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Giant Steps: Small Changes to Make a Big Difference
A companion to Tony Robbins’s landmark book Awaken the Giant Within, this special book explores finest tools, techniques, principles, and strategies. Robbins offers daily inspirations and small actions that will have you taking giant steps in your life.
From the simple power of decision-making to the more specific tools that can redefine the quality of your relationships, finances, health, and emotions, Robbins shows you how to get maximum results with a minimum investment of time.
From the simple power of decision-making to the more specific tools that can redefine the quality of your relationships, finances, health, and emotions, Robbins shows you how to get maximum results with a minimum investment of time.
400 pages, Audio CD
First published January 1, 1994
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October 26, 2018
نفس المحتوى التقليدي لمعظم كتب التنمية البشرية والذي يمكن اختصاره في بضع صفحات لا أكثر
December 30, 2019
The reading is not hypnotic. But the information if followed sincerely makes you a better human being.
September 29, 2017
کارهایی که هرچند وقت یکبار انجام می‌دهی� به حساب نمی آیند، اعمال مداوم و باثبات ماست که اهمیت دارد و زیر بنای همه ی اعمال چیست؟ چه چیزی در نهایت تعیین می کند که چه کسی می شویم و چه مسیری را در زندگی در پیش خواهیم گرفت؟
جواب این است که بستگی دارد چه تصمیماتی بگیریم!
کتاب‌های� با این سبک و سیاق زیاد باب طبع من نیستند... اینکه کسی مستقیم و بی ملاحظه از در نصیحت و روشنگری داد سخن بده و به اصلاح خودمون بالای منبر بره!
جواب این است که بستگی دارد چه تصمیماتی بگیریم!
کتاب‌های� با این سبک و سیاق زیاد باب طبع من نیستند... اینکه کسی مستقیم و بی ملاحظه از در نصیحت و روشنگری داد سخن بده و به اصلاح خودمون بالای منبر بره!
November 11, 2010
الكتاب في نقاط سريعة :
- ان ما يؤخذ بعين الاعتبار هو ما نفعله بصفة دائمة لا ما نفعله بين الفينة والاخرى
- اتخذ الان ثلاثة قرارات من شانها ان تدعم صحتك وعملك وعلاقاتك وتصرف بناء على هذه القرارات
وصفة النجاح الشاملة:
1-حدد ما تريد "كن دقيقا فالوضوح قوة"
2-اعمل على تحقيق ما تريد"لان الرغبة ليست كافبة:
3-لاحظ ما هو مفيد وما هو غير مفيد "لا ينبغي ان تستمر في تبديد طاقتك بإستخدام وسيلة غير مجدية"
4-غير طريقتك حتى تحدد ما تريد"ان المرونة تمنحك القوة لخلق وسيلة جديدة ونتيجة جديدة"
- ان وضع الأهداف يعني لكثير من الناس انهم في يوم من الأيام سيحققون أشياء عظيمة وبعدها سيكونون اقدر على الاستمتاع بالحياة وثمة فرق هائل بين تحقيق السعادة وبين ان تدفعهم السعادة لتحقيق أهدافهم"المؤلف هنا يشير الى ان نستمتع بالحياة اثناء سعينا لاهدافنا وليس بعد تحققها"
استخلص السعادة من كل لحظة بقدر الإمكان وبدلا من أن تحدد قيمة حياتك اعتمادا على تقدمك لتحقيق هدف معين تذكر ان الاتجاه الذي تنطلق نحوه يعد أكثر اهمية من النتائج المؤقته
ما هي وجهتك الحالية ؟ هل تتجه نحو اهدافك ام بعيدا عنها هل انت في حاجه الى تصحيح المسار ؟ اذا لم يكن الأمر كذلك فعليك ان تسعى لتغيير الواقع
عندما تقترب من تحقيق اهدافك احرص أن تؤسس مستقبلا جديدا مهما حتى لا تقول (أهذا كل ما في الأمر؟)
- ان ما يؤخذ بعين الاعتبار هو ما نفعله بصفة دائمة لا ما نفعله بين الفينة والاخرى
- اتخذ الان ثلاثة قرارات من شانها ان تدعم صحتك وعملك وعلاقاتك وتصرف بناء على هذه القرارات
وصفة النجاح الشاملة:
1-حدد ما تريد "كن دقيقا فالوضوح قوة"
2-اعمل على تحقيق ما تريد"لان الرغبة ليست كافبة:
3-لاحظ ما هو مفيد وما هو غير مفيد "لا ينبغي ان تستمر في تبديد طاقتك بإستخدام وسيلة غير مجدية"
4-غير طريقتك حتى تحدد ما تريد"ان المرونة تمنحك القوة لخلق وسيلة جديدة ونتيجة جديدة"
- ان وضع الأهداف يعني لكثير من الناس انهم في يوم من الأيام سيحققون أشياء عظيمة وبعدها سيكونون اقدر على الاستمتاع بالحياة وثمة فرق هائل بين تحقيق السعادة وبين ان تدفعهم السعادة لتحقيق أهدافهم"المؤلف هنا يشير الى ان نستمتع بالحياة اثناء سعينا لاهدافنا وليس بعد تحققها"
استخلص السعادة من كل لحظة بقدر الإمكان وبدلا من أن تحدد قيمة حياتك اعتمادا على تقدمك لتحقيق هدف معين تذكر ان الاتجاه الذي تنطلق نحوه يعد أكثر اهمية من النتائج المؤقته
ما هي وجهتك الحالية ؟ هل تتجه نحو اهدافك ام بعيدا عنها هل انت في حاجه الى تصحيح المسار ؟ اذا لم يكن الأمر كذلك فعليك ان تسعى لتغيير الواقع
عندما تقترب من تحقيق اهدافك احرص أن تؤسس مستقبلا جديدا مهما حتى لا تقول (أهذا كل ما في الأمر؟)
January 24, 2012
Giant Steps is a strange combination of ideas and action steps set out as a daily reader format. Some days seem hardly worth wasting a page on. Yet in the overall flow of the text they are very useful. As with anything from Anthony Robbins, the real challenge here is how to make the daily habit your own habit, and not someone else’s prescription.
