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Cómo Lidiar con un Narcisista
Este libro, que ha sido uno de los más vendidos, también está disponible en inglés, “How to Handle a Narcissist�
# Autora con libros más vendidos en Amazon acerca del narcisismo y dolor por un padre.#
"Cómo lidiar con un narcisista" es una guÃa informada para ayudarte a entender, lidiar y vivir con narcisistas extremos. Este enfoque espectral del narcisismo combina las últimas investigaciones con historias de la vida real y consejos prácticos.
La investigación muestra que la gran mayorÃa de las personas muestran tendencias de autocentrismo en un grado u otro, y que estas tendencias mantienen y promueven una autoestima saludable. Sin embargo, el abuso emocional y la manipulación no están dentro de los lÃmites de las reacciones narcisistas saludables. A medida que avanzamos en la escala del narcisismo hacia el narcisismo extremo, los comportamientos narcisistas comienzan a dañar a los que rodean al narcisista y, a menudo, hay efectos a largo plazo.
Esta guÃa tiene como objetivo proporcionar al lector suficiente objetividad para desconectarse de un narcisista perjudicial, crear conciencia y conocimiento sobre la situación y decidir qué hacer desde una posición de claridad fundamentada. Ya sea que la persona narcisista en tu vida sea tu pareja, familiar, amigo(a) o compañero de trabajo, este libro te ayudará a comprender lo que necesitas hacer para recuperar el control de tus lÃmites, a fin de guiar la relación en la dirección que sea mejor para ti y para los demás.
Los narcisistas pueden hacer que nuestras vidas sean un infierno, pero al comprenderlas y seguir unos simples pasos podemos recuperar el control de nuestros lÃmites y empoderarnos al tratar con estas personalidades dañinas.
Aquà hay una vista previa de lo que aprenderás ...
Aprenderás a identificar y diferenciar entre narcisismo saludable y extremo, y determinar cómo el narcisista en tu vida clasifica para ambos
Descubrirás cómo el narcisismo puede considerarse una dependencia del suministro narcisista, reflejando una dependencia al alcohol u otras drogas
Aprenderás a tratar con narcisistas en diferentes puntos del espectro narcisista, en lugar de solo aquellos que tienen un trastorno de personalidad
Descubrirás lo que el narcisista quiere de ti
Descubrirás métodos prácticos basados en la investigación para hacer la vida más fácil con el narcisista
Leerás sobre las experiencias de otras personas con narcisistas y lo que aprendieron posteriormente
Mira lo que otros dicen ...
"Este libro fue realmente fácil de leer y evitó la culpa, la vergüenza y la retórica de la etiqueta que se ve cuando se lee acerca de los narcisistas. Me pareció muy útil ver al narcisista en mi vida como una persona más y por qué estaba siendo tan difÃcil. Solo entonces pude lidiar con ello desde un lugar mucho más tranquilo. Realmente útil" - S. Goldberg
"Compré este libro para ayudarme a decidir qué hacer con mi madre narcisista. Voy a probar las técnicas y ver si podemos tener una relación, realmente esperando que funcionen" - M.
# Autora con libros más vendidos en Amazon acerca del narcisismo y dolor por un padre.#
"Cómo lidiar con un narcisista" es una guÃa informada para ayudarte a entender, lidiar y vivir con narcisistas extremos. Este enfoque espectral del narcisismo combina las últimas investigaciones con historias de la vida real y consejos prácticos.
La investigación muestra que la gran mayorÃa de las personas muestran tendencias de autocentrismo en un grado u otro, y que estas tendencias mantienen y promueven una autoestima saludable. Sin embargo, el abuso emocional y la manipulación no están dentro de los lÃmites de las reacciones narcisistas saludables. A medida que avanzamos en la escala del narcisismo hacia el narcisismo extremo, los comportamientos narcisistas comienzan a dañar a los que rodean al narcisista y, a menudo, hay efectos a largo plazo.
Esta guÃa tiene como objetivo proporcionar al lector suficiente objetividad para desconectarse de un narcisista perjudicial, crear conciencia y conocimiento sobre la situación y decidir qué hacer desde una posición de claridad fundamentada. Ya sea que la persona narcisista en tu vida sea tu pareja, familiar, amigo(a) o compañero de trabajo, este libro te ayudará a comprender lo que necesitas hacer para recuperar el control de tus lÃmites, a fin de guiar la relación en la dirección que sea mejor para ti y para los demás.
Los narcisistas pueden hacer que nuestras vidas sean un infierno, pero al comprenderlas y seguir unos simples pasos podemos recuperar el control de nuestros lÃmites y empoderarnos al tratar con estas personalidades dañinas.
Aquà hay una vista previa de lo que aprenderás ...
Aprenderás a identificar y diferenciar entre narcisismo saludable y extremo, y determinar cómo el narcisista en tu vida clasifica para ambos
Descubrirás cómo el narcisismo puede considerarse una dependencia del suministro narcisista, reflejando una dependencia al alcohol u otras drogas
Aprenderás a tratar con narcisistas en diferentes puntos del espectro narcisista, en lugar de solo aquellos que tienen un trastorno de personalidad
Descubrirás lo que el narcisista quiere de ti
Descubrirás métodos prácticos basados en la investigación para hacer la vida más fácil con el narcisista
Leerás sobre las experiencias de otras personas con narcisistas y lo que aprendieron posteriormente
Mira lo que otros dicen ...
"Este libro fue realmente fácil de leer y evitó la culpa, la vergüenza y la retórica de la etiqueta que se ve cuando se lee acerca de los narcisistas. Me pareció muy útil ver al narcisista en mi vida como una persona más y por qué estaba siendo tan difÃcil. Solo entonces pude lidiar con ello desde un lugar mucho más tranquilo. Realmente útil" - S. Goldberg
"Compré este libro para ayudarme a decidir qué hacer con mi madre narcisista. Voy a probar las técnicas y ver si podemos tener una relación, realmente esperando que funcionen" - M.
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Theresa Jackson
13Ìýbooks109ÌýfollowersIn 2016, I decided to use my Master's degree in clinical research, and my experience of writing medical and scientific materials, for something good. I quit my corporate job in medical communications (producing materials that solely benefited pharmaceutical companies) and started writing to help people.
It was immensely scary at first, but by sticking with my personal brand of evidence-based, scientific research, translated into "human" language, my whole world changed. I became location independent and discovered a new, immensely rewarding world of giving other people information that could potentially really make a difference in their lives.
