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Introverts in the Church: Finding Our Place in an Extroverted Culture
Introverts are called and gifted by God. But many churches tend to be extroverted places where introverts are marginalized. Some Christians end up feeling like it's not as faithful to be an introvert. Adam McHugh shows how introverts can live and minister in ways consistent with their personalities. He explains how introverts and extroverts process information and approach relationships differently and how introverts can practice Christian spirituality in ways that fit who they are. With practical illustrations from church and parachurch contexts, McHugh offers ways for introverts to serve, lead, worship and even evangelize effectively. Introverts in the Church is essential reading for any introvert who has ever felt out of place, as well as for church leaders who want to make their churches more welcoming to introverts. Discover God's call and empowering to thrive as an introvert, for the sake of the church and kingdom.
222 pages, Paperback
First published October 20, 2009
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Adam S. McHugh
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Adam McHugh is a wine tour guide, sommelier, and Certified Specialist of Wine. He is a regular contributor to Edible Santa Barbara & Wine Country and a happy resident of the Santa Ynez Valley.
Adam is the author of the memoir Blood from a Stone: A Memoir of How Wine Brought Me Back from the Dead, which tells the story of how he stumbled his way from hospice chaplain and grief counselor in Los Angeles to wine tour guide and sommelier in the Santa Ynez Valley.
A former hospice chaplain and Presbyterian minister, he wrote two books while in professional ministry: The Listening Life and Introverts in the Church. He was featured in Susan Cain's bestselling book Quiet, and wrote articles on introversion and listening for Psychology Today, The Washington Post, The Huffington Post, and Quiet Revolution.
Adam is a graduate of Claremont McKenna College and the Princeton School of Theology.
Adam McHugh is a wine tour guide, sommelier, and Certified Specialist of Wine. He is a regular contributor to Edible Santa Barbara & Wine Country and a happy resident of the Santa Ynez Valley.
Adam is the author of the memoir Blood from a Stone: A Memoir of How Wine Brought Me Back from the Dead, which tells the story of how he stumbled his way from hospice chaplain and grief counselor in Los Angeles to wine tour guide and sommelier in the Santa Ynez Valley.
A former hospice chaplain and Presbyterian minister, he wrote two books while in professional ministry: The Listening Life and Introverts in the Church. He was featured in Susan Cain's bestselling book Quiet, and wrote articles on introversion and listening for Psychology Today, The Washington Post, The Huffington Post, and Quiet Revolution.
Adam is a graduate of Claremont McKenna College and the Princeton School of Theology.
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March 16, 2014
This book is a BLESSING! As I was reading it, I almost felt like it was written just for me! For YEARS I have been struggling with the community aspect of Christianity. I am much, much more at peace reading, reflecting, and discussing spirituality and theology with a few select people. The thought of walking up to a complete stranger and asking, "How did you come to know Jesus?" turns my stomach. I have felt so inadequate. I have felt frustrated and just plain fed up with the social obligations that go with church. I've always felt like the problem is me (apparently self-blame is an introvert trait). But there is nothing wrong with me, I am just wired differently. The most important thing I got out of this book is that introverts like myself do much better with STRUCTURED socializing. We have servant hearts and are task-oriented people. We need to have a place and a purpose in the church. If we are in a position where our gifts are being used, we are far more comfortable talking to others. This is absolutely true of me. If I have a task to do with others, I am far more likely to talk than if I just sat at a table with a cup of coffee being forced to make small talk. This book gave me insight, answers, and healing. It is the first book that has made me actually want to go to church in a long time. I am so glad I read it!
August 8, 2010
The author lays out some very positive points, especially in the first four chapters. Having come from the background that I have, I appreciate his very valid assertion that Western culture values extroversion as a holy standard, and thus so does the Western church. Many of the ways in which he describes this standard failing introverted personalities are accurate, and I found myself resonating with his words due to very recent experiences.
Unfortunately, by about chapter 5, the author becomes underhanded. Beginning the chapter by claiming that it was the chapter he didn't want to write, and then apparently feeling he has earned the reader's trust, he begins to do the politcal pastor thing and "encourage" introverts to take on more extroverted roles. I will say, however, that he continues to make valid observations in this chapter.
The following chapters on leadership resulted in my groaning, skipping pages, or simply slamming the book down in frustration. The author's ecclesiological bent is obviously still with the church growth movement, and thus his leadership advice is that of a CEO, which I find fundamentally incompatible with the Church. The books closes dry...doesn't even leave an aftertaste.
All-in-all, a decent read. Take the good and leave the bad, as with anything else.
Unfortunately, by about chapter 5, the author becomes underhanded. Beginning the chapter by claiming that it was the chapter he didn't want to write, and then apparently feeling he has earned the reader's trust, he begins to do the politcal pastor thing and "encourage" introverts to take on more extroverted roles. I will say, however, that he continues to make valid observations in this chapter.
The following chapters on leadership resulted in my groaning, skipping pages, or simply slamming the book down in frustration. The author's ecclesiological bent is obviously still with the church growth movement, and thus his leadership advice is that of a CEO, which I find fundamentally incompatible with the Church. The books closes dry...doesn't even leave an aftertaste.
All-in-all, a decent read. Take the good and leave the bad, as with anything else.
March 21, 2010
This book was QUITE disappointing. Instead of finding spiritual insights, perhaps gathered from the considerable Christian contemplative traditions, I was faced with page after page of dreary management-speak. No book on religion (as opposed to business) should afflict its readers with word combinations like "recalibrating your leadership gauge." Nor should it be considered anything but a bad and pathetic joke to attempt to start a conversation about what Myers-Briggs type Jesus was. (Not sure if I object to that more on spiritual grounds or on scientific grounds, given the questionable-at-best standing of Myers-Briggs, developed, as it was, without the benefit of the scientific method or testing by an amateur Jung enthusiast.) I was already annoyed with the widespread casual flinging about of the word "community" before I read this book, but if anything, the word now means even less to me than it did before. What is this community we are always seeking to "restore" or with which we must "reconnect" or which we want somehow to "nurture"? I think it's more a jargon fetish item than any real body of human beings.
In the interest of full disclosure I must tell you that I entirely skipped the two chapters on leadership, as I have no interest in assuming a leadership role and by that time of the book I was already sick of hearing about empowering and fostering positive outgoing reconnection of the community with its recalibration.
What I learned from this book is that introverts are quite alright so long as we find a way to act like extroverts when it counts, ie whilst we are recalibrating our empowerment of the community. Or something like that. Don't bother.
In the interest of full disclosure I must tell you that I entirely skipped the two chapters on leadership, as I have no interest in assuming a leadership role and by that time of the book I was already sick of hearing about empowering and fostering positive outgoing reconnection of the community with its recalibration.
What I learned from this book is that introverts are quite alright so long as we find a way to act like extroverts when it counts, ie whilst we are recalibrating our empowerment of the community. Or something like that. Don't bother.
February 16, 2012
I have no idea how I first found Adam McHugh's blog "Introverted Church," but seeing those two words together in print triggered an "Aha!" moment in my brain. His book explores how the evangelical church skews towards the extrovert, and the effect this has on the church and its members (and seekers).
As an introvert who operates in the evagelical world, I found myself nodding all through this book.
As an introvert who operates in the evagelical world, I found myself nodding all through this book.
October 30, 2018
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January 23, 2024
This was a helpful and encouraging read about how introversion and faith/evangelism intersect. I especially liked the chapter “Can Introverts Lead?�. It does a good job of affirming introvert personalities while gently challenging as well.
My main criticism would be that I think the author presents a narrow view of what an introvert is. His categories for personality seem to be a stereotypical extrovert (whom society values) or an introvert that is deeply contemplative, loves to read, studies constantly. He argues that society/the church should value these traits, thus valuing introverts. To me, this infers that if you are an introvert that isn’t obsessed with reading or thinking deeply or contemplating the deep meaning of life, you do not have value. But otherwise, it was a good read!
My main criticism would be that I think the author presents a narrow view of what an introvert is. His categories for personality seem to be a stereotypical extrovert (whom society values) or an introvert that is deeply contemplative, loves to read, studies constantly. He argues that society/the church should value these traits, thus valuing introverts. To me, this infers that if you are an introvert that isn’t obsessed with reading or thinking deeply or contemplating the deep meaning of life, you do not have value. But otherwise, it was a good read!
February 2, 2012
I discovered this book seemingly at random about a week ago. I say seemingly because I absolutely see God's hand in guiding me to it. This was exactly what I needed to read, exactly when I needed to read it. I'm an introvert. In fact, I'm about as introverted as you can possibly get. I also happen to be a pastor at an evangelical church. I love being in ministry and I love my introverted side but there are definitely times where the two seem like a less than ideal mix.
In the first couple chapters of the book, McHugh explores why that. He discusses how modern church, especially evangelical churches, are not always very introvert friendly. They carry a huge emphasis on relationships and community as well as on personal evangelism - all of which are things that can be big struggles for introverts. There were passages in those early chapters that fit me perfectly. He describes how he is infinitely more comfortable preaching a sermon in front of tons of people than he is engaging in the social time before or after the service. Yep, that's dead on, 100% accurate for me.
Reading this I felt affirmed in my personality. I don't think I'd quite been aware before I picked this up how subtly the lie "there's something wrong with you" has crept in over the years in regards to my introversion. While I love ministry, my church and my congregation but unfortunately ministry, at times, can feed into that lie. Reading this was huge for helping me to better accept myself, my personality and gifting. It also helped me to better understood why people might be likely to misunderstand me and how I can address that. Though maybe more than anything it inspired me to use my position to help change some of the elements in modern church that aren't introvert friendly so that introverts are better welcomed and valued (including by themselves) in church.