What this book actually achieves is the paring down of all the examples he gives in his other books to make the exercises familiar to people. The attitude is one of being set for action. But rather than set out actions each day, the failure to set them out grabs hold of that part of you that wants to take action to do something with what he provides anyway.
I can imagine most people would still take a book like this and just read it through in a couple of sittings. Resist! The actions which are presented are such that they make it hard to skim over in this way. The format does force you to slow down and just consider the present questions. It gives you the space to see that they are enough for one day. They help create the space around you to give those questions room to grow and shape themselves to your own specific needs.
But then a couple of days later there is the sense of “what do I do with this?�
It is a formula which actually makes you set your own actions in place as well as using Tony’s lead. He gives examples and then he backs off enough for you to turn them into what you need for yourself.
Not what I expected when I looked at a daily lesson format, but definitely more effective for self-mastery for those willing to take the Giant Steps a little at a time to get there.
What this book actually achieves is the paring down of all the examples he gives in his other books to make the exercises familiar to people. The attitude is one of being set for action. But rather than set out actions each day, the failure to set them out grabs hold of that part of you that wants to take action to do something with what he provides anyway.
I can imagine most people would still take a book like this and just read it through in a couple of sittings. Resist! The actions which are presented are such that they make it hard to skim over in this way. The format does force you to slow down and just consider the present questions. It gives you the space to see that they are enough for one day. They help create the space around you to give those questions room to grow and shape themselves to your own specific needs.
But then a couple of days later there is the sense of “what do I do with this?�
It is a formula which actually makes you set your own actions in place as well as using Tony’s lead. He gives examples and then he backs off enough for you to turn them into what you need for yourself.
Not what I expected when I looked at a daily lesson format, but definitely more effective for self-mastery for those willing to take the Giant Steps a little at a time to get there.
December 25, 2018
اول که کتاب رو تو کتابخانه‌ا� دیدم برش داشتم که بندازم دور(منظور از دور سطل آشغال نیست)، چون حدس می‌زد� که چیز به درد بخوری برای من نداشته باشه. اما به دلایلی نظرم عوض شد و گفتم بخونمش.
همونطور که اولش فکر می‌کرد� چیزی برای من نداشت. حرف‌ه� و توصیه‌ها� تکراری با ساده انگاری بیش از حد. کمتر از ۲۰ گامش برای من جالب بودند. به نظرم اشکال عمده همون ساده‌انگار� مسأله و عمق کم بود، حداقل برای من.
همونطور که اولش فکر می‌کرد� چیزی برای من نداشت. حرف‌ه� و توصیه‌ها� تکراری با ساده انگاری بیش از حد. کمتر از ۲۰ گامش برای من جالب بودند. به نظرم اشکال عمده همون ساده‌انگار� مسأله و عمق کم بود، حداقل برای من.
July 28, 2017
This is a different book than ' other books, like or even . is meant as a daily activity and thought guide. Tony offers an insightful tip on how to incrementally improve your life. As such, it doesn't really work to read the whole thing through and it really doesn't work well as an audio book. It would have helped if each "day" was a separate track on the CD, but they are grouped together somewhat haphazardly (not just however they would be grouped in the book).
I felt like I totally missed a lot of the advice simply because it was so easy to fade in and out of listening intently. Tony doesn't make use of full presentation skills, but I'm also used to listening to his seminars rather his audio books.
I felt like I totally missed a lot of the advice simply because it was so easy to fade in and out of listening intently. Tony doesn't make use of full presentation skills, but I'm also used to listening to his seminars rather his audio books.
May 26, 2012
كتاب من النوع الذي يجعلك تحس بأنك غبي لأنك لم تفهم المكتوب وبالتالي لم تقدره وتعجب به !
أو بمعنى آخر - لا يوجد فيه مراوغة -، هو كتاب لا يضيف للقارئ شيئا - بشكل عام -، وهذا سبب كاف لعدم تقدير ما تمت كتابته !
المشكلة في هذا الكتاب � إن كان يصح أصلا أن نسميه كتابا ! � أنه مكون من 39 صفحة فقط !
وهذا يجعلني شخصيا أتوقع أن أجد محتوى قويا، ولكن ... !
الشيء الوحيد الذي استفدته من الكتاب هو ثلاث جمل فقط :
" إن ما يؤخذ بعين الاعتبار هو ما نفعله بصفة دائمة، لا ما نفعله بين الفينة والأخرى "
" إن النجاح نتيجة حسن التقدير، وحسن التقدير نتيجة التجربة، والتجربة غالبا ما تكون نتيجة سوء تقديرك للأمور ! "
" إنك لا تلاحظ الكثير مما يمكن أن يساعدك على تحقيق أحلامك، وربما لا تستخدمه بالمرة؛ لأنك ببساطة لم تحدد أهدافك بوضوح، أي أنك لم تدرب مخك على تمييز الأمور المهمة "
أو بمعنى آخر - لا يوجد فيه مراوغة -، هو كتاب لا يضيف للقارئ شيئا - بشكل عام -، وهذا سبب كاف لعدم تقدير ما تمت كتابته !
المشكلة في هذا الكتاب � إن كان يصح أصلا أن نسميه كتابا ! � أنه مكون من 39 صفحة فقط !
وهذا يجعلني شخصيا أتوقع أن أجد محتوى قويا، ولكن ... !
الشيء الوحيد الذي استفدته من الكتاب هو ثلاث جمل فقط :
" إن ما يؤخذ بعين الاعتبار هو ما نفعله بصفة دائمة، لا ما نفعله بين الفينة والأخرى "
" إن النجاح نتيجة حسن التقدير، وحسن التقدير نتيجة التجربة، والتجربة غالبا ما تكون نتيجة سوء تقديرك للأمور ! "
" إنك لا تلاحظ الكثير مما يمكن أن يساعدك على تحقيق أحلامك، وربما لا تستخدمه بالمرة؛ لأنك ببساطة لم تحدد أهدافك بوضوح، أي أنك لم تدرب مخك على تمييز الأمور المهمة "
January 2, 2011
This book is a fantastic daily reminder of how you can control your own life.
