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Loud: Accept Nothing Less Than the Life You Deserve
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Nominee for Readers' Favorite Memoir (2024)Drew Afualo is best known as the internet’s 'Crusader for Women' and is at the head of a new generation of entertainment’s rising stars, with more than nine million followers across her social platforms. She soon realized that men on social media were creating sexist content aimed at disparaging women, and also containing rampant fatphobia, racism, and other forms of bigotry with very real-life consequences. It didn’t take long for her to step into the role of unofficial watchdog for misogyny, and her signature laugh is now recognized as a feminist call to arms.Loud is part manual, part manifesto, and part memoir. It is a summoning cry to rid the internet (and our hearts, minds, and lives) of 'terrible men' and create a space to fight outdated patriarchal ideals. Above all, it makes it clear that behind Drew’s fearsome laugh is a mission and a life philosophy, a strategy for self-confidence from the inside out, and a pathway to once and for all remove men from the centre of how women and fems think about themselves.
256 pages, Hardcover
First published July 30, 2024
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July 9, 2024
i would pay taxes to her
December 14, 2024
my biggest flex is that i’m alive at the same time as this incredible woman.
July 15, 2024
This was fantastic. I love Drew but she's still fairly young so I wasn't sure what to expect from a memoir. I'm several years older than her, but this is written like a big sister offering advice on life, dating, finding your voice, being true to yourself, and what to do when you mess up. Sprinkled in with pieces of her life. It's something I would hand to young women in their late teens and twenties quite readily. The feminism is intersectional in terms of race, sexuality, and gender identity and she talks about being Samoan throughout the book. The standout thing to me that I think applies when you're looking at criticisms of the content she makes is this- misogynistic men are afraid of being made fun of while women are afraid of being sexually assaulted or killed. These things are not the same and I find what Drew does to be incredibly empowering. Well worth a read and she reads the audiobook herself which is fun. I received an audio review copy via NetGalley, all opinions are my own.
May 29, 2024
drew afualo, the woman you are.
some of my favorite quotes from this (without making this review ten pages long)
I can't wait to buy a physical copy and I too, will be thinking of Drew when I stand up for myself, sitting up straighter, shoulders back, chin up.
Thank you to NetGalley and Farrar, Straus and Giroux for the ARC!
If I had a physical copy of this book, it would look beat-up, and full of highlights and notes. And not in a cute way.
drew writes so well, formal yet informal, I felt like I was having a conversation with her. I felt that I was having a conversation with a big sister, someone who was forcefully, yet lovingly, reminded me I deserve better. I cannot recommend this book enough. she also includes her own experiences, and brought tears to my eyes. she is such a bright light in this world.
some of my favorite quotes from this (without making this review ten pages long)
"Now repeat after me: "No, I cannot fix him." And: "No it is not my job to.""
"The word "no" is a complete sentence."
"You are worth all the love and respect you put out into the world, and you are destined to receive it."
I can't wait to buy a physical copy and I too, will be thinking of Drew when I stand up for myself, sitting up straighter, shoulders back, chin up.
Thank you to NetGalley and Farrar, Straus and Giroux for the ARC!
August 21, 2024
2.5� sighs…let me start by saying that I am not familiar with Drew Afualo. Ive seen her on the internet a few times & think she’s funny, makes great content, but am not a follower. I just love a memoir! This however was not quite that? Or maybe it was? Idk a lil “my story� but a lotta preaching so I almost DNF’d. I audiobooked it which made it easier to finish as her voice is calming, but had I been physically holding it, I wouldve ditched it.
Everything she says in this book is real! True! Correct! I just don’t think I was the target audience. This felt very preachy about basic feminism and not taking shit from crap men. Which again, period! But just all felt so elementary to me. This would be great for a preteen audience or teen audience. Perhaps for those also in their 20s, but again everyone is at a different point in their journey so if you are needing affirmations about your worth and men being insecure then this is for you nd it will definitely hype you up! I also feel you can get that type of affirmation from so many other books that exist right now, so I just felt that this didnt address any gaps in that sense, but am glad there is Samoan representation and appreciated the beautiful ways she discussed the culture and community.