My first book, "Loss of a Parent," focused on helping others to grieve for their parents. I lost my father in 2007 and found the grieving process difficult. Eventually I read a book on the subject, which helped immensely. I realized that despite grief for a parent being almost universally experienced by most adults at some point, little had been written on the subject. This was the catalyst for my personal change, and it took years for me to heed the call. I'm so glad I did!
"How to Handle a Narcissist," uses a similar blend of thoroughly researched, cutting-edge theory, and combines this with a range of case studies to provide an informed and objective approach to narcissism, with a human touch. I worked hard to avoid tapping into the usual stigma and negative rhetoric around narcissists, to provide the reader with greater insight and understanding, without bolstering their anger or pain.
As well as my Master's degree in clinical research I have a Bachelor's degree in physics with astrophysics. Half of my childhood was spent in the Bahamas before I returned to England, studied and traveled the world. After several years spent working in South Korea, Spain, and the Netherlands, I returned to London where I worked for five years serving pharmaceutical companies in healthcare communications agencies. Having become location independent, I now spend much of my time in Italy and finally love my life again- something I whole-heartedly believe everyone deserves to do.
It was immensely scary at first, but by sticking with my personal brand of evidence-based, scientific research, translated into "human" language, my whole world changed. I became location independent and discovered a new, immensely rewarding world of giving other people information that could potentially really make a difference in their lives.
My first book, "Loss of a Parent," focused on helping others to grieve for their parents. I lost my father in 2007 and found the grieving process difficult. Eventually I read a book on the subject, which helped immensely. I realized that despite grief for a parent being almost universally experienced by most adults at some point, little had been written on the subject. This was the catalyst for my personal change, and it took years for me to heed the call. I'm so glad I did!
"How to Handle a Narcissist," uses a similar blend of thoroughly researched, cutting-edge theory, and combines this with a range of case studies to provide an informed and objective approach to narcissism, with a human touch. I worked hard to avoid tapping into the usual stigma and negative rhetoric around narcissists, to provide the reader with greater insight and understanding, without bolstering their anger or pain.
As well as my Master's degree in clinical research I have a Bachelor's degree in physics with astrophysics. Half of my childhood was spent in the Bahamas before I returned to England, studied and traveled the world. After several years spent working in South Korea, Spain, and the Netherlands, I returned to London where I worked for five years serving pharmaceutical companies in healthcare communications agencies. Having become location independent, I now spend much of my time in Italy and finally love my life again- something I whole-heartedly believe everyone deserves to do.
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September 7, 2021
I was wrong.
I thought I had a basic understanding of what it means to be a narcissist and—here I am so embarrassed for me—I was neither particularly empathetic nor sympathetic to the why. Which is not only disappointing, but stupidly hypocritical. My feathers will ruffle whenever I hear a misunderstanding about clinical depression stated as a fact.
Without rebuff, Ms. Jackson brings the facts. For example, we are all somewhere on the narcissistic scale. At the top of that scale looms Narcissistic Personality Disorder. A lofty sense of self and need to be admired are typical characteristics of NPD. For everyone else, personality traits are developed to handle narcissistic tendencies.
To me, this is the quintessential “How To� story. I appreciated Ms. Jackson’s straightforward explanations and I love that she worked so hard to help us understand that, while it may seem quicker and more effective to go through life with a yes-or-no/black-or-white view, it is actually inaccurate.
The case-studies, assessments and apt advice on understanding and associating with a person high on the narcissistic scale are invaluable. I am amazed by all that I learned in this quick, easy-to-follow guide and, although humbled, I truly feel that I will behave better.
This review was written by jv poore for “my� students and Buried Under Books, with huge thanks to the author for providing a copy for my favorite classroom library.
I thought I had a basic understanding of what it means to be a narcissist and—here I am so embarrassed for me—I was neither particularly empathetic nor sympathetic to the why. Which is not only disappointing, but stupidly hypocritical. My feathers will ruffle whenever I hear a misunderstanding about clinical depression stated as a fact.
Without rebuff, Ms. Jackson brings the facts. For example, we are all somewhere on the narcissistic scale. At the top of that scale looms Narcissistic Personality Disorder. A lofty sense of self and need to be admired are typical characteristics of NPD. For everyone else, personality traits are developed to handle narcissistic tendencies.
To me, this is the quintessential “How To� story. I appreciated Ms. Jackson’s straightforward explanations and I love that she worked so hard to help us understand that, while it may seem quicker and more effective to go through life with a yes-or-no/black-or-white view, it is actually inaccurate.
The case-studies, assessments and apt advice on understanding and associating with a person high on the narcissistic scale are invaluable. I am amazed by all that I learned in this quick, easy-to-follow guide and, although humbled, I truly feel that I will behave better.
This review was written by jv poore for “my� students and Buried Under Books, with huge thanks to the author for providing a copy for my favorite classroom library.
May 22, 2021
I received a free copy of this book in exchange for a honest review.
This is a great book. As much as this book informative, it is just as easy to ready and understand. I one of the things I never realised is how dangerous a extreme Narcissistic personality.
The book starts with what it narcissistic personality entails. The scariest part of this is for me, that I had not realised, was the lack of empathy. Which makes sense if someone is so fixated on themselves they would not even consider other people's feelings but to get what the need from them.
However the book also does into detail about "healthy" traits associated with Narcissism. Such as self-confidence but not overconfidence. Wanting to be the best is healthy and necessary to succeed in many thing in life, but to make others fail to make yourself seem more successful is considered wrong by everyone but a Narcissist.
The book also contains a two tests for narcissustic traits. These were were done very well to show tgat narcisism is not just black and white. There are also some case studies of people who have been through narcissistic relationships. As well as a bit of a survival guide of how to deal with narcissustic people, if cutting them out of your life is not an option.
The most important message of this book is if someone is being abused, they need to do what they need to, to remove themselves from it. Also that there is help available for them. A number of organisations are listed in this book as well as a checklist of what constitutes abuse, be it physical or emotional.
This is a great book short but informative and insightful. It will change the way I look, think and deal with certain people.
This is a great book. As much as this book informative, it is just as easy to ready and understand. I one of the things I never realised is how dangerous a extreme Narcissistic personality.
The book starts with what it narcissistic personality entails. The scariest part of this is for me, that I had not realised, was the lack of empathy. Which makes sense if someone is so fixated on themselves they would not even consider other people's feelings but to get what the need from them.