In times when I feel that I am losing the plot I carry this with me daily and read the short and concise jolters. I am reminded that I can control how I feel and how my life progresses.
Anthony Robbins has produced a very meaningful and important tool to assist you with your journey of life. Buy it and use it to assist you in taking your life to where you want to go.
In times when I feel that I am losing the plot I carry this with me daily and read the short and concise jolters. I am reminded that I can control how I feel and how my life progresses.
Anthony Robbins has produced a very meaningful and important tool to assist you with your journey of life. Buy it and use it to assist you in taking your life to where you want to go.
August 20, 2016
The entire book could be one essay. Basically, believe in what you want, assess your limitations/ limiting beliefs and desires, determine your smart stretch goal, create an action plan and use a whole bunch of random NLP tactics to achieve each step towards your goal
June 28, 2015
this book is amazing! i believe it works, people just have to believe in themselves and push forward, and find their way!
January 24, 2023
I found the audiobook to be very informative and it’s great to hear the passion of Anthony Robin’s voice.
At times it was a little distracting with all the musical interludes between points.
If you’re looking for a quick hit on some day to day life-changing points to plant seeds for, then this book will fill that space.
At times it was a little distracting with all the musical interludes between points.
If you’re looking for a quick hit on some day to day life-changing points to plant seeds for, then this book will fill that space.
August 20, 2021
This is good, but his material didn't work as well for a 'daily read' for me. Stick with his other books where you can digest larger concepts over a couple of hours, rather than trying to fit this in a couple minutes each day.
March 4, 2023
Good short book for self improvement.
June 2, 2025
Wala masyado bago here
Although we cannot always control the events in our lives, we can always control our response to them, and the actions we take as a result.
� We must commit to learning from our mistakes instead of agonizing over them, or we're destined to repeat our errors in the future. When you temporarily run aground, remember that there are no failures in life. There are only results.
� What have you learned from a past mistake that you can use to improve your life today?
� some of our goals, such as "I need to pay my lousy bills," lack any inspiration. The secret of unleashing your true power is setting goals that are exciting enough that they truly inspire your creativity and ignite your passion.
� pick a goal that excites you the most, something that will get you up early and keep you up late. Assign a deadline for achieving it
� The secret to achieving your goals is mental conditioning. Review them at least twice daily. Post your goals where you're sure to see them every day: in your journal, on your desk, in your wallet, or over your bathroom mirror so you can look at them while you're shaving or putting on makeup. Remember, whatever you consistently think about and focus upon, you move toward. This is a simple yet important way to program your RAS for success.
� THE ULTIMATE SUCCESS FORMULA
1) Decide what you want. (Be precise! Clarity is power.)
2) Take action (because desire is not enough).
3) Notice what's working or not. (You don't want to continue to expend energy on an approach that's worthless.)
4) Change your approach until you achieve what you want. (Flexibility gives you the power to create a new approach and a new result.)
� The real purpose of a goal is what it makes of you as a human being while you pursue it. Who you become as a person is the ultimate reward
� Take a moment now to write a brief paragraph describing all the character traits, skills, abilities, attitudes, and beliefs you need to develop to achieve all of your goals.
� Don't put off joy and happiness. To so many people, goal setting means that only someday, after they've achieved something great, will they be able to enjoy life. There's a huge difference between achieving to be happy and happily achieving. Strive to live each day to its fullest, squeezing all the joy you can out of each moment. Instead of measuring your life's value by your progress toward a single goal, remember that the direction you're headed in is more important than temporary results. What is your current direction? Are you moving toward your goals or away from them? Do you need to make a course correction? Are you enjoying life to the fullest? If not, make a change in one of these areas now
� Most people overestimate what they can do in a year and underestimate what they can do in a decade. What will you be doing ten years from now?
� To get what you want, you must discover what's preventing you from taking action. Think of something you avoided doing until the last minute: your taxes, for example. Isn't it true that you put it off simply to avoid the pain of the moment, only to experience even greater pain later on?
� In the future, instead of asking, "How can I avoid doing this painful task?" ask, "If I don't take action now, what will this ultimately cost me?"
� Pain can be your friend if you use it effectively.
� Are you perhaps reacting rather than deliberately choosing?
� What you link pain to and what you link pleasure to shape your destiny. Each of us has learned and adopted a unique pattern of behaviors to get ourselves out of pain and into pleasure
� For most people, their fear of loss is much greater than their desire for gain. Most individuals would work much harder to hang on to what they have than to take the necessary risks to shoot for their dreams
� Often when we see greatness in others we assume they are just more fortunate, blessed with special gifts. In reality they have utilized a greater depth of their human resources simply because failing to be, do, and share their all would be the ultimate pain for them.
� Willpower never works —at least not long term
� Procrastination is one of the most common ways to avoid pain. But usually if you delay taking action, you only create more pain for yourself later on.
� 1) Why haven't I taken this action? In the past, what pain have I linked to doing it?
2) What pleasure have I had in the past by indulging in this negative pattern?
3) What will it cost me if I don't change now? How does that make me feel?
4) What pleasure will I receive by taking each of these actions right now?
� 1) Most of us do not consciously decide what we're going to believe.
2) Often our beliefs are based on a misinterpretation of the past.
3) Once we adopt a belief, we tend to consider it gospel and forget that it's only one perspective.
� If you believe you're intelligent, for example, you've probably had experiences (references) of doing well in school, being told you're smart, etc.
However, we're not limited to our past as a source of certainty. Like Roger Bannister, we can use our imagination to create references for—and certainty about—things we've yet to even attempt.
� Optimists see failures as learning experiences, as challenges to modify their approach. Pessimists take failures personally, interpreting them as evidence of some deep-seated character flaw.
� 1) As I reconsider it, what's actually silly, ridiculous, or stupid about this belief?
2) What has this belief already cost me? How has it limited me in the past?
3) What could it cost me in the future if I don't change now?