If anything, this made me want a book written by her mother? Like who is this icon! Give me a parenting guide/memoir ! That is what I feel could’ve been a stronger book and bigger impact but alas! Maybe next time. Keeping an eye out for Mama Afualo’s book
Everything she says in this book is real! True! Correct! I just don’t think I was the target audience. This felt very preachy about basic feminism and not taking shit from crap men. Which again, period! But just all felt so elementary to me. This would be great for a preteen audience or teen audience. Perhaps for those also in their 20s, but again everyone is at a different point in their journey so if you are needing affirmations about your worth and men being insecure then this is for you nd it will definitely hype you up! I also feel you can get that type of affirmation from so many other books that exist right now, so I just felt that this didnt address any gaps in that sense, but am glad there is Samoan representation and appreciated the beautiful ways she discussed the culture and community.
If anything, this made me want a book written by her mother? Like who is this icon! Give me a parenting guide/memoir ! That is what I feel could’ve been a stronger book and bigger impact but alas! Maybe next time. Keeping an eye out for Mama Afualo’s book
August 8, 2024
girl mentioned being a virgo 10 too many times
September 27, 2024
2.5 ⭐️
This was a bit tough to get through. Although I enjoyed hearing Drew’s personal stories and learning more about her, the book was VERY repetitive and at times very cringy. A lot of slang and TikTok speak was put into this which I think will age the book pretty poorly. I agree with most if not all of Drew’s opinions and notions but I found it hard to get behind her as the champion for all women. Everyone is at a different place in their journey of self love and acceptance and I can see how Drew is someone many look up to as a guide on how live with authenticity and integrity but I feel that it didn’t translate well into a book and just wasn’t for me.
This was a bit tough to get through. Although I enjoyed hearing Drew’s personal stories and learning more about her, the book was VERY repetitive and at times very cringy. A lot of slang and TikTok speak was put into this which I think will age the book pretty poorly. I agree with most if not all of Drew’s opinions and notions but I found it hard to get behind her as the champion for all women. Everyone is at a different place in their journey of self love and acceptance and I can see how Drew is someone many look up to as a guide on how live with authenticity and integrity but I feel that it didn’t translate well into a book and just wasn’t for me.
February 28, 2024
ARC provided by the publisher via NetGalley.
It's easy to call this a modern feminist manifesto - a bit memoir, a bit self-help, and every page a call to action to influence your world for your own well-being, and by extension, the well-being of others. If all you know of Drew is that she drags misogynistic dudes on the internet, you'll have missed everything else she puts out into the world, and this book allows that side of her to come out: the woman, the ally, the one who has your back, and the one who believes in the sisterhood of women and femmes.
While I have a decade on her, there are valuable lessons and reminders in this book for any age. Whether it's about decisions around work, life, romance, friendships, bodies, and society, the reminder to fight the boxes the patriarchy wants to shove us into is an important one. The reminder that we have to work on ourselves but should never hesitate to recognize we don't have to do it alone is a powerful one as well. In the end, you'll have laughed with Drew, cried with and for her, and feel like you're not alone in some of the things you think, feel, and dream.
It's like reading an encouraging letter from the most baddie friend you have, and you should take every single word to heart. This is an entry-level text on unlearning the confines of the patriarchy, and hopefully a stepping stone for so many women and femmes in this world to explore it more.
It's easy to call this a modern feminist manifesto - a bit memoir, a bit self-help, and every page a call to action to influence your world for your own well-being, and by extension, the well-being of others. If all you know of Drew is that she drags misogynistic dudes on the internet, you'll have missed everything else she puts out into the world, and this book allows that side of her to come out: the woman, the ally, the one who has your back, and the one who believes in the sisterhood of women and femmes.
While I have a decade on her, there are valuable lessons and reminders in this book for any age. Whether it's about decisions around work, life, romance, friendships, bodies, and society, the reminder to fight the boxes the patriarchy wants to shove us into is an important one. The reminder that we have to work on ourselves but should never hesitate to recognize we don't have to do it alone is a powerful one as well. In the end, you'll have laughed with Drew, cried with and for her, and feel like you're not alone in some of the things you think, feel, and dream.
It's like reading an encouraging letter from the most baddie friend you have, and you should take every single word to heart. This is an entry-level text on unlearning the confines of the patriarchy, and hopefully a stepping stone for so many women and femmes in this world to explore it more.
