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Talk Language : How to Use Conversation for Profit and Pleasure
Sometimes people are so busy communicating they don't listen to each other. TALK LANGUAGE tells you how to understand what people are really saying, and why. Words represent only a small part of the information transmitted in conversation; just as important are circumstances and body language. TALK LANGUAGE shows how to decode a wide range of everyday signals, so you can get the message or intentions a speaker is really conveying - whether intentionally or not. It gives many examples of every day conversational phrases and what they really mean. TALK LANGUAGE will help you to express yourself clearly and concisely - and to interpret others' intentions if they do not reveal them. Its message can be applied to almost every facet of daily life.
192 pages, Paperback
First published January 1, 1985
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About the author
Allan Pease
134books777followersAllan Pease is an Australian author and motivational speaker. Despite having no education in psychology, neuroscience, or psychiatry, he has managed to establish himself as an "expert on relationships".
Originally a musician, he became a successful life insurance salesman, he started a career as a speaker and trainer in sales and latterly in body language. This resulted in a popular sideline of audio tapes, many of which feature his irreverent wit.
His best-selling book Body Language brought him international recognition. It has been followed by several others. He is quite well known in Australia and during the 1980s he was an occasional TV analyst for political debates where he would analyze the body language and overall performance of the contestants.
Originally a musician, he became a successful life insurance salesman, he started a career as a speaker and trainer in sales and latterly in body language. This resulted in a popular sideline of audio tapes, many of which feature his irreverent wit.
His best-selling book Body Language brought him international recognition. It has been followed by several others. He is quite well known in Australia and during the 1980s he was an occasional TV analyst for political debates where he would analyze the body language and overall performance of the contestants.
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October 26, 2018
Deloc recomandată esticilor care nu manifestă tendințe de îndobitocire, deși autorii -care se portretizează ca niște zei ce dau sfaturi muritorilor de rând- au niscai tertipuri viabile pe alocuri.
Sau poate e vina mea că nu râd, ci devin frustrat în fața mediocrității...
Sau poate e vina mea că nu râd, ci devin frustrat în fața mediocrității...
June 2, 2011
The goal of the book is simple: to help you become a better communicator.
Allan Pease is Australia's human relationships expert and he's teamed up with one of America's communication experts, Alan Garner, to provide a slim book that is loaded with practical tips on how to start a conversation and keep it going.
Right up front, the authors introduce the idea of metalanguage - the stock, polite phrases - we use to cover our true meanings. Simply paying attention to these verbal cues will help you hear what isn't being said and will give you a better understanding of what's really going on with the person you're talking to.
The day I read this book, I had a church social event. I used my knowledge of metalanguage, combined with another of their ideas, asking open-ended questions to start conversations with people I hadn't spoken to before. By the end of the night, all my conversations could be placed in the excellent basket and I knew a lot more about the people I'd met.
If you're the kind of person who speaks more than you listens, then read this book and do what it says.
Allan Pease is Australia's human relationships expert and he's teamed up with one of America's communication experts, Alan Garner, to provide a slim book that is loaded with practical tips on how to start a conversation and keep it going.
Right up front, the authors introduce the idea of metalanguage - the stock, polite phrases - we use to cover our true meanings. Simply paying attention to these verbal cues will help you hear what isn't being said and will give you a better understanding of what's really going on with the person you're talking to.
The day I read this book, I had a church social event. I used my knowledge of metalanguage, combined with another of their ideas, asking open-ended questions to start conversations with people I hadn't spoken to before. By the end of the night, all my conversations could be placed in the excellent basket and I knew a lot more about the people I'd met.
If you're the kind of person who speaks more than you listens, then read this book and do what it says.
March 31, 2017
Пришлось прочесть эту книгу дважды. Поскольку она в русском переводе существует в двух названиях как "Язык разговора" и "Говорите точно". А так как я не знал, что книга та же, которую прочёл несколько днями раньше то решил, что это знак свыше :) и значит, что быть ей прочтённой ещё раз. ))
Книга вполне хорошая. Автор донёс важность понимания и более тщательного внимания к метаязыку, его обнаружению, распознаванию, считыванию и даже возможно его использованию (хотя частично сомневаюсь, что получится обуздать человеческую природу).
Метаязык и язык телодвижений намного важен чем его себе представляют большинство людей. Они говорят намного больше чем ваши слова. Книга небольшая и поэтому она не способна с одного прочтения вооружить вас способностью распознавать, считывать и пользоваться ними, но будет неплохим гидом в их мир и если они для вас важны, то подскажет на что обращать внимания, куда двигаться дальше и т.п.
Книга вполне хорошая. Автор донёс важность понимания и более тщательного внимания к метаязыку, его обнаружению, распознаванию, считыванию и даже возможно его использованию (хотя частично сомневаюсь, что получится обуздать человеческую природу).
Метаязык и язык телодвижений намного важен чем его себе представляют большинство людей. Они говорят намного больше чем ваши слова. Книга небольшая и поэтому она не способна с одного прочтения вооружить вас способностью распознавать, считывать и пользоваться ними, но будет неплохим гидом в их мир и если они для вас важны, то подскажет на что обращать внимания, куда двигаться дальше и т.п.