I took a star off my rating because some parts of the book were a bit less helpful. The first couple chapters and the last couple were fantastic but the middle dragged quite a bit. I also was a bit disappointed that so little focus was given to intellectually minded introverts. He discusses us some but much more attention is given to contemplative introverts. A bit more balance would have been very much appreciated.
Those complaints aside, this is an excellent and very important book. I'd encourage not only introverts but also extroverts (especially extroverted pastors) to check it out.
In the first couple chapters of the book, McHugh explores why that. He discusses how modern church, especially evangelical churches, are not always very introvert friendly. They carry a huge emphasis on relationships and community as well as on personal evangelism - all of which are things that can be big struggles for introverts. There were passages in those early chapters that fit me perfectly. He describes how he is infinitely more comfortable preaching a sermon in front of tons of people than he is engaging in the social time before or after the service. Yep, that's dead on, 100% accurate for me.
Reading this I felt affirmed in my personality. I don't think I'd quite been aware before I picked this up how subtly the lie "there's something wrong with you" has crept in over the years in regards to my introversion. While I love ministry, my church and my congregation but unfortunately ministry, at times, can feed into that lie. Reading this was huge for helping me to better accept myself, my personality and gifting. It also helped me to better understood why people might be likely to misunderstand me and how I can address that. Though maybe more than anything it inspired me to use my position to help change some of the elements in modern church that aren't introvert friendly so that introverts are better welcomed and valued (including by themselves) in church.
I took a star off my rating because some parts of the book were a bit less helpful. The first couple chapters and the last couple were fantastic but the middle dragged quite a bit. I also was a bit disappointed that so little focus was given to intellectually minded introverts. He discusses us some but much more attention is given to contemplative introverts. A bit more balance would have been very much appreciated.
Those complaints aside, this is an excellent and very important book. I'd encourage not only introverts but also extroverts (especially extroverted pastors) to check it out.
January 29, 2011
One of the most encouraging books on spirituality I have ever read. I am deeply introverted. It is exhausting to constantly need to explain, "No, I'm feeling fine, I just need some time alone." It's most exhausting within the American church, where the ideal Christian is a gregarious, spontaneously evangelizing extrovert. People like me, while not necessarily looked down on, just don't fit in. Even when our faith is not overtly doubted, it's seen as a little off-the-beaten-path, and certainly not where I would be if I only had the joy of the Lord and the boldness of the saints...
Adam S. McHugh understands this, has encountered this, and has helped other people through it. The blurb on the book says, "Read it and heal." Never has a cover blurb been so true. I found myself crying, laughing, texting sections to my friends, and shouting, "YES!" in my dorm room while I read it. The division between introverts and extroverts can be devastating, but it doesn't need to be.
After reading this book, I feel like I not only have a much more confident view of myself as an introvert, but also a greater understanding of the extrovert and what it might look like for them attempting to "get through" to me. Once in awhile you run across a book that truly changes your life. This is one of mine.
Adam S. McHugh understands this, has encountered this, and has helped other people through it. The blurb on the book says, "Read it and heal." Never has a cover blurb been so true. I found myself crying, laughing, texting sections to my friends, and shouting, "YES!" in my dorm room while I read it. The division between introverts and extroverts can be devastating, but it doesn't need to be.
After reading this book, I feel like I not only have a much more confident view of myself as an introvert, but also a greater understanding of the extrovert and what it might look like for them attempting to "get through" to me. Once in awhile you run across a book that truly changes your life. This is one of mine.
September 14, 2016
"Mistake your shyness for aloofness, your silence for snobbery..."
I really enjoyed and appreciated "Introverts in the Church: Finding Our Place in an Extroverted Culture." The author, Adam S. McHugh, writes out of his own experiences as an introvert. McHugh admits he may exaggerate at points, but he insists that there is a strong bias towards extroversion in the church and he offers this book as a corrective from the other side of the spectrum.
McHugh dips into history to reveal how extroversion has become dominant in evangelicalism. The Second Great Awakening in particular represented a shift towards emotional worship and raucous revival by earnest evangelists such as Charles Finney and later evangelists such as D.L. Moody and Billy Sunday. This transition also led to the rise of pragmatism and anti-intellectualism and has culminated in the megachurch (p. 24-27). Thus, those Christians who sought silence, contemplative reflection and intellectual rigour were exiled to the margins. McHugh perceptively writes:
"The innovativeness of evangelicals has shaped the landscape of American religious life in ways that testify to this motion, growth and expansion. We invented the religious twentieth-century landmark: the megachurch - an expression of the church that introduced the paradox of people worshiping together in anonymity. At its best, the church growth movement has reached thousands of people with the gospel and shrewdly connected with the surrounding culture. At its worst, it has produced a superficial, consumerist mold of Christianity that has sold the gospel like a commodity. Many evangelical megachurches, in their hope to create comfortable environments for seekers, have stripped their sanctuaries and worship services of any sense of mystery and the sacred. Their fast moving, high production events may entertain us and their avid employment of modern technology may dazzle us, but many times, they cannot help us hear the still small voice of God.
The megachurch has fed our American preoccuptions with size and celebrity, and some of the largest implications have come for our models of leadership. At the center of most megachurches is a big personality: a dynamic, larger-than-life pastor who is able to hold everything together with his charisma. TIME magazine and various Christian publications now release lists of the most influential evangelicals, so fame and stardom have crept into evangelical culture. As churches rush to imitate the success of others, they go for what they think is the guaranteed recipe for prosperity, starting with finding a pastor with big presence and star power." (p. 26-27)
In chapter 2, McHugh reveals three facets of introversion. Introverts use time alone to regain energy (unlike extroverts who thrive off being around others), introverts have a slower and more contemplative way of processing the world and they favour "depth over breadth." McHugh notes introverts often prefer writing to speaking (p. 44). Introverts tend to be active thinkers which means that they need less external stimulation than extroverts because they find sufficient invigoration internally (p. 44).
The bias towards extroversion in evangelical churches has made me think about its implications for worship. So often the "worship wars" are framed as "traditional" vs. "modern/contemporary." This is still true in many cases as introverts who favour depth and poetic sensibilities may prefer the eloquent theology expressed in hymns, but what if the worship wars was framed in terms of extroversion vs. introversion? Modern worship seems more tailored to extroverts - it's loud, fast, and lively but that may not connect with introverts who might prefer prayer, contemplation, etc...McHugh notes how introverts seem to favour traditional liturgy in the last chapter (p. 190-91).
In chapter three, McHugh observes that introverts may paradoxically feel lonelier with people around because they don't feel genuinely known by the crowd; they long to be deeply known by the few, whereas extroverts are lonely when they are by themselves (p. 50). McHugh defuses the common assumption that introversion is synonymous with shyness and differentiates between the two (p. 53-54). However, although McHugh writes sympathetically to his fellow introverts, he admonishes them to still go outside of their comfort zones out of love and service for others even if this might be awkward or uncomfortable (p. 63). He cautions introverts against using individualism as justification for avoiding others (p. 93) while also resisting the common tendency among evangelicals to use vulnerability as a spiritual gauge (p. 91). In an age when missional Christianity encourages believers to open up their homes, it's important to hear a voice that, while supportive of the endeavour, also knows that for many the home is a sanctuary where they find much needed rest and refuge.
McHugh provides helpful tips for introvert self-care (p. 139-45) and also tips for introverted pastors, particularly how to handle preaching (p. 145-49). On p. 149, McHugh writes that pastors have to come down and relate to ordinary affairs of the laity but what I realize is that when I meet with pastors, I want to discuss theology with them, largely because I am passionate about it but also because I know I want to show off and be seen as learned. On p. 156-57 McHugh returns to the theme of extrovert bias in the church, especially when it comes to the position of youth pastor. He notes that often youth pastors act as surrogates to kids and teens who lack a parental figure in their life. Yet while many churches assume an extroverted youth pastor is what is needed to keep up with the youth's energy and desire for fun, for many youth an introverted pastor who is a good listener and who demonstrates long-term, committed care over the years may be what they need more.
Throughout the book, McHugh encourages introverts to acknowledge that God has made them introverted but that they should not feel pressure to conform to an extroverted ethos. Rather, they are to seek out ways to embrace their introversion and see what skills and pathways God has uniquely equipped them with to serve others and connect with God (contemplative listening, creativity, social/emotional awareness, and spiritual direction are some of the qualities McHugh suggests introverts are talented with). Although McHugh often seems to write more for introverted pastors than laity, many of the insights McHugh offers can be applied to anyone and everyone.
I really enjoyed and appreciated "Introverts in the Church: Finding Our Place in an Extroverted Culture." The author, Adam S. McHugh, writes out of his own experiences as an introvert. McHugh admits he may exaggerate at points, but he insists that there is a strong bias towards extroversion in the church and he offers this book as a corrective from the other side of the spectrum.
McHugh dips into history to reveal how extroversion has become dominant in evangelicalism. The Second Great Awakening in particular represented a shift towards emotional worship and raucous revival by earnest evangelists such as Charles Finney and later evangelists such as D.L. Moody and Billy Sunday. This transition also led to the rise of pragmatism and anti-intellectualism and has culminated in the megachurch (p. 24-27). Thus, those Christians who sought silence, contemplative reflection and intellectual rigour were exiled to the margins. McHugh perceptively writes:
"The innovativeness of evangelicals has shaped the landscape of American religious life in ways that testify to this motion, growth and expansion. We invented the religious twentieth-century landmark: the megachurch - an expression of the church that introduced the paradox of people worshiping together in anonymity. At its best, the church growth movement has reached thousands of people with the gospel and shrewdly connected with the surrounding culture. At its worst, it has produced a superficial, consumerist mold of Christianity that has sold the gospel like a commodity. Many evangelical megachurches, in their hope to create comfortable environments for seekers, have stripped their sanctuaries and worship services of any sense of mystery and the sacred. Their fast moving, high production events may entertain us and their avid employment of modern technology may dazzle us, but many times, they cannot help us hear the still small voice of God.