However the book also does into detail about "healthy" traits associated with Narcissism. Such as self-confidence but not overconfidence. Wanting to be the best is healthy and necessary to succeed in many thing in life, but to make others fail to make yourself seem more successful is considered wrong by everyone but a Narcissist.
The book also contains a two tests for narcissustic traits. These were were done very well to show tgat narcisism is not just black and white. There are also some case studies of people who have been through narcissistic relationships. As well as a bit of a survival guide of how to deal with narcissustic people, if cutting them out of your life is not an option.
The most important message of this book is if someone is being abused, they need to do what they need to, to remove themselves from it. Also that there is help available for them. A number of organisations are listed in this book as well as a checklist of what constitutes abuse, be it physical or emotional.
This is a great book short but informative and insightful. It will change the way I look, think and deal with certain people.
April 10, 2019
In the same way that people now speak about being on the autism “spectrum�, this book shows that narcissists also have a spectrum from mild to full blown Narcissist Personality Disorder. The book does not purport to tell you how to change a narcissist (nigh on impossible), but how to understand and handle them, thereby protecting yourself.
Jackson shows us that everyone has a bit of narcissist tendencies. And that having those tendencies doesn’t necessarily mean you lack empathy. She provides two tests to show where people score on the spectrum. It’s definitely edifying to take one answering for the person you suspect of being extreme and another as yourself.
I don't pretend to know if her theory about dopamine levels is true or whether comparing narcissism to another addictive problem such as drugs or alcohol makes sense. It doesn’t really matter.
Where the book does well is reminding us things aren’t black or white and especially with people. There are multiple shades of gray and each person is truly unique. For example, she states that the claim that narcissist people can’t love is over-simplified. She also details certain subtypes of extreme or unhealthy narcissists, which was helpful. Over and over again, she reminds us that “diagnostic criteria are useful for identifying a general sense of how someone may think and act in the world but labels garnered from a few questions on a list will never capture the complexities of a human being.�
Of course, the section everyone wants to get to is how to handle a narcissist. Here, I felt there was contradictory advice. Initially, we are told to be prepared to walk away or take a temporary break. Later, we are told not to reject them. Is a narcissist really going to see a break as anything but rejection? The best advice, though, is one that is probably hardest to accept. Don’t try to expose them. Don’t think you can change them or cause them to have some grand epiphany and change themselves. In the same way an addict has to want to change, so too with the narcissist. And it’s rare that they’re going to think they have a problem.
One issue I wish had been addressed is how to control one’s own anger and frustration when dealing with the vitriol being directed your way. It’s much easier to tell someone to remain calm and aloof than it is to do. I’d also have liked more discussion on how to maintain contact without becoming an enabler.
This book is not going to be a substitute for one on one therapy. It gives you some good starting points to dealing with a narcissist. But as the author said repeatedly, each person and situation is unique enough that what you’re going to able to draw from this book is somewhat limited.
My thanks to the author for a copy of this book in exchange for a review.
April 21, 2019
This book is all about narcissism. I read it for two reasons:
I wanted to add my support to the author. She asked me to read it.
I have a narcissistic person in my life. ( yet today I’m at peace with the way our relationship works).
Narcissistic people always talk about themselves. They have problems really listening to others with empathy, curiosity, and genuine interest for another person. They rarely focus on others..
The conversation always comes back to ‘them�... and what they have to ‘share�. It’s rare for narcissistic people to ask about your thoughts.. interests .. and feelings ... just for the honest sincerity of ‘hearing� ‘you�.
It’s almost impossible to change the narcissistic person.
However - this book attempts to help anyone with a narcissistic person in their life..attempting to understand narcissism including the good, the bad, and the ugly.
Theresa writes with empathy and positive
Intentions.
This book is not about adding harm to the already challenged narcissistic person. ..
Rather understanding & tools for self care.
Often narcissistic people can feel invisible, left out... so they must talk about themselves more.
They can be manipulative and controlling.
Common traits: Narcissistic people are most happy when sharing about themselves - receiving full attention from others about whatever it is they have to say.
Most people display narcissistic traits in a balanced matter. Not all narcissistic traits are entirely bad.
But a true & stereotypical
narcissists have one sided conversations. They don’t genuinely know how to ask questions and be interested in open discussions or listen to other’s opinion.
True narcissistic people appear to be strong and self-confident people when deep down they often have insecurities that they hide from. They
are sensitive to ‘anything� they ‘perceive� to be as criticism.
Narcissists tend to be charismatic & charming.
Outside friends and colleagues would have a difficult time perceiving them as harmful or insecure.
It’s only people who are close to the narcissist, that are more clued in that something is wrong.
Narcissists may have failed marriages - and or lost relationships with family members.
Passive aggressive behaviors, inappropriate behaviors, and destructive outbursts come and go... ....
Loved-ones walk on eggshells.. fearing when the next insult or manipulative words might strike again.
A Narcissist trait is an attempt to get others to do what ‘they� want.
Healthy boundaries makes a great difference.
The narcissist doesn’t usually have great insight into their own damaging behaviors.
Some behaviors are vindictive. If you burst their bubble - they will try to find a way to make you pay.
Narcissistic people may be creative - talented and accomplished interesting people...
but when they feel rejected and you don’t choose their company - the result might be an unexpected intense response.
If you try to be helpful and point out the narcissists behaviors- they may use it against you in the future.
Choices include minimum time spent together to avoid conflict - avoiding triggers.
And in some cases cutting the cord is the only solution.
Theresa Jackson’s book includes basic information about narcissistic traits... challenges & helpful tools when dealing with a narcissists in your life.
Stories are shared.
The book includes ‘trait tests�.
Personally - I wasn’t interested in the ‘tests� ..
A fast read....insightful - useful - but I was already very familiar with the subject and issues at hand.
For those who aren’t - I’d say definitely read it if you feel you have a need.
I was offered a free copy of this book awhile ago. I turned down the free offer. I preferred to pay myself... but told Theresa I would read it.
Wishing Theresa’s book makes a difference to those it most concerns.
Our relationships are sometimes challenging.
Being an extremely narcissistic person is extra challenging ... for ‘them� too.
Compassion- minimal time spent with a narcissistic person - self protection and healthy boundaries has been my personal solution.
And deep down - I have love in my heart for them too.
I wanted to add my support to the author. She asked me to read it.
I have a narcissistic person in my life. ( yet today I’m at peace with the way our relationship works).