December 29, 2019
Glib � lazy use of “most�, as in, “This is the default position of most lawyers�.
And sexist and homophobic even for 1985, like the example of a wife who learns to please her husband in conversation, earning a little kiss from her husband, or the father in an example who is worried people will think his son is a “fairy�.
And sexist and homophobic even for 1985, like the example of a wife who learns to please her husband in conversation, earning a little kiss from her husband, or the father in an example who is worried people will think his son is a “fairy�.
August 27, 2018
Скучно, ничего нового
July 29, 2020
Simple but effective read. The kind of information that we all kinda know but forget all the time so it is good to have a reminder.
February 12, 2021
Good book. Nothing special - but interesting in some ways.
January 31, 2016
Este libro es increíblemente útil y está muy bien explicado. Luego uno puede ver a sus semejantes y leerlos casi como a una gota de agua, y aprende también a controlarse mejor a sí mismo... lo que quiere reflejar, etcétera. No es mentira, además, que, cierta actitud corporal y cierto tono, al final modifica el mismo ánimo. Es decir, si yo me muestro con seguridad, aunque no la sienta... la sentiré. O, como dicen los orientales, sonreír para después SENTIRLO. Algo así.
Este libro es tan bueno y fácil y etcétera, que como profesora lo he citado a destajo, a la hora de enseñar lenguaje no verbal, tan o más importante que el verbal. He interpretado carátulas de discos de artistas famosos, he descifrado cosas que le importan a todos - o a los adolescentes, mis alumnos - para dar a entender LO INTERESANTE QUE ES. Porque lo es, y también es divertido y decidor. Yo me he estado fijando en todo eso desde que tengo 15 años, cuando felizmente me regalaron este libro... aunque no siempre logre aplicar sus conceptos como querría, porque como todo ser humano, a veces fracaso estrepitosamente.
Yo lo recomiendo a todo el mundo, porque es una desgracia la mala comunicación, para todos. Debiera ser obligatorio. Todos deberían leerlo. No solo da conocimiento, también da veracidad, ternura, comprensión.
Este libro es tan bueno y fácil y etcétera, que como profesora lo he citado a destajo, a la hora de enseñar lenguaje no verbal, tan o más importante que el verbal. He interpretado carátulas de discos de artistas famosos, he descifrado cosas que le importan a todos - o a los adolescentes, mis alumnos - para dar a entender LO INTERESANTE QUE ES. Porque lo es, y también es divertido y decidor. Yo me he estado fijando en todo eso desde que tengo 15 años, cuando felizmente me regalaron este libro... aunque no siempre logre aplicar sus conceptos como querría, porque como todo ser humano, a veces fracaso estrepitosamente.
Yo lo recomiendo a todo el mundo, porque es una desgracia la mala comunicación, para todos. Debiera ser obligatorio. Todos deberían leerlo. No solo da conocimiento, también da veracidad, ternura, comprensión.
January 25, 2024
Talk Language, a major Australian bestseller, grew from my American book, Conversationally Speaking, and includes quite a bit more. There are sections on how to deal with difficult people, how to read other's intentions, ways to defuse criticism, and NLP. There is also a large section devoted to body language. I am very proud to have been a part of this project. and feel it deserved the tremendous success it enjoyed.
Alan Garner (co-author)
Alan Garner (co-author)
November 26, 2013
The book teaches you how to make a good first impression, catch other's attention and how to convince them to adopt your ideas. If you want understanding, acceptance, afrmare, success, recognition, this book will help you develop your communication skills in order to reach them. I consider this book 'a must read'. It is written in an exceptional manner, being really easy to follow and understand.
June 1, 2013
Despite the fact that this is the most LAUGHABLY sexist book I've ever had the irritation to encounter (so I'm knocking off one star), it does contain some outstanding advice about how to deal with difficult people and how to read their intentions. I was most interested in the chapter on ways to defuse criticism. I expect to use this book as a reference.
October 14, 2023
Хорошая книга, написаны советы с примерами их использования. В общем это сборник инструкций которых надо придерживаться при общении с собеседником. От вас будет требоваться только повторение и практика, много практики.
August 30, 2009
I read this a while ago and forgot to add it to goodreads. I enjoyed it! I learnt a lot about verbal communication and body language and found it very interesting.
February 13, 2012
so old-fashioned and sexist and bad :(
I only read it because it was in the room where I was staying...
I only read it because it was in the room where I was staying...
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May 6, 2012A great (old) read. It really works!
August 14, 2012
It's one of the books that you remember for the rest of your life, it helped me make use of many strangers..and most importantly kept me out of trouble with my parents lol
May 9, 2013
Quite a good book, it gives you some hints about communication tricks and methods but I find the style used too american!
August 18, 2014
Incredibly interesting. It actually works, I'd say. Though you have to be careful
December 30, 2016
I discovered my weaknesses fromthisbook and learned a lot :-)
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