The megachurch has fed our American preoccuptions with size and celebrity, and some of the largest implications have come for our models of leadership. At the center of most megachurches is a big personality: a dynamic, larger-than-life pastor who is able to hold everything together with his charisma. TIME magazine and various Christian publications now release lists of the most influential evangelicals, so fame and stardom have crept into evangelical culture. As churches rush to imitate the success of others, they go for what they think is the guaranteed recipe for prosperity, starting with finding a pastor with big presence and star power." (p. 26-27)
In chapter 2, McHugh reveals three facets of introversion. Introverts use time alone to regain energy (unlike extroverts who thrive off being around others), introverts have a slower and more contemplative way of processing the world and they favour "depth over breadth." McHugh notes introverts often prefer writing to speaking (p. 44). Introverts tend to be active thinkers which means that they need less external stimulation than extroverts because they find sufficient invigoration internally (p. 44).
The bias towards extroversion in evangelical churches has made me think about its implications for worship. So often the "worship wars" are framed as "traditional" vs. "modern/contemporary." This is still true in many cases as introverts who favour depth and poetic sensibilities may prefer the eloquent theology expressed in hymns, but what if the worship wars was framed in terms of extroversion vs. introversion? Modern worship seems more tailored to extroverts - it's loud, fast, and lively but that may not connect with introverts who might prefer prayer, contemplation, etc...McHugh notes how introverts seem to favour traditional liturgy in the last chapter (p. 190-91).
In chapter three, McHugh observes that introverts may paradoxically feel lonelier with people around because they don't feel genuinely known by the crowd; they long to be deeply known by the few, whereas extroverts are lonely when they are by themselves (p. 50). McHugh defuses the common assumption that introversion is synonymous with shyness and differentiates between the two (p. 53-54). However, although McHugh writes sympathetically to his fellow introverts, he admonishes them to still go outside of their comfort zones out of love and service for others even if this might be awkward or uncomfortable (p. 63). He cautions introverts against using individualism as justification for avoiding others (p. 93) while also resisting the common tendency among evangelicals to use vulnerability as a spiritual gauge (p. 91). In an age when missional Christianity encourages believers to open up their homes, it's important to hear a voice that, while supportive of the endeavour, also knows that for many the home is a sanctuary where they find much needed rest and refuge.
McHugh provides helpful tips for introvert self-care (p. 139-45) and also tips for introverted pastors, particularly how to handle preaching (p. 145-49). On p. 149, McHugh writes that pastors have to come down and relate to ordinary affairs of the laity but what I realize is that when I meet with pastors, I want to discuss theology with them, largely because I am passionate about it but also because I know I want to show off and be seen as learned. On p. 156-57 McHugh returns to the theme of extrovert bias in the church, especially when it comes to the position of youth pastor. He notes that often youth pastors act as surrogates to kids and teens who lack a parental figure in their life. Yet while many churches assume an extroverted youth pastor is what is needed to keep up with the youth's energy and desire for fun, for many youth an introverted pastor who is a good listener and who demonstrates long-term, committed care over the years may be what they need more.
Throughout the book, McHugh encourages introverts to acknowledge that God has made them introverted but that they should not feel pressure to conform to an extroverted ethos. Rather, they are to seek out ways to embrace their introversion and see what skills and pathways God has uniquely equipped them with to serve others and connect with God (contemplative listening, creativity, social/emotional awareness, and spiritual direction are some of the qualities McHugh suggests introverts are talented with). Although McHugh often seems to write more for introverted pastors than laity, many of the insights McHugh offers can be applied to anyone and everyone.
October 18, 2015
This book gives introverts permission to serve God within the context of their God-given personalities.
I did feel that there was a greater emphasis on introverted leaders in the church rather than simply introverts in the church. I'm sure this has to do with the fact that the author is an introverted pastor. I imagine that many of the introverts he has extensive contact with (and subsequently, interviewed) are fellow pastors or leaders of some sort. I guess I think it would be nice if laypeople were appreciated a bit more. Leaders need followers, after all!
Here's a quote I liked:
"Our [introverts'] gift of helping others slow down is important in our witness to the nature of God. Postmodern people are not as persuaded by rational argumentation as much as they are by a lifestyle that substantiates a person's worldview. If we want to be persuasive apologists in this culture, we need to invite people into a lifestyle that is different from the status quo. If we are advertising to a world, which is weighed down with busyness, that becoming a Christian just involves adding more activities to your already-overloaded agenda, what is the appeal of the Christian life? Introverts who lead slower, unhurried, reflective lifestyles are very appealing representatives of the One who said, "Come to me, all you that are weary and are carrying heavy burdens, and I will give you rest" (Mt 11:28). (p. 180)
I did feel that there was a greater emphasis on introverted leaders in the church rather than simply introverts in the church. I'm sure this has to do with the fact that the author is an introverted pastor. I imagine that many of the introverts he has extensive contact with (and subsequently, interviewed) are fellow pastors or leaders of some sort. I guess I think it would be nice if laypeople were appreciated a bit more. Leaders need followers, after all!
Here's a quote I liked:
"Our [introverts'] gift of helping others slow down is important in our witness to the nature of God. Postmodern people are not as persuaded by rational argumentation as much as they are by a lifestyle that substantiates a person's worldview. If we want to be persuasive apologists in this culture, we need to invite people into a lifestyle that is different from the status quo. If we are advertising to a world, which is weighed down with busyness, that becoming a Christian just involves adding more activities to your already-overloaded agenda, what is the appeal of the Christian life? Introverts who lead slower, unhurried, reflective lifestyles are very appealing representatives of the One who said, "Come to me, all you that are weary and are carrying heavy burdens, and I will give you rest" (Mt 11:28). (p. 180)
March 30, 2013
Overall, this book was a bit of a disappointment for me. I think if I were an introverted pastor, then it would have been much more applicable. After reading Susan Cain's "Quiet", I was disappointed especially by McHugh's definition of what an introvert is and how they process things - even he admits that there are many kinds of introverts and his book is most applicable to those like him.
The last two chapters were really the best for me, and more of what I was hoping the whole book would be like (the chapters on evangelism and community). I was looking for practical advice on how to be an introvert, to embrace that God made me this way, but still go and make disciples, and still be part of the church community. And as a stay-at-home mom to three kids age 5 and under, his advice to take frequent breaks between meetings, wake up early for alone time, and go for a walk by yourself everyday before returning home from work, was more frustrating than helpful. I would love all that alone time and freedom, but I am also not in a position to sacrifice my scant sleep to get it!
It seems that this book was really directed towards those in ministry more than your average church member. That is not to say that I didn't get anything out of it, but I was hoping for more.
The last two chapters were really the best for me, and more of what I was hoping the whole book would be like (the chapters on evangelism and community). I was looking for practical advice on how to be an introvert, to embrace that God made me this way, but still go and make disciples, and still be part of the church community. And as a stay-at-home mom to three kids age 5 and under, his advice to take frequent breaks between meetings, wake up early for alone time, and go for a walk by yourself everyday before returning home from work, was more frustrating than helpful. I would love all that alone time and freedom, but I am also not in a position to sacrifice my scant sleep to get it!
It seems that this book was really directed towards those in ministry more than your average church member. That is not to say that I didn't get anything out of it, but I was hoping for more.
March 15, 2012
I confess I was pretty disappointed in this book. Which may have been due as much to my unrealistic expectations as to the product itself. McHugh sets out to help introverts thrive in the increasingly extroverted evangelical church--and to help the church better welcome introverts. These are noble goals, to be sure.
However, he runs into difficulties right from the get-go: nailing down a definition of introversion. Not all introverts are shy or quiet. Not all extroverts are loud. The definition I like best has to do with what energizes you--if you are energized by being around people and sapped by being alone, you are probably an extrovert. If being with people wears you out and you recharge in solitude, you are probably an introvert. Any definition more expansive than this tends to cause problems. So when McHugh tries to make generalizations about what introverts are like, their strengths and weaknesses, I found myself constantly thinking of extroverts I know who are the same way, or introverts who are not. It's a tough situation to be in--you need to talk about the attributes of introverts in order to speak to the ways they struggle to fit in at church. But the simple truth is introverts don't have the market cornered when it comes to listening, thinking deeply, or any number of other qualities McHugh highlights.
Then, too, there is the issue of why the introversion/extroversion distinction matters in the church context. Yes, certain things are harder for some people than others--so what? McHugh has concluded that this introvert/extrovert distinction is a created difference to be celebrated. His basis for this conclusion is primarily biological, and makes for interesting reading, but doesn't answer the ultimate question. After all, there may be any number of behaviors or attitudes to which I am predisposed. It does not necessarily follow that I am 'allowed' to avoid difficult tasks. For example, as an introverted Christian, I loathe the 'mingling' that comes at the close of a church service. The fact that I am a biological introvert does not give me a free pass to duck out. And just because an extrovert doesn't like solitude doesn't mean he or she can simply neglect personal prayer.