Narcissistic people always talk about themselves. They have problems really listening to others with empathy, curiosity, and genuine interest for another person. They rarely focus on others..
The conversation always comes back to ‘them�... and what they have to ‘share�. It’s rare for narcissistic people to ask about your thoughts.. interests .. and feelings ... just for the honest sincerity of ‘hearing� ‘you�.
It’s almost impossible to change the narcissistic person.
However - this book attempts to help anyone with a narcissistic person in their life..attempting to understand narcissism including the good, the bad, and the ugly.
Theresa writes with empathy and positive
Intentions.
This book is not about adding harm to the already challenged narcissistic person. ..
Rather understanding & tools for self care.
Often narcissistic people can feel invisible, left out... so they must talk about themselves more.
They can be manipulative and controlling.
Common traits: Narcissistic people are most happy when sharing about themselves - receiving full attention from others about whatever it is they have to say.
Most people display narcissistic traits in a balanced matter. Not all narcissistic traits are entirely bad.
But a true & stereotypical
narcissists have one sided conversations. They don’t genuinely know how to ask questions and be interested in open discussions or listen to other’s opinion.
True narcissistic people appear to be strong and self-confident people when deep down they often have insecurities that they hide from. They
are sensitive to ‘anything� they ‘perceive� to be as criticism.
Narcissists tend to be charismatic & charming.
Outside friends and colleagues would have a difficult time perceiving them as harmful or insecure.
It’s only people who are close to the narcissist, that are more clued in that something is wrong.
Narcissists may have failed marriages - and or lost relationships with family members.
Passive aggressive behaviors, inappropriate behaviors, and destructive outbursts come and go... ....
Loved-ones walk on eggshells.. fearing when the next insult or manipulative words might strike again.
A Narcissist trait is an attempt to get others to do what ‘they� want.
Healthy boundaries makes a great difference.
The narcissist doesn’t usually have great insight into their own damaging behaviors.
Some behaviors are vindictive. If you burst their bubble - they will try to find a way to make you pay.
Narcissistic people may be creative - talented and accomplished interesting people...
but when they feel rejected and you don’t choose their company - the result might be an unexpected intense response.
If you try to be helpful and point out the narcissists behaviors- they may use it against you in the future.
Choices include minimum time spent together to avoid conflict - avoiding triggers.
And in some cases cutting the cord is the only solution.
Theresa Jackson’s book includes basic information about narcissistic traits... challenges & helpful tools when dealing with a narcissists in your life.
Stories are shared.
The book includes ‘trait tests�.
Personally - I wasn’t interested in the ‘tests� ..
A fast read....insightful - useful - but I was already very familiar with the subject and issues at hand.
For those who aren’t - I’d say definitely read it if you feel you have a need.
I was offered a free copy of this book awhile ago. I turned down the free offer. I preferred to pay myself... but told Theresa I would read it.
Wishing Theresa’s book makes a difference to those it most concerns.
Our relationships are sometimes challenging.
Being an extremely narcissistic person is extra challenging ... for ‘them� too.
Compassion- minimal time spent with a narcissistic person - self protection and healthy boundaries has been my personal solution.
And deep down - I have love in my heart for them too.
March 30, 2019
I received a free copy of this book in exchange for an honest review!
This book offers an interesting insight into the way you may handle a narcissist in a human way using research, literature, theory and discussion with leading academics. Uses some personal stories from those that have had to deal with it 1st hand and some case studies.
I enjoyed reading this. I don't think I had quite realised how many narcissistic people I knew! But after the insights gained from this book, I have some insights into how and why they are like that. Plus some coping strategies. I wonder if they will realise what I am doing?
It was fairly easy to follow as a lay person, as it it has been written in an engaging style that is both informative and educational.
Thank you to Theresa Jackson for the opportunity to read this.
This book offers an interesting insight into the way you may handle a narcissist in a human way using research, literature, theory and discussion with leading academics. Uses some personal stories from those that have had to deal with it 1st hand and some case studies.
I enjoyed reading this. I don't think I had quite realised how many narcissistic people I knew! But after the insights gained from this book, I have some insights into how and why they are like that. Plus some coping strategies. I wonder if they will realise what I am doing?
It was fairly easy to follow as a lay person, as it it has been written in an engaging style that is both informative and educational.
Thank you to Theresa Jackson for the opportunity to read this.
October 18, 2020
Sorry for the somewhat late review, but I ended up moving and the craziest things happened. Some of these I finished before the frantic packing, etc. and did not get a chance to say anything.
Familiar with the phrase, “if it can go wrong it will� ? Yes, it has. But, good can sometimes come from what seems to be chaos, at first.
I found this book to be very enlightening and non- judgmental. It is a different way to look at narcissism entirely than what I had heard before. The book can be very interactive and quite personal. I read it for general and informative reasons and will go through it again and keep the information in mind when dealing with things of this nature.
It doesn’t take all those with narcissism and lump them into one group. I found the approach to be refreshing and the first I had seen of its kind so far. This book is about dealing with it and understanding it on a level deeper than just the surface. It thinks outside normal categories, labels, diagnosis, and edges.
I would recommend it to all those trying to understand and deal with narcissism. It has a workbook that makes it easier.
Familiar with the phrase, “if it can go wrong it will� ? Yes, it has. But, good can sometimes come from what seems to be chaos, at first.
I found this book to be very enlightening and non- judgmental. It is a different way to look at narcissism entirely than what I had heard before. The book can be very interactive and quite personal. I read it for general and informative reasons and will go through it again and keep the information in mind when dealing with things of this nature.
It doesn’t take all those with narcissism and lump them into one group. I found the approach to be refreshing and the first I had seen of its kind so far. This book is about dealing with it and understanding it on a level deeper than just the surface. It thinks outside normal categories, labels, diagnosis, and edges.
I would recommend it to all those trying to understand and deal with narcissism. It has a workbook that makes it easier.
March 17, 2019
Narcissistic Behavior is so prevalent out there that is difficult to identify when it has reached the level of an (extreme) "Personality Disorder".
In my own personal experience it takes an extremely harmful action perpetrated by a Narcissist before the flags are raised by "peripheral" friends and/or innocent bystanders.
Close relations on the other hand are very much aware of the narcissistic personality disorder of their loved one but many times shield the individual hoping that this behavior is only temporary and that it will soon disappear.
Ms. Jackson books succinctly but systematically classifies and analyzes the different types of aberrant behavior that Narcissists may exhibit. This is a very helpful tool to protect somebody from being victimized by such a behavior.