January 20, 2025
5🌟 audiobooked this ofc. I always love audiobooking memoirs, especially when they are narrated by the author! I loved it sm, it felt very coming of age and I loved getting to hear more of her upbringing and backstory as a fan her content already!
August 14, 2024
drew is who i want to be when i grow up.
February 25, 2025
I have absolutely nothing bad to say about this book at all. I’ve always loved Drew and I always will.
I wasn’t expecting this to be more of a self help style book, but for me it was. It gave me a crap-ton of confidence and insight into how I view myself as a woman and how I do not hold much value for myself. I’ve never been confident or even liked myself at all, and I think that stems from the society we’re growing up in.
I think what is so important to recognize while reading this is to go into it with an open mind and understanding that everyone is on a different path and course in their journey and their understanding of how to be a feminist. Or even how to just be a better person who stands up for and sticks up for women/femmes.
This is an essential reading for women/femmes who are in their self doubt and pick me eras. What we need to get, as women, is that life was never supposed to be easy for us, but that’s okay, because we can always come out in the end strong and resilient. While reading this book, it was easy for me to relate to things that Drew has been through and to recognize that it’s essential to believe that I, as a woman, am worthy of respect and love and so are other women/femmes.
I respected and enjoyed that Drew did not leave out trans women/femmes, and non binary individuals and also included those of color, different body types, the LGBTQ+ community. Each and every one of you is worthy of love and respect. Never let a man drag you down. He’s not worth it unless he loves and respects you and you’ll understand if he really does when you read this book!
This book helped me to realize that I do matter and I’m worth it and so is every woman/femme reading this! I love you all 🩷🩷🩷
I wasn’t expecting this to be more of a self help style book, but for me it was. It gave me a crap-ton of confidence and insight into how I view myself as a woman and how I do not hold much value for myself. I’ve never been confident or even liked myself at all, and I think that stems from the society we’re growing up in.
I think what is so important to recognize while reading this is to go into it with an open mind and understanding that everyone is on a different path and course in their journey and their understanding of how to be a feminist. Or even how to just be a better person who stands up for and sticks up for women/femmes.
This is an essential reading for women/femmes who are in their self doubt and pick me eras. What we need to get, as women, is that life was never supposed to be easy for us, but that’s okay, because we can always come out in the end strong and resilient. While reading this book, it was easy for me to relate to things that Drew has been through and to recognize that it’s essential to believe that I, as a woman, am worthy of respect and love and so are other women/femmes.
I respected and enjoyed that Drew did not leave out trans women/femmes, and non binary individuals and also included those of color, different body types, the LGBTQ+ community. Each and every one of you is worthy of love and respect. Never let a man drag you down. He’s not worth it unless he loves and respects you and you’ll understand if he really does when you read this book!
This book helped me to realize that I do matter and I’m worth it and so is every woman/femme reading this! I love you all 🩷🩷🩷
August 10, 2024
I’m not a big memoir or non-fiction reader, but I admire Drew so much I knew I had to give her book a chance. And wow, is it phenomenal. I finished this feeling so empowered!
A couple of my fav quotes:
“There’s a big difference between being lonely and being alone. Loneliness is not permanent, it’s an emotion.�
“I am not lonely. I’m alone. And there is nothing wrong with that.�
“Remember: nothing scares a man more than a woman who knows she does not need him.�
A couple of my fav quotes:
“There’s a big difference between being lonely and being alone. Loneliness is not permanent, it’s an emotion.�
“I am not lonely. I’m alone. And there is nothing wrong with that.�
“Remember: nothing scares a man more than a woman who knows she does not need him.�
August 1, 2024
This book felt like a healthy conversation between girl friends!! ❤️❤️❤️
August 18, 2024
i don’t like to rate memoirs, but this book ended up being more self-help/advice rather than memoir so i’m gonna rank it
3 ⭐️
i love drew and i love her content online and she always makes me cackle. throughout Loud, drew does a very good job of maintaining true to her voice and who she is but also adapts her writing for the more formal media! i do think if you are in your teen years, this book is perfect for you - drew takes on a very big sister tone and explains things such as misogyny, pick-me behavior and more. but at 22, i sometimes found myself being bored or disconnected - a) because the content drew writes about are things i have already discovered/learned through my own time and experience (so all of the regurgitation of advice wasn’t for me) & b) because every chapter somehow kept touching on the same points every time and i was like having dejavu the entire time due to the drew’s reuse of sentences. highly recommend for girls in highschool as i think they are the perfect audience for this, but once you’re in your 20s this is all (hopefully) shit you already know (ex. pick me behavior isn’t good, just be yourself, it’s okay to not want to have children, male-dominated spaces, etc). i definitely expected more memoir energy.