I think a better focus would be determining which 'extroverted' aspects of church are actually biblically required, and which are the result of our cultural bias toward extroversion. There may well be aspects of the evangelical church culture that skew extroverted and are not required by Scripture. In these areas, introverts may well be free to explore alternatives. But some facets of the Christian life--like evangelism and community--are biblically mandated, no matter how hard they are for introverts. The Christian life is full of hard tasks. It is admirable to reduce the number of unnecessary hard tasks we impose on people, but the mere fact that a task is hard is not determinative.
To his credit, McHugh tries to walk this line--for example, he does not give introverts permission not to participate in evangelism; this is a biblical command, and it applies to all Christians, whatever their temperaments. Instead, he offers suggestions for evangelism that might be more comfortable for introverts. But he never really delves into the biblical support for his underlying conclusion that our personality type gives us an excuse for not participating in X activity.
Don't get me wrong--there's nothing wrong with looking for ways to serve or obey that fit with your abilities. The important thing to remember is a) you still have to obey (in other words, you don't get to ignore commands because they're hard for you), and b) sometimes God will call you to serve or obey in uncomfortable ways. So maybe you like helping behind the scenes, and that's great, but one day the church may be short on greeters and you may have to bite the bullet and help out, even though it's not something you enjoy. I may focus my evangelism on friends and co-workers I know well, but one day I may be on a plane with a total stranger and God may lead me to share the gospel, even though that sort of thing is totally unappealing to my introverted sensibilities.
It can be tempting to cast our reluctance in terms of skills or abilities rather than preference--that is, as an introvert, I serve in ways or areas where I can serve well. It's not so much that I don't like doing X; it's that this extrovert I know does it so much better. I tell myself I am being selfless, that I am trying to ensure that the best folks for the job are the ones doing it. Which would make sense, if we took God out of the equation. Then we would look for the 'best man for the job' every time. But our ability to serve or obey does not come ultimately from our skill or personality type; it comes from God. He chooses the incapable worker so that when the task is done, He gets the glory. So while it's fine to look for service opportunities that line up with our gifts or passions, we're fooling ourselves if we think we'll only be called to serve in areas of personal strength.
McHugh also devotes a significant chunk of the book to introverts in leadership, particularly pastors--which makes sense, given his personal experience. He notes, for example, that churches often pigeonhole introverts as not possessing leadership material, and observes that introverts can in fact be excellent leaders, and even excellent pastors. As a lay introvert, however, I did not find this discussion terribly helpful, and it didn't really fit with the 'blurb' on the back of the book. Still, I suppose it's an important topic, even if he did discuss it at more length than I think was strictly necessary.
One other note of concern: in the final chapter, 'Introverts in Church', McHugh encourages churches to experiment with their worship services. Some of the ideas are straightforward enough, like incorporating silence or pauses into the service so that introverts (and others) have time for reflection. Certainly, the manic pace in some church services could benefit from a bit of quiet. But some of his other suggestions are more troubling--the incorporation of symbols and art into the corporate worship, for example, could come perilously close to violating the Second Commandment if not handled properly. Yet McHugh encourages this practice without even a passing caveat to be wary of the improper use of images.
Bottom line: McHugh makes some interesting and even helpful points, but the end result is scattered and unfocused. McHugh relies on anecdotes and scientific studies; the biblical support for his conclusions is never really presented. As an introvert, there is some comfort in reading about the struggles of other introverts, and some of the practical suggestions may be useful. But as a treatise on the role of introverts in the church, it falls far short.
However, he runs into difficulties right from the get-go: nailing down a definition of introversion. Not all introverts are shy or quiet. Not all extroverts are loud. The definition I like best has to do with what energizes you--if you are energized by being around people and sapped by being alone, you are probably an extrovert. If being with people wears you out and you recharge in solitude, you are probably an introvert. Any definition more expansive than this tends to cause problems. So when McHugh tries to make generalizations about what introverts are like, their strengths and weaknesses, I found myself constantly thinking of extroverts I know who are the same way, or introverts who are not. It's a tough situation to be in--you need to talk about the attributes of introverts in order to speak to the ways they struggle to fit in at church. But the simple truth is introverts don't have the market cornered when it comes to listening, thinking deeply, or any number of other qualities McHugh highlights.
Then, too, there is the issue of why the introversion/extroversion distinction matters in the church context. Yes, certain things are harder for some people than others--so what? McHugh has concluded that this introvert/extrovert distinction is a created difference to be celebrated. His basis for this conclusion is primarily biological, and makes for interesting reading, but doesn't answer the ultimate question. After all, there may be any number of behaviors or attitudes to which I am predisposed. It does not necessarily follow that I am 'allowed' to avoid difficult tasks. For example, as an introverted Christian, I loathe the 'mingling' that comes at the close of a church service. The fact that I am a biological introvert does not give me a free pass to duck out. And just because an extrovert doesn't like solitude doesn't mean he or she can simply neglect personal prayer.
I think a better focus would be determining which 'extroverted' aspects of church are actually biblically required, and which are the result of our cultural bias toward extroversion. There may well be aspects of the evangelical church culture that skew extroverted and are not required by Scripture. In these areas, introverts may well be free to explore alternatives. But some facets of the Christian life--like evangelism and community--are biblically mandated, no matter how hard they are for introverts. The Christian life is full of hard tasks. It is admirable to reduce the number of unnecessary hard tasks we impose on people, but the mere fact that a task is hard is not determinative.
To his credit, McHugh tries to walk this line--for example, he does not give introverts permission not to participate in evangelism; this is a biblical command, and it applies to all Christians, whatever their temperaments. Instead, he offers suggestions for evangelism that might be more comfortable for introverts. But he never really delves into the biblical support for his underlying conclusion that our personality type gives us an excuse for not participating in X activity.
Don't get me wrong--there's nothing wrong with looking for ways to serve or obey that fit with your abilities. The important thing to remember is a) you still have to obey (in other words, you don't get to ignore commands because they're hard for you), and b) sometimes God will call you to serve or obey in uncomfortable ways. So maybe you like helping behind the scenes, and that's great, but one day the church may be short on greeters and you may have to bite the bullet and help out, even though it's not something you enjoy. I may focus my evangelism on friends and co-workers I know well, but one day I may be on a plane with a total stranger and God may lead me to share the gospel, even though that sort of thing is totally unappealing to my introverted sensibilities.
It can be tempting to cast our reluctance in terms of skills or abilities rather than preference--that is, as an introvert, I serve in ways or areas where I can serve well. It's not so much that I don't like doing X; it's that this extrovert I know does it so much better. I tell myself I am being selfless, that I am trying to ensure that the best folks for the job are the ones doing it. Which would make sense, if we took God out of the equation. Then we would look for the 'best man for the job' every time. But our ability to serve or obey does not come ultimately from our skill or personality type; it comes from God. He chooses the incapable worker so that when the task is done, He gets the glory. So while it's fine to look for service opportunities that line up with our gifts or passions, we're fooling ourselves if we think we'll only be called to serve in areas of personal strength.
McHugh also devotes a significant chunk of the book to introverts in leadership, particularly pastors--which makes sense, given his personal experience. He notes, for example, that churches often pigeonhole introverts as not possessing leadership material, and observes that introverts can in fact be excellent leaders, and even excellent pastors. As a lay introvert, however, I did not find this discussion terribly helpful, and it didn't really fit with the 'blurb' on the back of the book. Still, I suppose it's an important topic, even if he did discuss it at more length than I think was strictly necessary.
One other note of concern: in the final chapter, 'Introverts in Church', McHugh encourages churches to experiment with their worship services. Some of the ideas are straightforward enough, like incorporating silence or pauses into the service so that introverts (and others) have time for reflection. Certainly, the manic pace in some church services could benefit from a bit of quiet. But some of his other suggestions are more troubling--the incorporation of symbols and art into the corporate worship, for example, could come perilously close to violating the Second Commandment if not handled properly. Yet McHugh encourages this practice without even a passing caveat to be wary of the improper use of images.
Bottom line: McHugh makes some interesting and even helpful points, but the end result is scattered and unfocused. McHugh relies on anecdotes and scientific studies; the biblical support for his conclusions is never really presented. As an introvert, there is some comfort in reading about the struggles of other introverts, and some of the practical suggestions may be useful. But as a treatise on the role of introverts in the church, it falls far short.
June 24, 2017
I just finished "Introverts in the Church." It was a very interesting read on a topic not often discussed, and helped me realize a few things about myself and my congregation. I don't agree with everything he said, and a couple chapters were unnecessary, but I'd still suggest it to open minded friends.
October 20, 2017
Jesus was an introvert, I am just going to go out the limb and say it. I am in the minority according to this book, not the author personal thoughts, but the survey of people he looked at. I am convinced because Jesus in the Bible always retreated to be by Himself for alone time and it did not seem like he cared much for crowds. It is hard to describe his personality whether he leaned more on extroversion or introversion but I happen to think the latter.
I really liked how persuasive this book was, there are many introverts in the church. The misconception is that extroverts achieve more by evangelizing or being more vocal about their faith, but that is not really what makes an evangelist. There are some introverts who are very good at listening, that in itself can be a great thing. I am an introvert who do not consider myself to have a talkative personality, but I am a great listener.
Despite some rehearsed things, this was a really good about introversion in the church. Trust me it is is okay to be introverted, not everyone has to be a social butterfly to share the Gospel.
I really liked how persuasive this book was, there are many introverts in the church. The misconception is that extroverts achieve more by evangelizing or being more vocal about their faith, but that is not really what makes an evangelist. There are some introverts who are very good at listening, that in itself can be a great thing. I am an introvert who do not consider myself to have a talkative personality, but I am a great listener.
Despite some rehearsed things, this was a really good about introversion in the church. Trust me it is is okay to be introverted, not everyone has to be a social butterfly to share the Gospel.