Loving partners especially may easily and unknowingly become enablers of such behaviors.
Ms. Jackson's advises that there are circumstances in which the only good alternative is to altogether leave the relationship behind.
This is a sobering prospect for anyone who is experiencing such a painful relationship.
The book is about "Handling a Narcissist", since most of us suffer from mild to extreme Narcissism I hope that this book may also prove useful to self-diagnose and and self-improve that aspect of our personality.
In my own personal experience it takes an extremely harmful action perpetrated by a Narcissist before the flags are raised by "peripheral" friends and/or innocent bystanders.
Close relations on the other hand are very much aware of the narcissistic personality disorder of their loved one but many times shield the individual hoping that this behavior is only temporary and that it will soon disappear.
Ms. Jackson books succinctly but systematically classifies and analyzes the different types of aberrant behavior that Narcissists may exhibit. This is a very helpful tool to protect somebody from being victimized by such a behavior.
Loving partners especially may easily and unknowingly become enablers of such behaviors.
Ms. Jackson's advises that there are circumstances in which the only good alternative is to altogether leave the relationship behind.
This is a sobering prospect for anyone who is experiencing such a painful relationship.
The book is about "Handling a Narcissist", since most of us suffer from mild to extreme Narcissism I hope that this book may also prove useful to self-diagnose and and self-improve that aspect of our personality.
September 1, 2017
Your insights helped me understand and ways to deal with my mother being a Narcissist my entire life and how it has affected her side of the family cutting her out of their lives.
As an only child, dealing with a narcissistic mother has been hell my whole life and we have been estranged many years and many times because of it and now I have some insight on how to manage it because I am in a position that I cannot cut her out of my life again and again. I thought she would change with age and her christianity....but she lives in denial and the rest of her family has cut her off.
As an only child, dealing with a narcissistic mother has been hell my whole life and we have been estranged many years and many times because of it and now I have some insight on how to manage it because I am in a position that I cannot cut her out of my life again and again. I thought she would change with age and her christianity....but she lives in denial and the rest of her family has cut her off.
April 7, 2019
I am voluntarily reviewing an ARC of this book.
This is not my usual genre of book but I found this to be thoroughly interesting experience, I was shocked at my own pre conceived ideas. The book is basically split into different sections explaining narcissistic behaviour and how to understand the many different aspects that most of us are probably unaware of, and how to recognise different stages of the behaviour and how it impacts individuals. I enjoyed the personal accounts of experiences of narcissism and how they have coped with the experience and managed to break free from the life they have been living.
Although it focuses on maybe more advanced cases of narcissism it does also show some plus sides of a healthy narcissist such as their own self belief in themselves and their need to succeed. Until reading this book I hadn’t actually considered how many people I know do definitely show signs of narcissism.
When I started this book and read the blurb I was worried I would find the subject matter hard to understand but that was not the case. I honestly found this book an interesting and educational experience which I found extremely easy to read in one sitting, I would recommend this book highly you might be shocked by what you learn.
This is not my usual genre of book but I found this to be thoroughly interesting experience, I was shocked at my own pre conceived ideas. The book is basically split into different sections explaining narcissistic behaviour and how to understand the many different aspects that most of us are probably unaware of, and how to recognise different stages of the behaviour and how it impacts individuals. I enjoyed the personal accounts of experiences of narcissism and how they have coped with the experience and managed to break free from the life they have been living.
Although it focuses on maybe more advanced cases of narcissism it does also show some plus sides of a healthy narcissist such as their own self belief in themselves and their need to succeed. Until reading this book I hadn’t actually considered how many people I know do definitely show signs of narcissism.
When I started this book and read the blurb I was worried I would find the subject matter hard to understand but that was not the case. I honestly found this book an interesting and educational experience which I found extremely easy to read in one sitting, I would recommend this book highly you might be shocked by what you learn.
April 10, 2019
This book is a rather difficult to read for a couple reasons. First off, it needs edited. There are several instances where the word “that� is used in place of “than.� That’s just one example of many. It’s to the point that it made me question the legitimacy of the information. It’s also very difficult to read because it’s rather triggering if you are reading the book because of a relationship or trauma caused by a narcissist. The advice to deal with NPD was not terribly helpful. I was hoping to learn more about the signs to avoid further abuse in the future, and that’s just not what I got from this book, unfortunately.
April 20, 2019
The author had some good ideas, but it was honestly hard to get past the glaring grammatical errors and typos that could have been fixed by proofreading. The lack of proofreading makes me feel like very little effort was put into publishing this book, especially because the book was so short it wouldn’t have taken more than a few hours to make some simple edits.
Besides the errors, I was also frustrated by her usage of the word “narcissist.� Early in the book, she discusses the idea that narcissism exist on a spectrum; “healthy narcissists,� who display some narcissistic traits but not in a way that’s totally destructive to the people around them, are on one end of that spectrum, while “extreme narcissists,� who exhibit “manipulative, approval-seeking and argumentative behaviors� are on the other. Throughout the book, she describes normal people (non-narcissists, some might say) as “healthy narcissists,� and then “extreme narcissists� (the type of people that are the reason you picked up this book in the first place) are referred to as “narcissists.� I realize that this was done in an attempt to humanize the narcissist in the reader’s life, but this language feels clunky, and throughout the book she continues to add the disclaimer that the narcissist you’re dealing with may not display all these traits etc., when a single disclaimer at the beginning of the book would have sufficed.
Besides that, the book also repeated a few central ideas multiple times. This is a good method to get your main points across and help the reader remember, but the book is already so short and there is so little variance in the way she presents these ideas that it comes across as repetitive. When you repeat your central themes, you should have something new to offer each time, but instead it was more like “here’s another anecdote, and here’s my central theme copy-pasted to the end of it so you see how it connects.�
I would say this book serves to at least introduce the concept of narcissism, but it left so much to be desired that I’m just going to find another book that will give me a better introduction, and that’s what I would advise anyone looking into this book to do.