Answering these types of questions will help you associate painful feelings to the old, undesired belief and provide you with the opportunity to replace it with an empowering one.
� we must adopt the concept of continuous improvement as a daily principle rather than as a goal to be pursued only occasionally.
� It's time to get rid of beliefs that no longer serve you!
� Relationships flourish when people ask the right questions about where potential conflicts exist and how to support each other rather than tearing each other down
� For whatever area of your life you want to improve, there are questions you can ask that will provide you with answers � solutions —that can catapult you and those you love to a higher level of success and enjoyment. Do you need to ask questions about quality? commitment? contribution?
� If you ask a lousy question like "Why do I keep screwing up?" you'll get a lousy answer. On the other hand, when you ask a much more useful question such as "How can I use this?" it automatically leads you in the direction of solutions.
� Ask the questions that will uplift your spirit and push you along the path of human excellence.
� Questions like "What will fill me up?" or "What's the sweetest, richest food I can get away with?"
What if you were to ask instead, "What would really nourish me?" "What light, delicious dish can I eat that would give me energy?" "Will this cleanse me or clog me?"
� How do you immediately improve your life? By discovering and modeling the habitual questions of people you respect.
� A new level of success in any area of your life is as close as a new question that you've modeled from someone who's already experiencing that which you desire.
� if learning and progress are important to you, then a question such as "How can I use this situation to do even better in the future?" will be most effective in breaking a negative emotional pattern.
� How can I use today as an investment in my future?
� helping me overcome challenges: "What's great about this?" and "How can I use this?" Asking the first question disrupts negative momentum and reminds me that we can choose to attach any meaning whatsoever to an experience. Asking the second question focuses me on the "how"
� No one can "program" you. You must condition yourself.
� What really makes change happen? It happens when we alter in our nervous system the sensations we link to an experience.
As long as cigarettes give you feelings of pleasure, you'll be drawn to them. It's only when you associate cigarettes with disgust, "ashtray mouth," and death that lasting change will actually occur.
� Though we'd like to deny it, what usually drives our behavior is gut reaction, not intellectual calculation. You may understand that chocolate is unhealthy, yet do you still eat it? Why? Because you're not driven so much by what you intellectually know, but instead by what you've learned to link pain and pleasure to in your nervous system, It's our neuro-associations —the associations we've established in our nervous systems—that determine what we'll do.
� Make change a must.
� Create a new, empowering alternative. You can't just stop a behavior or an emotion; you must replace it.
� To create a new pattern of thinking, feeling, or behaving, you must first interrupt the old pattern.
� Whatever you fail to use you lose. An easy way to interrupt a limiting pattern is simply to avoid indulging in it. A nerve pathway (neuro-associ-ation) unused will gradually atrophy.
� rehearse a new behavior by imagining it or practicing it regularly with emotional intensity (e.g., excitement, passion) you'll establish a new "neural highway" to pleasure. This kind of conditioning ensures that you automatically feel compelled to drive along your new "route" (emotionaLfoehavioral pattern).
� Remember, it's important to reinforce the new pattern of behavior by immediately rewarding yourself (or someone you're helping) whenever you use
� Impeccable timing is absolutely critical to effective conditioning. For reinforcement to work, it must happen at the exact moment the person does something you want. If too much time passes before the behavior is reinforced, either negatively or positively, then the connection is made intellectually, but not emotionally in the nervous system.
� people who are ticketed for parking in a handicapped zone may suffer some inconvenience later. But since they don't have to pay the fine for several weeks, repeat offenders tend not to link much pain to the behavior.
� I can guarantee you, though, that if every time they parked in a handicapped zone, their car immediately exploded, not only would their pattern be broken but a new pattern would be instantly installed!
� Make a list of pleasurable rewards you can give yourself immediately when you do the "right things." Then set up a specific situation in which you consciously reinforce yourself using one of these rewards.
� Consistency of reinforcement is very important when you're first conditioning a new pattern. Every time you perform the desired behavior (for example, you get up from the table before you're full, or you turn down someone's offer of a cigarette), reward yourself immediately.
� If you reinforce somebody every single time, it soon becomes boring. Once a pattern of behavior is established, the tool of variable reinforcement is far more effective for maintaining it. So, after about a month of consistent rewards for a new behavior, taper off. Instead, reward yourself or others spontaneously!
� Therefore, to effectively reinforce yourself or others, be sure to include some special surprise for extraordinary efforts.
� Make certain that when you think of your old pattern of feeling or behaving, you immediately associate intense pain to it.
2) Be sure pleasure is fully associated with the new pattern: When you think of your new behavior or feelings, do you feel pleasure instead of pain?
� Yet do you ever stop to think about the power you have to inspire or depress yourself simply by the words you habitually use?
� Who do you know that leads an extraordinarily happy or passionate life? What words do they consistently use to describe their life's experience that you could model, and thereby adopt some of their positive emotional patterns?
� What can I learn from this? How can I communicate the importance of my standards?"
� Find a role model, someone who has found a way to get what you want, and learn from him or her.
� Cultivate an attitude of positive expectancy about what will happen in the future, regardless of what has occurred in the past.
� The action signal of guilt tells you that you have violated one of your own highest standards, and that you must do something immediately to ensure that you correct the situation and keep yourself from ever violating it again. This is how we maintain internal integrity.
The Solution
1) Acknowledge that you've violated your own critical standards.
2) Absolutely commit to making sure you'll never repeat this behavior. Mentally and emotionally rehearse how you'd deal with the same situation again in a way consistent with your highest personal standards.
3) Don't wallow in guilt. Now that you've utilized it to get yourself back in line, let go of it—do the right thing! Continually beating yourself up will not help you or anyone else to be better.
� Cultivate the emotions of love and warmth. A marvelous core belief to adopt comes from A Course in Miracles: All communication is either a loving response or a cry for help. If someone comes to you in a state of hurt or anger, and you consistently respond with love and warmth, eventually that person's state will change and his or her intensity will melt away.
� Man's mind stretched to a new idea never goes back to its original dimensions."
� Knowing what to do is not enough; you must do what you know.