song: truth hurts - lizzo (drew made a spotify playlist for this book so i pulled from that)
3 ⭐️
i love drew and i love her content online and she always makes me cackle. throughout Loud, drew does a very good job of maintaining true to her voice and who she is but also adapts her writing for the more formal media! i do think if you are in your teen years, this book is perfect for you - drew takes on a very big sister tone and explains things such as misogyny, pick-me behavior and more. but at 22, i sometimes found myself being bored or disconnected - a) because the content drew writes about are things i have already discovered/learned through my own time and experience (so all of the regurgitation of advice wasn’t for me) & b) because every chapter somehow kept touching on the same points every time and i was like having dejavu the entire time due to the drew’s reuse of sentences. highly recommend for girls in highschool as i think they are the perfect audience for this, but once you’re in your 20s this is all (hopefully) shit you already know (ex. pick me behavior isn’t good, just be yourself, it’s okay to not want to have children, male-dominated spaces, etc). i definitely expected more memoir energy.
song: truth hurts - lizzo (drew made a spotify playlist for this book so i pulled from that)
January 8, 2025
Drew has been an inspiration to me for years now. Her unapologetic voice inspires me to use my own to defend myself and others around me, and this memoir is no different. Her approachable look at feminism in today's landscape is encouraging, inspiring, and I am grateful for her presence online and in the entertainment world.
A wonderful debut I'll be thinking about for years to come.
A wonderful debut I'll be thinking about for years to come.
April 11, 2024
Thanks NetGalley for the e-ARC! I like Drew Afualo, and so did I like the book. Like, not love. I did learn new things about her and I inspire the way she handled a lot that came about in her life, but at the same time I didn't feel like it was adding much to what she already shares as a social media gal.
It did feel like she was reading the book to me, while reading it myself, meaning she really managed to put her own voice in this book! And, like we know our Drew, she did manage to add some jokes without taking the attention off of the important matters. I'd say well done, but it didn't wow me as I hoped it would. Also felt a bit slow sometimes and... Categorized as "self-help" I'd say it was a bit too personal chitty chatty and not so much of advice that you as a reader could use for your own life.
It did feel like she was reading the book to me, while reading it myself, meaning she really managed to put her own voice in this book! And, like we know our Drew, she did manage to add some jokes without taking the attention off of the important matters. I'd say well done, but it didn't wow me as I hoped it would. Also felt a bit slow sometimes and... Categorized as "self-help" I'd say it was a bit too personal chitty chatty and not so much of advice that you as a reader could use for your own life.
October 5, 2024
Not my usual type of read but after watching/listening to Drew empower women and roast (shitty) men on TikTok, I thought I’d give it a go. Is it a literary masterpiece? No - but it doesn’t intend to be. Was it enjoyable and inspirational? Absolutely. I now have a greater respect for Drew and her advocacy for all women, POC, LGBTIQ communities, and other marginalised groups.
“You can’t feel emasculated If your self validation doesn’t come from over powering women�.
“Women pushing other women down to uplift men only pits women against one another and props them up as nothing more than accessories in the lives of men�.
“If your approach to connecting with anyone, not just men, is based on superiority, that will never provide a foundation for a meaningful relationship of any kind�.
“Human beings are capable of cooking and cleaning and however they ‘identify� doesn’t effect their ability to do so�.
Also, ladies, just don’t be a ‘PICK ME�!!
“You can’t feel emasculated If your self validation doesn’t come from over powering women�.
“Women pushing other women down to uplift men only pits women against one another and props them up as nothing more than accessories in the lives of men�.
“If your approach to connecting with anyone, not just men, is based on superiority, that will never provide a foundation for a meaningful relationship of any kind�.
“Human beings are capable of cooking and cleaning and however they ‘identify� doesn’t effect their ability to do so�.