Besides the errors, I was also frustrated by her usage of the word “narcissist.� Early in the book, she discusses the idea that narcissism exist on a spectrum; “healthy narcissists,� who display some narcissistic traits but not in a way that’s totally destructive to the people around them, are on one end of that spectrum, while “extreme narcissists,� who exhibit “manipulative, approval-seeking and argumentative behaviors� are on the other. Throughout the book, she describes normal people (non-narcissists, some might say) as “healthy narcissists,� and then “extreme narcissists� (the type of people that are the reason you picked up this book in the first place) are referred to as “narcissists.� I realize that this was done in an attempt to humanize the narcissist in the reader’s life, but this language feels clunky, and throughout the book she continues to add the disclaimer that the narcissist you’re dealing with may not display all these traits etc., when a single disclaimer at the beginning of the book would have sufficed.
Besides that, the book also repeated a few central ideas multiple times. This is a good method to get your main points across and help the reader remember, but the book is already so short and there is so little variance in the way she presents these ideas that it comes across as repetitive. When you repeat your central themes, you should have something new to offer each time, but instead it was more like “here’s another anecdote, and here’s my central theme copy-pasted to the end of it so you see how it connects.�
I would say this book serves to at least introduce the concept of narcissism, but it left so much to be desired that I’m just going to find another book that will give me a better introduction, and that’s what I would advise anyone looking into this book to do.
August 15, 2019
No Sympathy for Monsters
I honestly wouldn’t recommend this book at all. Narcissism may exist on a scale but subjecting yourself to minimization just to appease them is not worth the effort. Unless you have ties like kids, finances or a business, cut them off. The work you have to do to keep them happy and off you is exhausting and literally, not worth it. It’s not worth your sanity or the hyper vigilance necessary to keep them off your back. The author sounds like they want to excuse their behavior by comparing them to addicts. Narcs know what they do, they just don’t care. There is no way you can ever be healthy and safe around that. It’s a terrible analogy. No sympathy for monsters. If you suspect you are around one and/or have been the victim of one, your best bet is to get away. I don’t card if it’s a lover, parent or child. Get as far away as possible & as soon as possible.
I honestly wouldn’t recommend this book at all. Narcissism may exist on a scale but subjecting yourself to minimization just to appease them is not worth the effort. Unless you have ties like kids, finances or a business, cut them off. The work you have to do to keep them happy and off you is exhausting and literally, not worth it. It’s not worth your sanity or the hyper vigilance necessary to keep them off your back. The author sounds like they want to excuse their behavior by comparing them to addicts. Narcs know what they do, they just don’t care. There is no way you can ever be healthy and safe around that. It’s a terrible analogy. No sympathy for monsters. If you suspect you are around one and/or have been the victim of one, your best bet is to get away. I don’t card if it’s a lover, parent or child. Get as far away as possible & as soon as possible.
September 2, 2020
A quick read on the basics of narcissism and how to deal with the people in our life that are extreme narcissists. If you have to keep a narcissist in your life this is a good resource with some practical tips on how to keep yourself healthy within the relationship.
March 31, 2019
I was immediately impressed by the author's introduction where I was able to understand exactly what I could expect from reading this book. Her understanding of narcissism and how it relates to oneself and relationships is evident by her descriptions of the complications of being involved with a narcissist or even being one yourself. The 40 question survey was quite in-depth and requires the reader to really pay attention to get the full benefit of the outcomes. I encourage readers to do this because it will help you greatly to understand what narcissism is and how it affects others. I also really appreciated how the author used examples of a narcissist and also of people who are in relationships with narcissists; husband and wife, lovers, friends, boss to employee, and family dynamics, I also thought it was brilliant that the author after describing narcissistic relationships in various settings also has a detailed section on what we could learn from that person or persons involvement with narcissism. I also really appreciate the fact that there is a workbook towards the end to explore narcissism persona;ly. I am going to take my time to complete it honestly. Just by reading over the sections and questions I know it will be very helpful in how I understand the narcissist in my life. This book is not a story it is a teaching tool - a very real honest study of narcissists and how they affect everyone in their lives. It is also a tool to help people learn how to identify and deal with these difficult narcissistic relationships and situations. Anyone who is struggling with narcissism in their life will find this book of great benefit.
And finally, I will add that as a society we are affected by narcissism, Clearly, the most dangerous, harmful, manipulative, self serving and extreme narcissist ever is donald trump.
And finally, I will add that as a society we are affected by narcissism, Clearly, the most dangerous, harmful, manipulative, self serving and extreme narcissist ever is donald trump.
October 23, 2017
Jackson offered some valuable insight into the various types of personalities that exhibit this trait and how to deal with them. She also did an excellent job of explaining the difference between "healthy" narcissism, which everyone has to some degree, and how it crosses the line into unhealthy narcissism, and then even into a disorder. This book contained different information than what is available at your fingertips when you google "narcissim" and also included a checklist so you could even score yourself.
August 5, 2021
Shallow, vague, riddled with errors. If the author was so inept at presentation, how could what she said be trusted?
January 21, 2019
Very informative
Wasn't clinical or patronising. Helped me understand my ex and his behaviour better providing advice on how to deal with it. This has opened my eyes to see what I was perhaps blinkered too. Don't normally read this kind of book but it was helpful
Wasn't clinical or patronising. Helped me understand my ex and his behaviour better providing advice on how to deal with it. This has opened my eyes to see what I was perhaps blinkered too. Don't normally read this kind of book but it was helpful
January 10, 2019
Great read! Thoughtful and informative.
The title speaks for itself. I found it very helpful in learning how to deal with someone who has narcissistic behavior and highly recommend it to anyone looking to understand how to thoughtfully interact with these people.
The title speaks for itself. I found it very helpful in learning how to deal with someone who has narcissistic behavior and highly recommend it to anyone looking to understand how to thoughtfully interact with these people.
August 30, 2017
Over the past year, I've become aware of the patterns that exist between people who are empathic (me) and narcissists. While I've read a few articles on that topic, this is the first book I tackled dedicated to the subject of narcissists. I found it to be enlightening and comforting. The content is a combination of fact/research based information about narcissism, and case studies. It helped me recognize how I was contributing to the toxicity of the relationships, and what I could have done differently. It will be useful in identifying narcissists in the present, as opposed to reflecting on the past, and knowing how to react to certain behaviors. The bottom line is my options are: I can leave the relationship or adjust my own behaviors, and I cannot expect to "call out" a narcissist or curb their behavior. Having the information in this book has already been a relief, even before putting it into practice.