December 12, 2020
I. Love. This. Book. I cannot say enough good things about it.
Finally...I feel like someone has captured exactly how I feel as an introvert in the church (and its glories and struggles). If I could get all the pastors on staff at my church to read this (if they haven't already), I totally would (hmm, there's a thought). I love my church, don't get me wrong; I do feel that it, like many other churches in Western evangelical-dom (is that a word? Can it be a word?), caters more to the extroverts among us than the introverts, and I'd love to see balance brought back to the Force. :D
I started reading this right around the same time my work book club started Susan Cain's "Quiet"--really a fantastic pairing, as "Quiet" speaks more to business and the secular world, and "Introverts in the Church" speaks to (shocker!) the church. Thus, I felt like both sides of my life, personal and professional, are getting equal screen time between the two books, and I entirely love it. Plus, Cain and McHugh reference each other quite a bit! How cool is that!
This is a practical, approachable read that I highly recommend. An excellent resource.
Finally...I feel like someone has captured exactly how I feel as an introvert in the church (and its glories and struggles). If I could get all the pastors on staff at my church to read this (if they haven't already), I totally would (hmm, there's a thought). I love my church, don't get me wrong; I do feel that it, like many other churches in Western evangelical-dom (is that a word? Can it be a word?), caters more to the extroverts among us than the introverts, and I'd love to see balance brought back to the Force. :D
I started reading this right around the same time my work book club started Susan Cain's "Quiet"--really a fantastic pairing, as "Quiet" speaks more to business and the secular world, and "Introverts in the Church" speaks to (shocker!) the church. Thus, I felt like both sides of my life, personal and professional, are getting equal screen time between the two books, and I entirely love it. Plus, Cain and McHugh reference each other quite a bit! How cool is that!
This is a practical, approachable read that I highly recommend. An excellent resource.
March 3, 2022
I thought the author had very strong points about the evangelical church being extroverted in nature. As an introvert I do feel I’m more encouraged by leaders to worship and serve extrovertally and struggle to find my niche at church. Thankfully I have found the church library and they needed a volunteer. He gave several tips on mingling and dwelling within the church today and being the introvert God made you.
January 22, 2018
I learned so much about myself trough this book. how not to feel like you need to fit in the box but to rethink the box.
This book will encourage all introvert who are exhausted after church and will give the extrovert a better knowledge of how it feels to be on the other end of the spectrum.
This book will encourage all introvert who are exhausted after church and will give the extrovert a better knowledge of how it feels to be on the other end of the spectrum.
January 11, 2018
A Guide for Living Well as an Introvert of Faith
Little Rock, Arkansas was the Sunday stop on the last leg of our cross-country trip. I don’t recall the denomination of the church we visited, but I sure remember its personality: the two-handed handshakes, the over-the-top meet-n-greet . . . and the dear woman who sat next to me and kept touching my arm whenever the pastor made a good point. That church leaned hard toward an extroverted culture. For this introvert with the plexiglass space bubble, I honestly couldn’t get out of that building fast enough. While that church is certainly not typical by any means (thank heavens!), it demonstrates with broad brush strokes the extroverted culture that prevails in the church.
Adam S. McHugh looks at the church through the lens of an introvert. He encourages introverted believers to celebrate their temperament and, rather than being defined by what they are NOT (outgoing, people-loving, gregarious, etc.) to lean into the strengths and gifts that come with their personality. Rather than equating spirituality with sociability and portraying evangelism as a back-slapping presentation of The Four Spiritual Laws, Introverts in the Church argues for a biblical vision of worship that puts God on display through relationships that encourage both introverts and extroverts to go deep into their inner worlds while at the same time moving outward in sacrificial love.
Explaining the Introverted Brain
Research shows that introverts and extroverts function differently because they process life differently. Introverts derive their energy from solitude while extroverts are energized by interaction and external stimuli. In addition, introverts filter that external stimuli through a finer grid, becoming overwhelmed more quickly than extroverts do with their more flexibly filtering brains. Introverts tend to prefer depth over breadth in relationships, in their interests, and in self-examination. Scientifically and theologically, it would not be an exaggeration to say that our Creator knit each one of us together as either an introvert or an extrovert.
Solitude vs. Isolation
While introverts have a reputation for being selfish and isolated, all believers who are operating in health will instead practice solitude which McHugh defines as going “deep into ourselves in order to become more self-aware and more compassionate.� In a culture that thrives on over-stimulation, all temperament types need to formulate healthy practices of retreat, times of pulling away from the noise in order to re-enter with perspective and godly wisdom.
Level-5 Leaders
The “Level-5 Leaders� described in Jim Collins’s book Good to Great are not the classic charismatic leaders we associate with success. Their humility, diligence, and willingness to build into the lives of others explain God’s choice of leaders throughout biblical history: the second-borns and the slow-of-speech; the shepherd boys; and the uneducated fishermen. It turns out that “leaders in the real world are about equally divided between introverts and extroverts.�
Thriving as an Introvert of Faith
It is possible for a believing introvert to find a place of fulfillment and influence within the church. This is NOT accomplished by learning and parroting extrovert-ish behaviors, but rather by operating as teachers, leaders, and involved neighbors out of introverted strengths.
I was rather hoping for an “introvert exemption� on the matter of evangelism, but what I got from Introverts in the Church was far better. I was assured that there is an approach to evangelism that does not put me in the role of an answer dispensing content dumper. Introverted evangelists are fellow seekers who share with authenticity how “God’s love has reached the dark parts of [their] lives.� McHugh sees himself as one who shares glimpses of God by responding to the ways in which God is already at work in people around him. A narrow-focus of relationship building, open-ended questions, and non-defensive dialogue open the door for both introverted seekers and introverted evangelists.
Finally, as believers we are called to embrace discomfort for the cause of Christ and for the enlargement of our worship. Both introverts and extroverts will grow stagnant if never challenged. The inward and outward movement of breathing provides a helpful picture of the way a living thing survives and thrives. Believers of all temperaments need the depth and richness that come with solitude alongside the self-giving poured out life that accompanies community. God has created a diversity of personalities and gifts within the church, and this is a treasure we are only beginning to understand.
This book was provided by IVP Books, an imprint of Intervarsity Press, in exchange for my review. I am disclosing this in accordance with the Federal Trade Commission’s 16 CFR, Part 255: “Guides Concerning the Use of Endorsements and Testimonials in Advertising.�
Little Rock, Arkansas was the Sunday stop on the last leg of our cross-country trip. I don’t recall the denomination of the church we visited, but I sure remember its personality: the two-handed handshakes, the over-the-top meet-n-greet . . . and the dear woman who sat next to me and kept touching my arm whenever the pastor made a good point. That church leaned hard toward an extroverted culture. For this introvert with the plexiglass space bubble, I honestly couldn’t get out of that building fast enough. While that church is certainly not typical by any means (thank heavens!), it demonstrates with broad brush strokes the extroverted culture that prevails in the church.
Adam S. McHugh looks at the church through the lens of an introvert. He encourages introverted believers to celebrate their temperament and, rather than being defined by what they are NOT (outgoing, people-loving, gregarious, etc.) to lean into the strengths and gifts that come with their personality. Rather than equating spirituality with sociability and portraying evangelism as a back-slapping presentation of The Four Spiritual Laws, Introverts in the Church argues for a biblical vision of worship that puts God on display through relationships that encourage both introverts and extroverts to go deep into their inner worlds while at the same time moving outward in sacrificial love.
Explaining the Introverted Brain
Research shows that introverts and extroverts function differently because they process life differently. Introverts derive their energy from solitude while extroverts are energized by interaction and external stimuli. In addition, introverts filter that external stimuli through a finer grid, becoming overwhelmed more quickly than extroverts do with their more flexibly filtering brains. Introverts tend to prefer depth over breadth in relationships, in their interests, and in self-examination. Scientifically and theologically, it would not be an exaggeration to say that our Creator knit each one of us together as either an introvert or an extrovert.
Solitude vs. Isolation
While introverts have a reputation for being selfish and isolated, all believers who are operating in health will instead practice solitude which McHugh defines as going “deep into ourselves in order to become more self-aware and more compassionate.� In a culture that thrives on over-stimulation, all temperament types need to formulate healthy practices of retreat, times of pulling away from the noise in order to re-enter with perspective and godly wisdom.
Level-5 Leaders
The “Level-5 Leaders� described in Jim Collins’s book Good to Great are not the classic charismatic leaders we associate with success. Their humility, diligence, and willingness to build into the lives of others explain God’s choice of leaders throughout biblical history: the second-borns and the slow-of-speech; the shepherd boys; and the uneducated fishermen. It turns out that “leaders in the real world are about equally divided between introverts and extroverts.�
Thriving as an Introvert of Faith
It is possible for a believing introvert to find a place of fulfillment and influence within the church. This is NOT accomplished by learning and parroting extrovert-ish behaviors, but rather by operating as teachers, leaders, and involved neighbors out of introverted strengths.
I was rather hoping for an “introvert exemption� on the matter of evangelism, but what I got from Introverts in the Church was far better. I was assured that there is an approach to evangelism that does not put me in the role of an answer dispensing content dumper. Introverted evangelists are fellow seekers who share with authenticity how “God’s love has reached the dark parts of [their] lives.� McHugh sees himself as one who shares glimpses of God by responding to the ways in which God is already at work in people around him. A narrow-focus of relationship building, open-ended questions, and non-defensive dialogue open the door for both introverted seekers and introverted evangelists.