� The same kind of thinking that has brought us to where we are will not get us where we want to go. Change is our greatest ally, yet so many—whether individuals, corporations, or communities—resist it, justifying their current strategies by pointing to the success they now enjoy. Yet an entirely different approach may be required in order to produce a new level of personal and professional success.
� Never spend more than 10 percent of your time on the problem, and always spend at least 90 percent of your time on the solution.For the next ten consecutive days, make certain that your entire focus is on solutions and not on problems. The moment you perceive a possible challenge, immediately focus on a possible solution.Years ago I got hooked on a habit that has turned out to be one of the most valuable of my life: reading at least 30 minutes a day. Jim Rohn, one of my teachers, told me that reading something of substance, something of value, something that was nourishing, something that taught you new distinctions, was more important than eating. "Miss a meal," he said, "but don't miss your reading."you can't judge a person's character on one isolated incident. People are not their behaviors. Understand what drives them, and you will really know them.superior evaluations create a superior life. For example, those who succeed financially have better ways of evaluating opportunities' risks and rewards.Those who have lasting relationships are superior in evaluating how to respond to their spouse in stressful situations. Those who are happier have a more effective way of evaluating life's "problems." The good news is that you can save yourself years of pain by modeling the strategies of those who are already succeeding.common denominator among successful people is that they consistently make superior evaluations. For example, some people's idea of ultimate pleasure is security, while others' is adventure. Your hierarchy of values, the third element of the Master System, is merely a list of the states you believe are most important for you to experience (pleasure-producing) and most important to avoid (pain-producing). All your decisions are driven by your unconscious desire to achieve your pleasure values and avoid your pain values. For example, if you value love but want to avoid conflict at all costs, would this affect your level of honesty in a personal relationship? Nothing splendid has ever been achieved
except by those who dared believe that something
inside of them was superior to circumstance." you may say you value your car, but it's merely a means to an end. In contrast, the end value you seek is an emotional state,
such as excitement (Pontiac), prestige (Mercedes), or safety (Volvo). If I asked you to go skydiving, would you? It would depend, among other things, on the dynamics of your values hierarchy. For example, if your top moving-toward value was security, and your top moving-away-from value was fear (meaning you'd do almost anything to avoid it), you probably wouldn't go!
But what if your top moving-away-from value was rejection, and you thought your friends would turn on you if you didn't go? Since people will do more to avoid pain than to gain pleasure, your need to avoid rejection could win out over your attachment to the need to feel secure.Have you ever felt pushed by one value while being pulled back by another? Decision making is nothing but values clarification. Don't expect people to abide by your rules if you don't clearly communicate what they are. And don't expect them to live by your rules if you're not willing to compromise and live by at least some of theirs. Also remember that even if you've clarified all your rules in advance, misunderstandings can still occur. That's why ongoing communication is so important. Never assume when it comes to rules; communicate. Any time we make a change in our lives, others in our environment will either be a help or a hindrance to our making permanent progress. If they continue to think of us in the same way as they have in the past, then their sense of certainty (beliefs) about who we've been can actually serve as a negative anchor, temporarily pulling us back into the old limiting emotions and beliefs that were once a part of our identity.We must be aware that we hold the ultimate power to define who we are. Our past does not determine our present or future. Take action and claim your new, empowering identity, starting today.rather than merely try to stop a behavior like drinking, you could expand your identity to that of a vitally healthy person dedicated to peak performance. As a natural consequence of this decision, abusing alcohol is something you'd never even consider.Start reaping the rewards of some of the strategies, tools, and daily lessons in self-mastery that you've been learning. As you read each page in this section, you'll focus on several major areas� physical, financial, and relationships—and create a method for ensuring that you live in accordance with your highest standards each and every day.The only way a relationship will last is if you see it as a place you go to give, not a place that you go to take. In your relationship, what is the most valuable thing you give? relationships break up without people even knowing what went wrong. The most important way to ensure success in any relationship is to communicate clearly up front. Make sure your rules are known and met. Decide that it's more important for you to be in love than to be right. If you ever start insisting that you have to be right, break your own pattern. If necessary, stop the conflict until you can return to it in a more resourceful state for finding a resolution.
After years of studying the most successful people in our culture, I've discovered five keys to financial mastery. The first key is the ability to create wealth. If you can find a way to increase the value of what you do by at least ten to fifteen times, then you can easily increase your income.
Start by asking yourself, "How can I be worth more to this company? How can I help it to achieve more in less time? In what ways could I help cut costs while increasing profitability and quality? What new systems could I implement? What new technology could I use that would give this company a competitive edge
Although we cannot always control the events in our lives, we can always control our response to them, and the actions we take as a result.
� We must commit to learning from our mistakes instead of agonizing over them, or we're destined to repeat our errors in the future. When you temporarily run aground, remember that there are no failures in life. There are only results.
� What have you learned from a past mistake that you can use to improve your life today?
� some of our goals, such as "I need to pay my lousy bills," lack any inspiration. The secret of unleashing your true power is setting goals that are exciting enough that they truly inspire your creativity and ignite your passion.
� pick a goal that excites you the most, something that will get you up early and keep you up late. Assign a deadline for achieving it
� The secret to achieving your goals is mental conditioning. Review them at least twice daily. Post your goals where you're sure to see them every day: in your journal, on your desk, in your wallet, or over your bathroom mirror so you can look at them while you're shaving or putting on makeup. Remember, whatever you consistently think about and focus upon, you move toward. This is a simple yet important way to program your RAS for success.
� THE ULTIMATE SUCCESS FORMULA
1) Decide what you want. (Be precise! Clarity is power.)
2) Take action (because desire is not enough).
3) Notice what's working or not. (You don't want to continue to expend energy on an approach that's worthless.)
4) Change your approach until you achieve what you want. (Flexibility gives you the power to create a new approach and a new result.)
� The real purpose of a goal is what it makes of you as a human being while you pursue it. Who you become as a person is the ultimate reward
� Take a moment now to write a brief paragraph describing all the character traits, skills, abilities, attitudes, and beliefs you need to develop to achieve all of your goals.