Also, ladies, just don’t be a ‘PICK ME�!!
October 3, 2024
Agree with the message of story 100% but it was sooooo repetitive
August 18, 2024
As a cis, gay man, I don’t know that I was exactly the intended audience for Drew’s book (even if I exist on the more femme end of the spectrum). This book came recommended from a trusted friend, and I really wanted to like it. I just feel that it missed the mark in ways.
The most compelling parts of her narrative are when she uses examples from her own life to illuminate the intersectional systems of power and domination. The lived experiences are real and raw, but much of the rest of the book reads more like a textbook. It’s a “Women’s Studies 101� in a way that feels a bit inauthentic compared to her natural storytelling abilities. As someone who has studied the works of intersectional scholars like Crenshaw, Hill Collins, hooks, and many other Black feminist theorists, it fell short of the goal of collective liberation in favor of critiquing masculinity and existing systems of power rather than working to change, reimagine, or abolish it—which, if we’re being honest, is Drew’s brand and what she’s made a very successful career of.
Chapter 10 was especially problematic for me. I understand the fighting fire with fire metaphor of body shaming men who body shame women, but, in practice that is ineffective and only perpetuates the problem. To capitalize on a man’s “small feet and small dick� is inherently flawed as a tool to counteract comments on women’s bodies. This is a conversation in circles of “body positivity� or “body neutrality� that I think so many miss, and it leaves men (gay, straight, queer, etc.) who would be allies feeling alienated. At least, for me, and the intersections of my identities and lived experiences, this came across as a bit condescending from someone who spends so much of the book saying she’s an advocate for all femmes.
The most compelling parts of her narrative are when she uses examples from her own life to illuminate the intersectional systems of power and domination. The lived experiences are real and raw, but much of the rest of the book reads more like a textbook. It’s a “Women’s Studies 101� in a way that feels a bit inauthentic compared to her natural storytelling abilities. As someone who has studied the works of intersectional scholars like Crenshaw, Hill Collins, hooks, and many other Black feminist theorists, it fell short of the goal of collective liberation in favor of critiquing masculinity and existing systems of power rather than working to change, reimagine, or abolish it—which, if we’re being honest, is Drew’s brand and what she’s made a very successful career of.
Chapter 10 was especially problematic for me. I understand the fighting fire with fire metaphor of body shaming men who body shame women, but, in practice that is ineffective and only perpetuates the problem. To capitalize on a man’s “small feet and small dick� is inherently flawed as a tool to counteract comments on women’s bodies. This is a conversation in circles of “body positivity� or “body neutrality� that I think so many miss, and it leaves men (gay, straight, queer, etc.) who would be allies feeling alienated. At least, for me, and the intersections of my identities and lived experiences, this came across as a bit condescending from someone who spends so much of the book saying she’s an advocate for all femmes.
July 15, 2024
Definitely not what I was expecting. I was hoping for a humorous memoir with some heartfelt life lessons. This was kind of like Beginner’s Feminism 101 told incredibly earnestly from someone with the exact same viewpoints as me.
If you had a healthy childhood led by a powerful mom, this will probably just repeat the phrases you’ve heard your whole life.
TY to Macmillan Audio & NetGalley for the advanced copy of the audiobook.
If you had a healthy childhood led by a powerful mom, this will probably just repeat the phrases you’ve heard your whole life.
TY to Macmillan Audio & NetGalley for the advanced copy of the audiobook.
September 25, 2024
"Fuck being cool and fuck being chill. If the reward for being the coolest girl in the room is a sliver of attention from the world’s most mediocre men then I would happily commit to never being cool and never being chill."
anyways y'all should read this book for this quote alone. drew ate.
anyways y'all should read this book for this quote alone. drew ate.
July 5, 2024
Not only has Drew made us laugh countless times, but she’s brought me to tears with her beautifully written memoir. I’ve watched Drew’s career bloom over the last few years and it was so nice to learn about how she got to where she is which heavily involved her family dynamic. I loved learning about her culture and how strong each person surrounding her is resulting in the confident, protective, and strong individual she is today. She didn’t just run with it, she wants everyone else to feel that way too. She is so inspiring and I hope to be able to implement some of these thought processes in my life!
This audiobook was narrated by the author and I loved getting to hear it in her voice. I did miss the cackling but I’ll listen to anything she reads!