October 17, 2020
I received this book from GoodReads for my honest opinion. It was difficult reading AND giving that opinion. I am a retired psychologist and Univ. Prof. I struggled mightily reading this book. IF the author were an intro psych student, I would have sent it for a rewrite for grammar, sentence construction, for better and more references, FOOTNOTING, citations..and still would have given it only a C after revisions. I inwardly screamed when she advised writing a diary. WTH when the narcissist reads your diary? Again, to use the term healthy narcissism represents only a small segment of psychology, from the 1970's- Kernberg and Kohut. In reading the reviews of others, I hear diagnosing of others as narcissists... FROM the descriptors in this book! oh my. oh my. I will summarize: this book may have been an article to place in that newspaper type Magazine at the supermarket check out line.
October 17, 2020
I gave up at about the half way point. Very unprofessional presentation with absolutely no editing. There is some useful information here but I shouldn't have to mentally edit for the author while reading. I'm not talking about an occasional typo--I'm talking about numerous errors on every page, which is too distracting. I would give 3-4 stars with editing.
April 15, 2019
During the course of my career as a psychologist I found narcissists to be my most difficult clients. As a result, I was interested to see what Theresa Jackson had to say about the matter.
She describes narcissistic personality disorder as “characterized by a haughty sense of superiority, an inflated sense of importance and a deep need for admiration.� People with this disorder put their needs and desires first and do not usually concern themselves with the needs of other people other than as a way to benefit themselves.
In contrast to narcissistic personality disorder, she discusses narcissism as a range of characteristics on which we all fit from unhealthy to healthy. She presents some narcissistic traits as positive or healthy such as “self enhancement.� She sees people toward the healthy end as still being able to appreciate others� feelings and needs.
She offers a scale on which you can rate the narcissist in your life or yourself on a series of forty criteria. These traits are then sorted into positive and negative ones. The author sees healthy narcissistic traits as including being self confidence, being charismatic and appreciating their own talents, and showing leadership and inspiration of others.
She describes extreme narcissists as showing the above negative traits as well as being threatened and jealous of those with whom they see themselves in competition. They tend to dominate, or discount their rivals as they seek praise and recognition and feel at least slighted if not outrage if their do not get the praise they feel is their right.
She goes on to describe a long list of ways to avoid being overcome by extreme narcissists. She writes about how to limit their dominance of relationships and how to deal with them without allowing them to control you and draw you into their web. She also discusses ways of interacting with them without arousing their least favorable characteristics.
She adds near the end that you should not expect narcissists to change. She sees change as possible but not very likely. This is not a task to be undertaken in the course of everyday relationships.
I found this an informative and interesting book. Yet I find it hard to view what she views as positive narcissistic traits as really being narcissistic. What she refers to here are self confidence and leadership. I agree that these are positive traits. Yet if they are not accompanied by the negative traits, then I would not consider them as narcissistic. I think it confuses the issue to try to consider some traits as healthy narcissism. They seem better seen as positive personality traits without the label of narcissism which to me is a negative term.
Still I think this book gives a good understanding of narcissistic personality disorder and shares some helpful strategies for how to avoid those who carry the label and how to interact with them without harm to you.
She describes narcissistic personality disorder as “characterized by a haughty sense of superiority, an inflated sense of importance and a deep need for admiration.� People with this disorder put their needs and desires first and do not usually concern themselves with the needs of other people other than as a way to benefit themselves.
In contrast to narcissistic personality disorder, she discusses narcissism as a range of characteristics on which we all fit from unhealthy to healthy. She presents some narcissistic traits as positive or healthy such as “self enhancement.� She sees people toward the healthy end as still being able to appreciate others� feelings and needs.
She offers a scale on which you can rate the narcissist in your life or yourself on a series of forty criteria. These traits are then sorted into positive and negative ones. The author sees healthy narcissistic traits as including being self confidence, being charismatic and appreciating their own talents, and showing leadership and inspiration of others.
She describes extreme narcissists as showing the above negative traits as well as being threatened and jealous of those with whom they see themselves in competition. They tend to dominate, or discount their rivals as they seek praise and recognition and feel at least slighted if not outrage if their do not get the praise they feel is their right.
She goes on to describe a long list of ways to avoid being overcome by extreme narcissists. She writes about how to limit their dominance of relationships and how to deal with them without allowing them to control you and draw you into their web. She also discusses ways of interacting with them without arousing their least favorable characteristics.
She adds near the end that you should not expect narcissists to change. She sees change as possible but not very likely. This is not a task to be undertaken in the course of everyday relationships.
I found this an informative and interesting book. Yet I find it hard to view what she views as positive narcissistic traits as really being narcissistic. What she refers to here are self confidence and leadership. I agree that these are positive traits. Yet if they are not accompanied by the negative traits, then I would not consider them as narcissistic. I think it confuses the issue to try to consider some traits as healthy narcissism. They seem better seen as positive personality traits without the label of narcissism which to me is a negative term.
Still I think this book gives a good understanding of narcissistic personality disorder and shares some helpful strategies for how to avoid those who carry the label and how to interact with them without harm to you.
November 26, 2017
How to Handle a Narcissist by Theresa Jackson, MSc is a thought provoking read and is not just fact filled. Jackson writes about the variety of types of narcissistic personalities there are. The book is a nice easy read that flows quickly. Narcissism is a popular subject these days on social media and in pop culture. How bad are the people in your life that you think of as being narcissist?
There are charts and questions to help you determine that in this book.
Jackson is a GoodReads author and it is not made clear where she hails from or what her own life situation is. The book is available on Kindle and the paperback version is available at Amazon. I liked the soft cover on the book and the book feels very bendable which makes it feel more comfortable while reading it. There is not any clip art or illustrations in the book but the situations discussed in the book are very interesting and fully explained.
I received this copy of the book via a giveaway on Å·±¦ÓéÀÖ. I requested this book because it sounded like it would be interesting. I will pass my copy on to a friend of a family member that I heard is interested in this subject.
There are charts and questions to help you determine that in this book.
Jackson is a GoodReads author and it is not made clear where she hails from or what her own life situation is. The book is available on Kindle and the paperback version is available at Amazon. I liked the soft cover on the book and the book feels very bendable which makes it feel more comfortable while reading it. There is not any clip art or illustrations in the book but the situations discussed in the book are very interesting and fully explained.
I received this copy of the book via a giveaway on Å·±¦ÓéÀÖ. I requested this book because it sounded like it would be interesting. I will pass my copy on to a friend of a family member that I heard is interested in this subject.
October 19, 2019
Surprising
I have read a lot of books on narcissism and non is as constructive as this book. I actually felt hopeful and rejuvenated that there might be a light at the end of the tunnel. Could it be possible to "deal" with a narcissist?