� Don't put off joy and happiness. To so many people, goal setting means that only someday, after they've achieved something great, will they be able to enjoy life. There's a huge difference between achieving to be happy and happily achieving. Strive to live each day to its fullest, squeezing all the joy you can out of each moment. Instead of measuring your life's value by your progress toward a single goal, remember that the direction you're headed in is more important than temporary results. What is your current direction? Are you moving toward your goals or away from them? Do you need to make a course correction? Are you enjoying life to the fullest? If not, make a change in one of these areas now
� Most people overestimate what they can do in a year and underestimate what they can do in a decade. What will you be doing ten years from now?
� To get what you want, you must discover what's preventing you from taking action. Think of something you avoided doing until the last minute: your taxes, for example. Isn't it true that you put it off simply to avoid the pain of the moment, only to experience even greater pain later on?
� In the future, instead of asking, "How can I avoid doing this painful task?" ask, "If I don't take action now, what will this ultimately cost me?"
� Pain can be your friend if you use it effectively.
� Are you perhaps reacting rather than deliberately choosing?
� What you link pain to and what you link pleasure to shape your destiny. Each of us has learned and adopted a unique pattern of behaviors to get ourselves out of pain and into pleasure
� For most people, their fear of loss is much greater than their desire for gain. Most individuals would work much harder to hang on to what they have than to take the necessary risks to shoot for their dreams
� Often when we see greatness in others we assume they are just more fortunate, blessed with special gifts. In reality they have utilized a greater depth of their human resources simply because failing to be, do, and share their all would be the ultimate pain for them.
� Willpower never works —at least not long term
� Procrastination is one of the most common ways to avoid pain. But usually if you delay taking action, you only create more pain for yourself later on.
� 1) Why haven't I taken this action? In the past, what pain have I linked to doing it?
2) What pleasure have I had in the past by indulging in this negative pattern?
3) What will it cost me if I don't change now? How does that make me feel?
4) What pleasure will I receive by taking each of these actions right now?
� 1) Most of us do not consciously decide what we're going to believe.
2) Often our beliefs are based on a misinterpretation of the past.
3) Once we adopt a belief, we tend to consider it gospel and forget that it's only one perspective.
� If you believe you're intelligent, for example, you've probably had experiences (references) of doing well in school, being told you're smart, etc.
However, we're not limited to our past as a source of certainty. Like Roger Bannister, we can use our imagination to create references for—and certainty about—things we've yet to even attempt.
� Optimists see failures as learning experiences, as challenges to modify their approach. Pessimists take failures personally, interpreting them as evidence of some deep-seated character flaw.
� 1) As I reconsider it, what's actually silly, ridiculous, or stupid about this belief?
2) What has this belief already cost me? How has it limited me in the past?
3) What could it cost me in the future if I don't change now?
Answering these types of questions will help you associate painful feelings to the old, undesired belief and provide you with the opportunity to replace it with an empowering one.
� we must adopt the concept of continuous improvement as a daily principle rather than as a goal to be pursued only occasionally.
� It's time to get rid of beliefs that no longer serve you!
� Relationships flourish when people ask the right questions about where potential conflicts exist and how to support each other rather than tearing each other down
� For whatever area of your life you want to improve, there are questions you can ask that will provide you with answers � solutions —that can catapult you and those you love to a higher level of success and enjoyment. Do you need to ask questions about quality? commitment? contribution?
� If you ask a lousy question like "Why do I keep screwing up?" you'll get a lousy answer. On the other hand, when you ask a much more useful question such as "How can I use this?" it automatically leads you in the direction of solutions.
� Ask the questions that will uplift your spirit and push you along the path of human excellence.
� Questions like "What will fill me up?" or "What's the sweetest, richest food I can get away with?"
What if you were to ask instead, "What would really nourish me?" "What light, delicious dish can I eat that would give me energy?" "Will this cleanse me or clog me?"
� How do you immediately improve your life? By discovering and modeling the habitual questions of people you respect.
� A new level of success in any area of your life is as close as a new question that you've modeled from someone who's already experiencing that which you desire.
� if learning and progress are important to you, then a question such as "How can I use this situation to do even better in the future?" will be most effective in breaking a negative emotional pattern.
� How can I use today as an investment in my future?
� helping me overcome challenges: "What's great about this?" and "How can I use this?" Asking the first question disrupts negative momentum and reminds me that we can choose to attach any meaning whatsoever to an experience. Asking the second question focuses me on the "how"
� No one can "program" you. You must condition yourself.
� What really makes change happen? It happens when we alter in our nervous system the sensations we link to an experience.
As long as cigarettes give you feelings of pleasure, you'll be drawn to them. It's only when you associate cigarettes with disgust, "ashtray mouth," and death that lasting change will actually occur.
� Though we'd like to deny it, what usually drives our behavior is gut reaction, not intellectual calculation. You may understand that chocolate is unhealthy, yet do you still eat it? Why? Because you're not driven so much by what you intellectually know, but instead by what you've learned to link pain and pleasure to in your nervous system, It's our neuro-associations —the associations we've established in our nervous systems—that determine what we'll do.
� Make change a must.
� Create a new, empowering alternative. You can't just stop a behavior or an emotion; you must replace it.
� To create a new pattern of thinking, feeling, or behaving, you must first interrupt the old pattern.
� Whatever you fail to use you lose. An easy way to interrupt a limiting pattern is simply to avoid indulging in it. A nerve pathway (neuro-associ-ation) unused will gradually atrophy.
� rehearse a new behavior by imagining it or practicing it regularly with emotional intensity (e.g., excitement, passion) you'll establish a new "neural highway" to pleasure. This kind of conditioning ensures that you automatically feel compelled to drive along your new "route" (emotionaLfoehavioral pattern).
� Remember, it's important to reinforce the new pattern of behavior by immediately rewarding yourself (or someone you're helping) whenever you use
� Impeccable timing is absolutely critical to effective conditioning. For reinforcement to work, it must happen at the exact moment the person does something you want. If too much time passes before the behavior is reinforced, either negatively or positively, then the connection is made intellectually, but not emotionally in the nervous system.
