot of sense and are clear and easy to follow. But I was REALLY turned off by him spending 30 pages of introduction talking all about how amazing he was and that it was because he was living his values (so we can, too!) It felt very self-aggrandizing and almost like a grift. But I actually loved the chapter about how to identify what my actual highest values are (not just what I think they are). I didn't really agree with his premise that our "voids" (ie problems, lack) is us drawing opportunities into our lives to live our values, because there are just things you don't have any say in what happens to you. I didn't finish, but might go back later, I don't know.
November 26, 2017
The first part of the book was helpful in understanding how I could identify my highest values, as well as figuring out ways to link my activities to those values. This is definitely a great thought experiment and one that has been helpful to me already. The rest of the book became a little repetitive and even a bit "woo-woo" for my liking. I also noticed how prominently the author referenced his other training courses which detracted from the insightful messages and ideas in the book.
May 18, 2023
Not so many people read this book, perhaps because its cover isn't interesting, but it's solemnly marvelous. Some reviewers state that it's extremely repetitive, yet I genuinely wanna say that it's Meaningfully repetitive. I have read about more than 100 self help books since 10 years ago, including Think and Grow Rich, The Power of Now & The Untethered Soul, & still The Values Factor is to me the top three in terms of its life-changing capacity. Try it & you may never regret it.
June 14, 2020
I finally figured it out the detail behind my driving force, and how to apply it to my life. Hard work to get to the truth of what really drives, and worth this journey! I am ecstatic that my life is falling into place/I am accepting it because I am now working to my highest values. I have no shame in my declaration of my values.
December 23, 2020
I highly recommend this book for anyone who wants to discover their Highest Values, especially if they are confused about why their results do not match what they think their values are. Dr John Demartini gives step by step instructions on how to find what you really love, why it may be different from what you `say' you love.
November 17, 2023
This is a highly practical book. I will be re reading it in the future. Perhaps many times. It is hopeful and inspiring, and cuts the fluff, explaining it's theories and practices plainly and simply. For anyone who wants to understand human behaviour, themselves, their customers, or their employees, this book is a must read
August 2, 2021
Great insights on being aware and understanding your highest values - true wisdom comes from a balanced mind, seeing and appreciating things just the way they are, embracing both the joy and pain of life. Enjoyed the different perspectives offered by the author.
March 16, 2022
This book is exceptional!!! This book is definitely a read for everyone and definitely adds fulfillment and Value (no pun intended) to your life. This I recommend highly to anyone looking to exceed in every part of their life from mindset to success and relationship.
September 2, 2022
This book helped me narrow down some major life decisions. It's part workbook and full of what's important in life, to you! We're all different and different things make us happy; this is a must read for anyone feeling 'off' in life.
September 13, 2022
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