Finally, as believers we are called to embrace discomfort for the cause of Christ and for the enlargement of our worship. Both introverts and extroverts will grow stagnant if never challenged. The inward and outward movement of breathing provides a helpful picture of the way a living thing survives and thrives. Believers of all temperaments need the depth and richness that come with solitude alongside the self-giving poured out life that accompanies community. God has created a diversity of personalities and gifts within the church, and this is a treasure we are only beginning to understand.
This book was provided by IVP Books, an imprint of Intervarsity Press, in exchange for my review. I am disclosing this in accordance with the Federal Trade Commission’s 16 CFR, Part 255: “Guides Concerning the Use of Endorsements and Testimonials in Advertising.�
August 12, 2012
The introduction begins with the question, "Can introverts thrive in the church?"
Why would he ask such a thing? The same reason I've found myself asking it. Our Evangelical Church culture is easily described as extroverted in nature. For someone who isn't naturally outgoing, fitting in can be awkward to say the least. Our culture tells us that extroverted is the way to be. It's an attribute shared by great leaders and successful people alike. Lacking in this area is a sure sign of diminished potential. This assessment may not be all that noticeable to some, but to an introvert, it's overwhelmingly clear.
Adam McHugh is one such introvert. He has documented his struggles in his book Introverts in the Church: Finding Our Place in an Extroverted Culture. The book has basically two themes that intertwine. The first is understanding introversion and learning to live and worship as one. The other is over Adam's struggle with learning to lead in the church as an introvert.
First, let me say that it is so reassuring to know that you are not alone. As Adam describes his personality, interactions with others, and the affect these have on him physically, mentally, and spiritually, I could have sworn he was talking about me. The need to think things over, the slowness to respond because of this, the exhaustion that comes from social interaction, are just some of the ways I can personally relate.
One thing I appreciate most about this book, is that it doesn't simply try to glamorize introversion. One of my biggest concerns was that books on this subject would go one of two ways, either that introversion was bad and thus needed to be changed, or on the opposite end that it was a wonderful gift that should only be celebrated. I knew neither extreme was right.
McHugh takes a psychological and a biblical look at introversion. He calls it like it is. Some characteristics are neither go or bad. To these he suggest planning your time around your individual needs. Helpful tips such as knowing what part of the day you generally have the most energy and scheduling those things that require the most social interaction at that time. Also knowing when you will need a break to recharge, before you completely run out of juice.
Now to the part he does painfully well. Knowing how best to live comfortably as an introvert is great, but we shouldn't make ourselves too comfortable. There is a need to push ourselves into those areas where we need the most work. We shouldn't limit ourselves simply to those activities that come easy. We may not be the best at the after sermon meet and greet, but we still need to be there. Introversion should never be used an excuse to avoid what we are commanded to do. Our strength for serving ultimately comes from the Lord, and so we must not limit ourselves to only what comes naturally.
About half of the book deals more specifically with leadership. He tells of his doubts and fears over his ability to go into ministry. How can someone who easily tires when dealing with people and prefers to spend their time alone, lead a congregation? Pastors have to be the outspoken, charismatic type, don't they? Adam shares his struggle to overcome his fears, utilize his strengths, and lean on the Lord to succeed. He provides many practical points and much encouragement.
I highly recommend Introverts in the Church: Finding Our Place in an Extroverted Culture, not only to fellow introverts but also to those who may want to understand us better. Adam McHugh has written an excellent book that is sure to help and encourage many.
October 8, 2019
Encouraged me to embrace my “gifts� seeing their benefits and potential weaknesses. Challenged me to not give up on leading but to find a more introverted way. Pushed me to not be ashamed but advocate for my giftings for myself, others, and the church. Provides some practical ways to manage leadership responsibility from a more introverted leaning. Don’t agree with everything but loved the book. Don’t read it as scripture but with scripture as with any book. I left wanting to talk and explore more information on leadership and introversion.
March 26, 2017
Excellent. In a culture that values talking over listening, and churches that do the same, this book was a great help - recommended for both extroverts and introverts. The chapters on spiritual practices for introverts, interacting in community and leadership were especially helpful for me. Also, the chapter on evangelism was really excellent. So much that we take for granted as 'christian' is an extroverted distortion of the gospel.
One of the egregious faults of the evangelical tradition is that it equates extroverted behaviour with spiritual maturity. Given that 50% of people are introverted, I think that's a little misplaced. So, we assume leadership equals extroversion, that 'authentic' worship (whatever that means) has to be words and sound, preferably loud and fast, that being 'vulnerable' builds relationship etc. All this might be heaven for the extroverts, but everyone else cringes. And in keeping with the venerable evangelical tradition of talking way too much, we don't listen or notice the needs of introverts. Other Christian traditions do better in this regard.
McHugh's point is not that we should coddle introverts - they need to grow as much as anyone, and there should be practices that they will find uncomfortable. But if they aren't even given a chance to take root, let alone become established, how can they face situations requiring spiritual growth? If every worship service, bible study, prayer group, fellowship meal is structured to fit an extroverted ideal - what happens to the other half of the church? A two minute silence after the sermon, for instance, might be uncomfortable for the extrovert. But many introverts would appreciate that time very much - and how often does that (quite modest consideration) happen in the typical evangelical service? And when was the last time ever that someone proposed an activity that extroverts felt uncomfortable with?
A couple of quotes that were helpful in articulating thoughts, or answering questions I had:
"...Introverts often feel more freedom in worship services that feature traditional liturgy than they do in ones that feature more open, informal, unstructured styles of worship. Introverts often appreciate the depth of liturgical prayers and hymns, as well as the rich symbolism that fill traditional churches. ...the liturgy "guides me into God's presence" and requires less energy on [my] part than ...nondenominational church[es]. ... Some introverts decry the shallowness of contemporary worship songs and their repetitive refrains, which can feel emotionally manipulative."
"If the juxtaposition of introverted and evangelist does indeed result in an oxymoron, then it owes not to an inherent contradiction but to a caricature, a culturally distorted understanding of evangelism. ...In popular teaching about evangelism, "the unspoken message is that only a gregarious person who's naturally relational can be an effective witness, which overshadows the fact that we're all called to be a part of this wonderful adventure of evangelism." ...Our common image of an evangelist is a spiritual "salesman" ... My understanding of evangelism shifted dramatically when I began to view my role not as initiating spiritual conversations but rather as responding to the way God is already at work in people around me."
An excellent book for Christians, either in leadership or the pew, especially from the evangelical side of Christianity.
One of the egregious faults of the evangelical tradition is that it equates extroverted behaviour with spiritual maturity. Given that 50% of people are introverted, I think that's a little misplaced. So, we assume leadership equals extroversion, that 'authentic' worship (whatever that means) has to be words and sound, preferably loud and fast, that being 'vulnerable' builds relationship etc. All this might be heaven for the extroverts, but everyone else cringes. And in keeping with the venerable evangelical tradition of talking way too much, we don't listen or notice the needs of introverts. Other Christian traditions do better in this regard.
McHugh's point is not that we should coddle introverts - they need to grow as much as anyone, and there should be practices that they will find uncomfortable. But if they aren't even given a chance to take root, let alone become established, how can they face situations requiring spiritual growth? If every worship service, bible study, prayer group, fellowship meal is structured to fit an extroverted ideal - what happens to the other half of the church? A two minute silence after the sermon, for instance, might be uncomfortable for the extrovert. But many introverts would appreciate that time very much - and how often does that (quite modest consideration) happen in the typical evangelical service? And when was the last time ever that someone proposed an activity that extroverts felt uncomfortable with?
A couple of quotes that were helpful in articulating thoughts, or answering questions I had:
"...Introverts often feel more freedom in worship services that feature traditional liturgy than they do in ones that feature more open, informal, unstructured styles of worship. Introverts often appreciate the depth of liturgical prayers and hymns, as well as the rich symbolism that fill traditional churches. ...the liturgy "guides me into God's presence" and requires less energy on [my] part than ...nondenominational church[es]. ... Some introverts decry the shallowness of contemporary worship songs and their repetitive refrains, which can feel emotionally manipulative."
"If the juxtaposition of introverted and evangelist does indeed result in an oxymoron, then it owes not to an inherent contradiction but to a caricature, a culturally distorted understanding of evangelism. ...In popular teaching about evangelism, "the unspoken message is that only a gregarious person who's naturally relational can be an effective witness, which overshadows the fact that we're all called to be a part of this wonderful adventure of evangelism." ...Our common image of an evangelist is a spiritual "salesman" ... My understanding of evangelism shifted dramatically when I began to view my role not as initiating spiritual conversations but rather as responding to the way God is already at work in people around me."
An excellent book for Christians, either in leadership or the pew, especially from the evangelical side of Christianity.
April 18, 2019
I started this book several years ago and stalled out for whatever reason. I guess I just wasn’t connecting with McHugh’s examples of introverts. I kept thinking to myself, “This doesn’t describe me.� As it turns out I’m a pretty extroverted introvert or introverted extrovert� Some call that being an ambivert. Anyhow�
I,now minister at a church that is full of introverts, so I thought I would pick this back up. There is a lot of practical advice in this book, and I think it is very important for many churches and ministers to reflect on. It’s OK to serve in ministry if you’re an introvert. If I could pick one group of people that definitely needs to read this it would be search committees� Especially those writing descriptions for new church hires.
One area I wish he would address in this book is what to do when you work in a church full of introverts who aren’t particularly spiritually mature. Most of what McHugh is doing here is an apologetic for introverts, though he does discuss some of their negative tendencies. But what do you do when being an introvert in the norm in a community?