� people who are ticketed for parking in a handicapped zone may suffer some inconvenience later. But since they don't have to pay the fine for several weeks, repeat offenders tend not to link much pain to the behavior.
� I can guarantee you, though, that if every time they parked in a handicapped zone, their car immediately exploded, not only would their pattern be broken but a new pattern would be instantly installed!
� Make a list of pleasurable rewards you can give yourself immediately when you do the "right things." Then set up a specific situation in which you consciously reinforce yourself using one of these rewards.
� Consistency of reinforcement is very important when you're first conditioning a new pattern. Every time you perform the desired behavior (for example, you get up from the table before you're full, or you turn down someone's offer of a cigarette), reward yourself immediately.
� If you reinforce somebody every single time, it soon becomes boring. Once a pattern of behavior is established, the tool of variable reinforcement is far more effective for maintaining it. So, after about a month of consistent rewards for a new behavior, taper off. Instead, reward yourself or others spontaneously!
� Therefore, to effectively reinforce yourself or others, be sure to include some special surprise for extraordinary efforts.
� Make certain that when you think of your old pattern of feeling or behaving, you immediately associate intense pain to it.
2) Be sure pleasure is fully associated with the new pattern: When you think of your new behavior or feelings, do you feel pleasure instead of pain?
� Yet do you ever stop to think about the power you have to inspire or depress yourself simply by the words you habitually use?
� Who do you know that leads an extraordinarily happy or passionate life? What words do they consistently use to describe their life's experience that you could model, and thereby adopt some of their positive emotional patterns?
� What can I learn from this? How can I communicate the importance of my standards?"
� Find a role model, someone who has found a way to get what you want, and learn from him or her.
� Cultivate an attitude of positive expectancy about what will happen in the future, regardless of what has occurred in the past.
� The action signal of guilt tells you that you have violated one of your own highest standards, and that you must do something immediately to ensure that you correct the situation and keep yourself from ever violating it again. This is how we maintain internal integrity.
The Solution
1) Acknowledge that you've violated your own critical standards.
2) Absolutely commit to making sure you'll never repeat this behavior. Mentally and emotionally rehearse how you'd deal with the same situation again in a way consistent with your highest personal standards.
3) Don't wallow in guilt. Now that you've utilized it to get yourself back in line, let go of it—do the right thing! Continually beating yourself up will not help you or anyone else to be better.
� Cultivate the emotions of love and warmth. A marvelous core belief to adopt comes from A Course in Miracles: All communication is either a loving response or a cry for help. If someone comes to you in a state of hurt or anger, and you consistently respond with love and warmth, eventually that person's state will change and his or her intensity will melt away.
� Man's mind stretched to a new idea never goes back to its original dimensions."
� Knowing what to do is not enough; you must do what you know.
� The same kind of thinking that has brought us to where we are will not get us where we want to go. Change is our greatest ally, yet so many—whether individuals, corporations, or communities—resist it, justifying their current strategies by pointing to the success they now enjoy. Yet an entirely different approach may be required in order to produce a new level of personal and professional success.
� Never spend more than 10 percent of your time on the problem, and always spend at least 90 percent of your time on the solution.For the next ten consecutive days, make certain that your entire focus is on solutions and not on problems. The moment you perceive a possible challenge, immediately focus on a possible solution.Years ago I got hooked on a habit that has turned out to be one of the most valuable of my life: reading at least 30 minutes a day. Jim Rohn, one of my teachers, told me that reading something of substance, something of value, something that was nourishing, something that taught you new distinctions, was more important than eating. "Miss a meal," he said, "but don't miss your reading."you can't judge a person's character on one isolated incident. People are not their behaviors. Understand what drives them, and you will really know them.superior evaluations create a superior life. For example, those who succeed financially have better ways of evaluating opportunities' risks and rewards.Those who have lasting relationships are superior in evaluating how to respond to their spouse in stressful situations. Those who are happier have a more effective way of evaluating life's "problems." The good news is that you can save yourself years of pain by modeling the strategies of those who are already succeeding.common denominator among successful people is that they consistently make superior evaluations. For example, some people's idea of ultimate pleasure is security, while others' is adventure. Your hierarchy of values, the third element of the Master System, is merely a list of the states you believe are most important for you to experience (pleasure-producing) and most important to avoid (pain-producing). All your decisions are driven by your unconscious desire to achieve your pleasure values and avoid your pain values. For example, if you value love but want to avoid conflict at all costs, would this affect your level of honesty in a personal relationship? Nothing splendid has ever been achieved
except by those who dared believe that something
inside of them was superior to circumstance." you may say you value your car, but it's merely a means to an end. In contrast, the end value you seek is an emotional state,
such as excitement (Pontiac), prestige (Mercedes), or safety (Volvo). If I asked you to go skydiving, would you? It would depend, among other things, on the dynamics of your values hierarchy. For example, if your top moving-toward value was security, and your top moving-away-from value was fear (meaning you'd do almost anything to avoid it), you probably wouldn't go!
But what if your top moving-away-from value was rejection, and you thought your friends would turn on you if you didn't go? Since people will do more to avoid pain than to gain pleasure, your need to avoid rejection could win out over your attachment to the need to feel secure.Have you ever felt pushed by one value while being pulled back by another? Decision making is nothing but values clarification. Don't expect people to abide by your rules if you don't clearly communicate what they are. And don't expect them to live by your rules if you're not willing to compromise and live by at least some of theirs. Also remember that even if you've clarified all your rules in advance, misunderstandings can still occur. That's why ongoing communication is so important. Never assume when it comes to rules; communicate. Any time we make a change in our lives, others in our environment will either be a help or a hindrance to our making permanent progress. If they continue to think of us in the same way as they have in the past, then their sense of certainty (beliefs) about who we've been can actually serve as a negative anchor, temporarily pulling us back into the old limiting emotions and beliefs that were once a part of our identity.We must be aware that we hold the ultimate power to define who we are. Our past does not determine our present or future. Take action and claim your new, empowering identity, starting today.rather than merely try to stop a behavior like drinking, you could expand your identity to that of a vitally healthy person dedicated to peak performance. As a natural consequence of this decision, abusing alcohol is something you'd never even consider.Start reaping the rewards of some of the strategies, tools, and daily lessons in self-mastery that you've been learning. As you read each page in this section, you'll focus on several major areas� physical, financial, and relationships—and create a method for ensuring that you live in accordance with your highest standards each and every day.The only way a relationship will last is if you see it as a place you go to give, not a place that you go to take. In your relationship, what is the most valuable thing you give? relationships break up without people even knowing what went wrong. The most important way to ensure success in any relationship is to communicate clearly up front. Make sure your rules are known and met. Decide that it's more important for you to be in love than to be right. If you ever start insisting that you have to be right, break your own pattern. If necessary, stop the conflict until you can return to it in a more resourceful state for finding a resolution.