The book give great pointers on how to handle narcissists in constructive ways so that you can keep your insanity and still get what you want. I really enjoyed the possibility of gaining back my lost power in dealing with my Narc. But, is this really true?
Obviously, trying to stay with a narcissist is just crazy and should be avoided at all costs. You won't know how damaging they are unless you have been the victim yourself. You would only realize how dangerous they are when it is too late in the relationship - when the mask is off and the Narc is done using you.
Still, I take the many suggestions in this book as solid examples of what is possible in dealing with a narcissist even when I know I should run away.
I have read a lot of books on narcissism and non is as constructive as this book. I actually felt hopeful and rejuvenated that there might be a light at the end of the tunnel. Could it be possible to "deal" with a narcissist?
The book give great pointers on how to handle narcissists in constructive ways so that you can keep your insanity and still get what you want. I really enjoyed the possibility of gaining back my lost power in dealing with my Narc. But, is this really true?
Obviously, trying to stay with a narcissist is just crazy and should be avoided at all costs. You won't know how damaging they are unless you have been the victim yourself. You would only realize how dangerous they are when it is too late in the relationship - when the mask is off and the Narc is done using you.
Still, I take the many suggestions in this book as solid examples of what is possible in dealing with a narcissist even when I know I should run away.
September 28, 2020
"If you show a narcissist what it is that makes you vulnerable, or what it is that you really want, they may at some point use it against you when they want to manipulate you."
How to Handle a Narcissist by Theresa Jackson is short but full: Jackson lays out her ideas in a clean, logical order without filling unnecessary pages beating dead horses. The idea of narcissism as a range appealed to me, and makes me wonder if we'll be talking about Narcissism Spectrum Disorder decades in the future.
The most helpful part of the book, the "How to Handle" part was, indeed, quite helpful. Many of the techniques were those I already employ with the suspected narcissist in my own life, and some -- namely the quote that I used to open this review -- struck me because I likely spoken something very close to those words myself.
I received this ebook for free in exchange for an honest review.
How to Handle a Narcissist by Theresa Jackson is short but full: Jackson lays out her ideas in a clean, logical order without filling unnecessary pages beating dead horses. The idea of narcissism as a range appealed to me, and makes me wonder if we'll be talking about Narcissism Spectrum Disorder decades in the future.
The most helpful part of the book, the "How to Handle" part was, indeed, quite helpful. Many of the techniques were those I already employ with the suspected narcissist in my own life, and some -- namely the quote that I used to open this review -- struck me because I likely spoken something very close to those words myself.
I received this ebook for free in exchange for an honest review.
November 29, 2017
I decided to read this book because I feel like narcissist is a book that is thrown around a lot now, but I don't feel like I actually understood the disorder itself.Ìý Well, I read this book in a night and then I began to realize that: yes, I actually do know people who are narcissists (and honestly, you probably to too).Ìý This book explains what experiences you might see by interacting with a narcissist and then teaches you how to move forward after interacting with this person.Ìý I felt this book was really helpful in explaining the difference between having some traits or a disorder and having a disorder; this was something I encountered and had to explain a lot when I taught Special Education.Ìý I feel this book also does a great job at explainingÌýwhy this person behaves the way they do so you do not take things so personally.
November 21, 2019
This is the first edition and there is a lot of improvement needed.
Commas commas everywhere. Not a good editor in sight. Page 110 has some messed-up alignment prob at the end of one of the paragraphs.
The dashes are the same length as the hyphens, causing confusion.
The information is precise and to-the-point. And there is helpful info for those who are in long-term relationships~~whether it be relatives or friends. I despise reading a book that gives all the same old nonsense that's been heard before, no practical use tips.
The only reason I don't give this the last star isn't due to obvious publisher error, or even the overuse and misuse of punctuation, but the cold-blooded murder of the English tongue.
There are many misuses of tense and wrong words.
Commas commas everywhere. Not a good editor in sight. Page 110 has some messed-up alignment prob at the end of one of the paragraphs.
The dashes are the same length as the hyphens, causing confusion.
The information is precise and to-the-point. And there is helpful info for those who are in long-term relationships~~whether it be relatives or friends. I despise reading a book that gives all the same old nonsense that's been heard before, no practical use tips.
The only reason I don't give this the last star isn't due to obvious publisher error, or even the overuse and misuse of punctuation, but the cold-blooded murder of the English tongue.
There are many misuses of tense and wrong words.
June 21, 2021
How to Handle a Narcissist, by Theresa Jackson is a valuable and useful book if you have any narcissistic people in your life, whether in your personal life, or at your place of work, I have both. My husband, though not too extreme, and one of my bosses at my place of work, who borders on the extreme. This book helps you to recognize the characteristic traits in people who are narcissistic and gives you a guide on how to deal with them or whether you should just avoid them and keep them out of your life. It includes some personal stories of real cases, I actually wish there had been more.
I received a free ebook of this through a Å·±¦ÓéÀÖ giveaway. Thank you to both Å·±¦ÓéÀÖ and Theresa Jackson.
I received a free ebook of this through a Å·±¦ÓéÀÖ giveaway. Thank you to both Å·±¦ÓéÀÖ and Theresa Jackson.
May 4, 2019
Informative and Helpful
The author really lays things out in terms that anyone can understand. I really liked all of the exercises (quizzes, checklists, sample journal) that she included. I think another really beneficial part for me was the case studies, because it makes the reader realize that people deal with narcissists in all areas of life. I also appreciated the real world tips given to help the reader deal with the narcissists in their lives. I am a teacher and I believe some of the strategies in this book will help deescalate some of my students.
The author really lays things out in terms that anyone can understand. I really liked all of the exercises (quizzes, checklists, sample journal) that she included. I think another really beneficial part for me was the case studies, because it makes the reader realize that people deal with narcissists in all areas of life. I also appreciated the real world tips given to help the reader deal with the narcissists in their lives. I am a teacher and I believe some of the strategies in this book will help deescalate some of my students.
June 13, 2019
Great book. Simple, straight forward, yet insightful. One problem: Page 115 indicates, "none of us must remain in contact with anybody if the other party is causing us serious emotional damage." Unfortunately this is not true for those that are divorced from an extreme narcissist and have to continue to co-parent for years. Necessary interactions and communications open the door for continued abuse. A book helping people co-parent with an extreme narcissist would be very helpful to a significant portion of the population that struggle with this every day and are unable to escape their abuser.
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