What I love about this book is it doesn’t just stay in hypothetical situations or speak in general terms. The author gives many examples of real life people and church situations. He gives practical advice on ways to minister to introverts, but he doesn’t ask us to coddle them either. For instance, he says that greeting times during services are usually uncomfortable for most introverts. However, he doesn’t think that necessarily dictates that we get rid of them. Everyone needs to grow and expand in how they operate, so he gives advice on how we could make things better. All in all, I really enjoyed this book the second time around.
I,now minister at a church that is full of introverts, so I thought I would pick this back up. There is a lot of practical advice in this book, and I think it is very important for many churches and ministers to reflect on. It’s OK to serve in ministry if you’re an introvert. If I could pick one group of people that definitely needs to read this it would be search committees� Especially those writing descriptions for new church hires.
One area I wish he would address in this book is what to do when you work in a church full of introverts who aren’t particularly spiritually mature. Most of what McHugh is doing here is an apologetic for introverts, though he does discuss some of their negative tendencies. But what do you do when being an introvert in the norm in a community?
What I love about this book is it doesn’t just stay in hypothetical situations or speak in general terms. The author gives many examples of real life people and church situations. He gives practical advice on ways to minister to introverts, but he doesn’t ask us to coddle them either. For instance, he says that greeting times during services are usually uncomfortable for most introverts. However, he doesn’t think that necessarily dictates that we get rid of them. Everyone needs to grow and expand in how they operate, so he gives advice on how we could make things better. All in all, I really enjoyed this book the second time around.
July 26, 2019
This book made me feel seen and understood. I highly recommend it to any introvert who attends church. And to any extrovert who wants to understand our experiences and why we behave the way we do.
I particularly like that McHugh doesn't stop at affirming and celebrating the introverted way of being, the way God made us, but also challenges introverts to find how God wants us to contribute to our communities. He encourages introverts to stretch ourselves, but not to distort our personalities. We are first called to love and though that will look differently for introverts and for each one of us individually, we don't get to permanently separate ourselves. He acknowledges the danger many of us face in too much solitude and self-preoccupation while also listing the many strengths introverts have - listening, giving space, compassion, insight, serving quietly behind the scenes, having a calming presence. "We must feel at home within ourselves if we are to be truly faithful to God and to go out and act with care and compassion for others."
He gives practical advice for introverts, introverted leaders, and the church as a whole for finding ways to include and celebrate introverted strengths in the church. But he gives suggestions, not rules, showing the understanding that there are varying degrees of introversion and we will need to discover for ourselves what works with our own personalities.
I also liked that he pointed out many of the extroverted practices that are common in church culture. He uses words like painful, discomfort, and dislike and made me realize it's ok for me not to like certain worship styles. It's not because I'm not spiritual enough. Yet he does so in a way that makes it clear the difference is in personality types - not that one type of worship is right and another wrong. He encourages finding a balance so both introverts and extroverts learn and are given a chance to grow.
I feel like a heavy burden has been lifted.
I particularly like that McHugh doesn't stop at affirming and celebrating the introverted way of being, the way God made us, but also challenges introverts to find how God wants us to contribute to our communities. He encourages introverts to stretch ourselves, but not to distort our personalities. We are first called to love and though that will look differently for introverts and for each one of us individually, we don't get to permanently separate ourselves. He acknowledges the danger many of us face in too much solitude and self-preoccupation while also listing the many strengths introverts have - listening, giving space, compassion, insight, serving quietly behind the scenes, having a calming presence. "We must feel at home within ourselves if we are to be truly faithful to God and to go out and act with care and compassion for others."
He gives practical advice for introverts, introverted leaders, and the church as a whole for finding ways to include and celebrate introverted strengths in the church. But he gives suggestions, not rules, showing the understanding that there are varying degrees of introversion and we will need to discover for ourselves what works with our own personalities.
I also liked that he pointed out many of the extroverted practices that are common in church culture. He uses words like painful, discomfort, and dislike and made me realize it's ok for me not to like certain worship styles. It's not because I'm not spiritual enough. Yet he does so in a way that makes it clear the difference is in personality types - not that one type of worship is right and another wrong. He encourages finding a balance so both introverts and extroverts learn and are given a chance to grow.
I feel like a heavy burden has been lifted.
March 6, 2018
If you are an introvert like myself and have spent any amount of time in church or in ministry, then you likely have found yourself in situations in which you feel out of place. You may even have experienced situations in which you have clearly been stretched beyond your capacity.
This is a detailed and thoughtfully written book that addresses the unique challenges for introverts in ministry. It also explores the ways in which introverts are particularly qualified for ministry and how they can learn to develop and utilize their unique skills and giftings within the Church.
This book is an essential for any introvert who is in ministry, or simply for any ministry leader who is looking to better understand and serve their congregation. I would also highly recommend it to any introvert in general or anyone who has ever felt out of place in church.
This is a detailed and thoughtfully written book that addresses the unique challenges for introverts in ministry. It also explores the ways in which introverts are particularly qualified for ministry and how they can learn to develop and utilize their unique skills and giftings within the Church.
This book is an essential for any introvert who is in ministry, or simply for any ministry leader who is looking to better understand and serve their congregation. I would also highly recommend it to any introvert in general or anyone who has ever felt out of place in church.
May 6, 2021
This is so good I’m going to need to read it again!
July 10, 2023
Everyone who has an introverted partner, friend, child-should read this! Excellent.
April 5, 2025
Highly recommend this book to any and all personality types. As an introvert myself, this was an emotional read, even starting from the first paragraph: “It seems that extroversion gets to be defined by what it is, but introversion is too often defined by what it isn’t�.
It was validating to see, words to a page, what it’s like as an introvert trying to navigate an extroverted church. Evangelical churches, in particular, can be difficult places for introverts to thrive, as they subconsciously elevates the attributes of extroversion. Introverts often have difficulty finding a place in their communities where they feel encouraged to be who they are, and taught how to live their faith in ways that feel natural and life-giving.
”When our creator knit us together, he shaped our brains in such a way that would find satisfaction in reflection and comfort in a slower, calmer life.�
“In our own ways, and probably in a one-on-one basis, we welcome the stranger, listen to the hurting, and empathize with the excluded and misunderstood. We offer others the gentleness of Christ.�
“Introverts who lead slower, reflective lifestyles are appealing representatives of the one who said ‘come to me all who are weary and carrying heavy burdens, and I will give you rest�.�
“A truly healthy church is a combination of introverted and extroverted qualities that fluidly move together. Only in that partnership can we capture both the depth and breadth of God’s mission.�
It was validating to see, words to a page, what it’s like as an introvert trying to navigate an extroverted church. Evangelical churches, in particular, can be difficult places for introverts to thrive, as they subconsciously elevates the attributes of extroversion. Introverts often have difficulty finding a place in their communities where they feel encouraged to be who they are, and taught how to live their faith in ways that feel natural and life-giving.
”When our creator knit us together, he shaped our brains in such a way that would find satisfaction in reflection and comfort in a slower, calmer life.�
“In our own ways, and probably in a one-on-one basis, we welcome the stranger, listen to the hurting, and empathize with the excluded and misunderstood. We offer others the gentleness of Christ.�
“Introverts who lead slower, reflective lifestyles are appealing representatives of the one who said ‘come to me all who are weary and carrying heavy burdens, and I will give you rest�.�
“A truly healthy church is a combination of introverted and extroverted qualities that fluidly move together. Only in that partnership can we capture both the depth and breadth of God’s mission.�
October 31, 2023
“When introverts and extroverts are mutually celebrated, not only in word but also in practice, both the depth of the church’s ministry and the breadth of her witness are enhanced.�
April 23, 2010
Adam McHugh's book has given me a new perspective on a discussion I sometimes have with other Christians, "why are you comfortable in XYZ church yet uncomfortable in ABC church?". The author's premise is that your ability to feel at home and valued in a given church setting has to do with what builds you up and what drains you. In other words, whether you are an introvert or an extrovert. In my many musings on "why is friend A in this church situation?" and "why am I in the church situation I am in?" I confess I never thought of an answer that had to do with my personality bent. So this book is very worthwhile to read!
The author begins with our American obsession with extroversion. To be counted successful, on the way up, gifted, a mover and shaker.... you need to be extroverted or at least develop extroverted traits. Extroverts are seen as engaging, energetic, powerful, active and progressing -- all positive traits worthy of imitation. Introverts are seen as shy, reserved, aloof, passive, timid, and self-absorbed -- traits that are negative in their slant and not worth imitating. Both of these stereotypical definitions have elements that are totally incorrect, but they are nevertheless acted on in our culture as truth.
Statistics indicate that there is close to a 50-50 divide between personality types that are extroverted and introverted. Yet the extroverts win in setting the bar for success, simply because they are energized by being around people and are thus in the public eye. Introverts are energized by time alone and away from people. Since you aren't in the public eye and don't look busy when you are sitting there thinking, you must not be doing anything, right? This "force fit to be successful" attitude grates on introverts, and deprives extroverts of the balance they need from people who fall on the thoughtful end of the scale.
While this emphasis is prominent in the American culture at large, it has also bled over into the church. When the church adopts a partiality towards extroversion, the introverts that attend or visit them often find environments that are intimidating and uncomfortable. So certain church cultures are more difficult to navigate for an introvert.
By way of some examples, many evangelical churches encourage and expect people to "share" with groups (talk about difficulties or areas needing help or prayer that are often times very personal and private); greeting and visiting involves alot of small talk; services build to emotional crescendos that allow little or no time for quiet prayer or reflection; music is loud and similar to rock concerts; a service can seem rushed and hurried to get from one "event" to the next or to build tension.