After years of studying the most successful people in our culture, I've discovered five keys to financial mastery. The first key is the ability to create wealth. If you can find a way to increase the value of what you do by at least ten to fifteen times, then you can easily increase your income.
Start by asking yourself, "How can I be worth more to this company? How can I help it to achieve more in less time? In what ways could I help cut costs while increasing profitability and quality? What new systems could I implement? What new technology could I use that would give this company a competitive edge
April 7, 2018
Really outstanding book! This makes all of Tony's teachings very easy to understand, consume, and apply.
it's personal development gold. Two of the best things I've learned is so far is:
- have a "what I'm procrastinating on" list and for each of the items determine, " what are the consequences of not doing?" (or worst possible consequences to kick it up a notch)
- after you write your goals, determine, "why I'm absolutely committed to making it happen/achieving it"
there's a ton more "tools" to apply that are or should be common sense like diligently asking, "what have I learned from my mistakes?" and
much more.
I'll update more after I finish reading and start consistently applying the tools. this is a seminal personal development book that has the potential to change people's lives in a major way if they apply the things within
it's personal development gold. Two of the best things I've learned is so far is:
- have a "what I'm procrastinating on" list and for each of the items determine, " what are the consequences of not doing?" (or worst possible consequences to kick it up a notch)
- after you write your goals, determine, "why I'm absolutely committed to making it happen/achieving it"
there's a ton more "tools" to apply that are or should be common sense like diligently asking, "what have I learned from my mistakes?" and
much more.
I'll update more after I finish reading and start consistently applying the tools. this is a seminal personal development book that has the potential to change people's lives in a major way if they apply the things within
September 17, 2012
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June 26, 2016
It was cool. Very upbeat. Lots of good one liners- not very application based though
September 29, 2017
There are better books about productivity
November 17, 2018
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سأكمل قرأته حين الحصول على البقية بعون الله تعالى
سأكمل قرأته حين الحصول على البقية بعون الله تعالى
April 18, 2021
I must’ve picked this book up in the �90s. I don’t remember buying it, to be honest, yet there it was in a stack of other books I came across while cleaning.
This is a typical self-improvement book from the �80s and �90s. It was interesting to note the pop psychology language in it that’s now a part of the modern emotions- and feelings-based lexicon. It’s mostly pablum with the occasional good idea tossed in, presented in a page-per-day-for- a-year format. The ideas in the book may have been new or groundbreaking at the time, but I doubt it. It’s warmed over Norman Vincent Peale and Napoleon Hill for the most part, with some L.Ron Hubbard thrown in.
This is a typical self-improvement book from the �80s and �90s. It was interesting to note the pop psychology language in it that’s now a part of the modern emotions- and feelings-based lexicon. It’s mostly pablum with the occasional good idea tossed in, presented in a page-per-day-for- a-year format. The ideas in the book may have been new or groundbreaking at the time, but I doubt it. It’s warmed over Norman Vincent Peale and Napoleon Hill for the most part, with some L.Ron Hubbard thrown in.
September 16, 2023
Rating sebenar : 4.3/5.0 ⭐️
Buku ini bagi aaya okay, cuma ada sedikit kelelahan dalam fasa menghabiskan bacaan. Barangkali kerana saya membacanya dalam versi terjemahan dan bukan dalam versi asal (English version). Penulis menerangkan konsep-konsep gaya pemikiran yang baik dan juga action plan untuk mempunyai gaya pemikiran tersebut. Overall, buku ini not bad. Banyak juga isi buku yang saya highlight.
Buku ini bagi aaya okay, cuma ada sedikit kelelahan dalam fasa menghabiskan bacaan. Barangkali kerana saya membacanya dalam versi terjemahan dan bukan dalam versi asal (English version). Penulis menerangkan konsep-konsep gaya pemikiran yang baik dan juga action plan untuk mempunyai gaya pemikiran tersebut. Overall, buku ini not bad. Banyak juga isi buku yang saya highlight.
July 5, 2019
This book gives various life tips. I tried using some of them it really helped.
I Recommend this book to people who is in need to find a way to change herself/himself.
"Remember to expect miracles... because you are one." I will remember this sentence for life
I can´t wait to read more of his bo0ks
I Recommend this book to people who is in need to find a way to change herself/himself.
"Remember to expect miracles... because you are one." I will remember this sentence for life
I can´t wait to read more of his bo0ks
April 1, 2020
The book serves you what it says on the tin. Excellent insights though not comprehensive on what drives human behaviour, choices and decisions. A great starting point for anyone looking to learn the fundamentals of self-mastery.
December 29, 2017
repetitive advices
March 3, 2018
Tony Robbins never fails to inspire. The audio version was a breeze to listen too. I had many flash backs to a tape player while listening to the book. Two solid hours of content you won't regret.
March 22, 2018
Qu'est-ce qu'un morceau de merde!
October 14, 2018
It was an amazing experience dwelling in the knowledge of Tim Robbins. A truly inspiring book about self mastery.
December 30, 2018
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February 11, 2019
Read this many years ago. From what I remember it was a huge book. But it was based around a simple concept that I was able to internalize. I used that concept to positively change my life over time.
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