In direct contrast, introverts resist sharing private thoughts with strangers or groups. Being forced the "share" feels very uncomfortable and intrusive. Introverts also dislike small talk, so heavy time on meeting and greeting and visiting can leave them feeling unwelcome and isolated. (When you don't like to make small talk, you usually stand not talking to anyone until the "visiting" time is over.) Introverts have great powers of concentration and enjoy quiet atmospheres in which to think and study. So it is no wonder that the increasing crescendo of activity, loud music, and emotional hype can leave an introvert feeling drained and tired and overwhelmed. Introverts think alot and reflect alot. A service that does not really provide something to think about and reflect on may seem shallow to them.
Church services that are regular in their liturgy, that have more structure, incorporate times of quiet and reflection, and allow congregational participation without small talk seem to be services that minister to and build up introverts. As such, churches that have a higher or more formal liturgy are services that are more attractive to introverts.
So this book provided some excellent thought fodder for me. And yes, I am an introvert and yes I appreciate and thrive in a higher liturgical church setting. The author challenges introverts to stand up and participate, and for extroverts to look for introverts to help balance the unbalanced type of services in church. Each personality type needs to seek out the other and find ways to minister to them, instead of always seeking your own good. There is not a simple solution, but rather a recognition that all personality types are made by God and as such should not be left out in the larger body of the church.
NOTE: I am reading another book, "Giving Church another Chance: Finding New Meaning in Spiritual Practices" by Todd D. Hunter. It traces Dr. Hunter's Christian walk from non-denominational Bible churches (Calvary Chapel and Vineyard Churches) to the Anglican Communion. I am wondering now if Dr. Hunter is an introvert? More on that when I finish his book.
The author begins with our American obsession with extroversion. To be counted successful, on the way up, gifted, a mover and shaker.... you need to be extroverted or at least develop extroverted traits. Extroverts are seen as engaging, energetic, powerful, active and progressing -- all positive traits worthy of imitation. Introverts are seen as shy, reserved, aloof, passive, timid, and self-absorbed -- traits that are negative in their slant and not worth imitating. Both of these stereotypical definitions have elements that are totally incorrect, but they are nevertheless acted on in our culture as truth.
Statistics indicate that there is close to a 50-50 divide between personality types that are extroverted and introverted. Yet the extroverts win in setting the bar for success, simply because they are energized by being around people and are thus in the public eye. Introverts are energized by time alone and away from people. Since you aren't in the public eye and don't look busy when you are sitting there thinking, you must not be doing anything, right? This "force fit to be successful" attitude grates on introverts, and deprives extroverts of the balance they need from people who fall on the thoughtful end of the scale.
While this emphasis is prominent in the American culture at large, it has also bled over into the church. When the church adopts a partiality towards extroversion, the introverts that attend or visit them often find environments that are intimidating and uncomfortable. So certain church cultures are more difficult to navigate for an introvert.
By way of some examples, many evangelical churches encourage and expect people to "share" with groups (talk about difficulties or areas needing help or prayer that are often times very personal and private); greeting and visiting involves alot of small talk; services build to emotional crescendos that allow little or no time for quiet prayer or reflection; music is loud and similar to rock concerts; a service can seem rushed and hurried to get from one "event" to the next or to build tension.
In direct contrast, introverts resist sharing private thoughts with strangers or groups. Being forced the "share" feels very uncomfortable and intrusive. Introverts also dislike small talk, so heavy time on meeting and greeting and visiting can leave them feeling unwelcome and isolated. (When you don't like to make small talk, you usually stand not talking to anyone until the "visiting" time is over.) Introverts have great powers of concentration and enjoy quiet atmospheres in which to think and study. So it is no wonder that the increasing crescendo of activity, loud music, and emotional hype can leave an introvert feeling drained and tired and overwhelmed. Introverts think alot and reflect alot. A service that does not really provide something to think about and reflect on may seem shallow to them.
Church services that are regular in their liturgy, that have more structure, incorporate times of quiet and reflection, and allow congregational participation without small talk seem to be services that minister to and build up introverts. As such, churches that have a higher or more formal liturgy are services that are more attractive to introverts.
So this book provided some excellent thought fodder for me. And yes, I am an introvert and yes I appreciate and thrive in a higher liturgical church setting. The author challenges introverts to stand up and participate, and for extroverts to look for introverts to help balance the unbalanced type of services in church. Each personality type needs to seek out the other and find ways to minister to them, instead of always seeking your own good. There is not a simple solution, but rather a recognition that all personality types are made by God and as such should not be left out in the larger body of the church.
NOTE: I am reading another book, "Giving Church another Chance: Finding New Meaning in Spiritual Practices" by Todd D. Hunter. It traces Dr. Hunter's Christian walk from non-denominational Bible churches (Calvary Chapel and Vineyard Churches) to the Anglican Communion. I am wondering now if Dr. Hunter is an introvert? More on that when I finish his book.
September 28, 2015
This book could be a great resource everyone who leads or works with others in a church setting—especially in churches with strong evangelical (that is, proselyting or missionary-oriented) traditions, including The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints. The author is an evangelical Christian pastor and an introvert who has worked in several different pastoral settings. He describes ways in which most churches--like American culture in general--value the skills and personalities of extroverts (who are energized by social interaction) over those of introverts (who are drained of energy by social interaction and need solitude and quiet to recharge and reach inner depths of worship). (See Susan Cain’s Quiet for an excellent book on introversion in the general society; these patterns are based on the widely used and validated description of temperaments in the Meyers–Briggs Type Indicator.) Of course, the Savior’s charge to take the gospel to all the world seems like an invitation to prize the extrovert personality. The author asks whether God, who has asked us to become as He is (Matthew 5:48; 2 Nephi 27:27), and who created all personalities on the continuum of introversion to extroversion, expects introverts to overcome their personalities in order to serve Him.
Certainly most churches appear to prize extrovert personality traits and expect their leaders to “be good at all things, to lead in every situation, no matter what the circumstances, and to always be available� (p. 119). The list of expectations that most people have for ministers, detailed by McHugh (pp. 118�19), is something that no one person could meet--thus reinforcing the value of a lay ministry and of leaders who have counselors and can delegate tasks to others. And McHugh is convincing that introverts can be effective leaders only as their authentic selves, which is true of everyone, regardless of personality.
The ultimate question of the book is the effectiveness of introverted Christians as missionaries. “Even at its best, evangelism summons pictures of animated extroverts, armed with quick wit, apologetic skill and the gift of gab� (p. 170). But the author persuades that some prevalent methods of missionary work--especially the model of evangelism as delivering the message we have come to “sell� and pushing for a quick commitment (p. 172)--are ill-suited to introverts as missionaries and as investigators. Instead, the author suggests that we approach missionary work as “exploring mystery together� through dialogue, sharing our stories and spiritual journeys, and eschewing the model of expert missionary teaching needy investigator; instead we become fellow explorers, discerning the influence of the Holy Ghost in each other. Thus we transform “awkward pauses into sacred silences� (p. 174). This develops the approach of meeting investigators where they are spiritually and exploring religious questions together suggested in Clayton M. Christensen’s The Power of Everyday Missionaries. It also reinforces the need to follow the Spirit and be flexible in meeting investigators� needs that is a part of the LDS missionary manual, Preach My Gospel.
McHugh also gives valuable advice to introverts about cultivating solitude and otherwise maintaining spiritual balance in the mostly extroverted church. He emphasizes that personality type is never an excuse to fail to serve and otherwise follow the prompting of the Holy Spirit. The author details the assets that introverts can bring to the Christian community and to leadership. Because different personality types sometimes have trouble understanding and valuing their own and each others� needs and contributions, Introverts in the Church can be a valuable resource for everyone in church leadership, or membership.
Certainly most churches appear to prize extrovert personality traits and expect their leaders to “be good at all things, to lead in every situation, no matter what the circumstances, and to always be available� (p. 119). The list of expectations that most people have for ministers, detailed by McHugh (pp. 118�19), is something that no one person could meet--thus reinforcing the value of a lay ministry and of leaders who have counselors and can delegate tasks to others. And McHugh is convincing that introverts can be effective leaders only as their authentic selves, which is true of everyone, regardless of personality.
The ultimate question of the book is the effectiveness of introverted Christians as missionaries. “Even at its best, evangelism summons pictures of animated extroverts, armed with quick wit, apologetic skill and the gift of gab� (p. 170). But the author persuades that some prevalent methods of missionary work--especially the model of evangelism as delivering the message we have come to “sell� and pushing for a quick commitment (p. 172)--are ill-suited to introverts as missionaries and as investigators. Instead, the author suggests that we approach missionary work as “exploring mystery together� through dialogue, sharing our stories and spiritual journeys, and eschewing the model of expert missionary teaching needy investigator; instead we become fellow explorers, discerning the influence of the Holy Ghost in each other. Thus we transform “awkward pauses into sacred silences� (p. 174). This develops the approach of meeting investigators where they are spiritually and exploring religious questions together suggested in Clayton M. Christensen’s The Power of Everyday Missionaries. It also reinforces the need to follow the Spirit and be flexible in meeting investigators� needs that is a part of the LDS missionary manual, Preach My Gospel.
McHugh also gives valuable advice to introverts about cultivating solitude and otherwise maintaining spiritual balance in the mostly extroverted church. He emphasizes that personality type is never an excuse to fail to serve and otherwise follow the prompting of the Holy Spirit. The author details the assets that introverts can bring to the Christian community and to leadership. Because different personality types sometimes have trouble understanding and valuing their own and each others� needs and contributions, Introverts in the Church can be a valuable resource for everyone in church leadership, or membership.
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