Thank you so much to Netgalley, Drew Afualo, and Macmillan Audio for providing this free ARC. This is my honest review! This publishes on July 30th!
This audiobook was narrated by the author and I loved getting to hear it in her voice. I did miss the cackling but I’ll listen to anything she reads!
Thank you so much to Netgalley, Drew Afualo, and Macmillan Audio for providing this free ARC. This is my honest review! This publishes on July 30th!
January 5, 2025
2 ⭐️ I love drew and I love her content. I agree with everything she says in this book. I just think the style of writing and language usage was not my favorite. Something about it was really hard for me to enjoy.
I think this would be an excellent book for younger people that have less life experience and need some guidance in terms of self confidence and feminism.
Again, love Drew. Did not love this book.
I think this would be an excellent book for younger people that have less life experience and need some guidance in terms of self confidence and feminism.
Again, love Drew. Did not love this book.
August 28, 2024
While the feminist commentary was nothing new to me personally, I still found myself nodding along, especially throughout the audiobook hearing it spoken in her very familiar voice (she narrates it!). I definitely enjoyed the more personal aspects of it, like what her family means to her, and some of her story as to how she became the Drew we all know and love. I dunno, I just think she’s fun!
August 31, 2024
DNF. Too repetitive for me and although I love Drew and her videos. It was pretty difficult to get through this book hence why im not going to finish.
September 16, 2024
I opened this book and Drew's iconic laugh came out like it was one of those singing greeting cards.
July 16, 2024
thank you to netgalley, the publisher, and drew afualo herself for the advanced reader copy of "loud".
i have been following drew afualo for a couple of years now, and have always admired her for her outspoken, brazen nature toward misogyny and disrespect. i will never forget the time she said this sexist man looked like a lollipop someone dropped on a carpet. when she first announced on her profile that she would be releasing her memoir in august, best believe i scrambled to netgalley to see if arc copies were being offered. given afualo's humorous content, i was expecting primarily a comedic approach to her life story, but it had so much more substance than that. afualo is so well-spoken and intelligent, and somehow she still made it feel like you were having a conversation with a good friend. not only does this book approach drew's life and upbringing, but she also presents some much needed conversations on misogyny, where it stems from, and how women and femmes should confront this behavior. "loud" has made me gain even more respect for drew afualo, and i cannot wait to see the world's reaction to her book.
some quotes i really enjoyed:
* "If comparing these dudes' teeth to the doors of a haunted house could bring at the very least a snap of joy into someone's day, while possibly helping a few others question why these men have any say in how they feel about themselves, then I would gladly crack jokes all day long."
* "Some people may say I'm being contrarian, but I say better to be contrarian than die a thousand little deaths of disrespect."
* "Don't dim your light so inferior men won't have to cover their eyes in your presence."
* "We expect women to be everything and take on more and more of the burden, while our expectations for men stay exactly where they are. Tell me, where's the equality in that?"
* "It's not our fault if we are born ignorant, but it is our fault if we die that way."
* "I committed to the idea that they were right about one thing: I wasn't like the other girls--I was going to be much, much worse."
* "You should never have to outsource the foundation of self-love. It was always meant to come from within."
i have been following drew afualo for a couple of years now, and have always admired her for her outspoken, brazen nature toward misogyny and disrespect. i will never forget the time she said this sexist man looked like a lollipop someone dropped on a carpet. when she first announced on her profile that she would be releasing her memoir in august, best believe i scrambled to netgalley to see if arc copies were being offered. given afualo's humorous content, i was expecting primarily a comedic approach to her life story, but it had so much more substance than that. afualo is so well-spoken and intelligent, and somehow she still made it feel like you were having a conversation with a good friend. not only does this book approach drew's life and upbringing, but she also presents some much needed conversations on misogyny, where it stems from, and how women and femmes should confront this behavior. "loud" has made me gain even more respect for drew afualo, and i cannot wait to see the world's reaction to her book.
some quotes i really enjoyed:
* "If comparing these dudes' teeth to the doors of a haunted house could bring at the very least a snap of joy into someone's day, while possibly helping a few others question why these men have any say in how they feel about themselves, then I would gladly crack jokes all day long."
* "Some people may say I'm being contrarian, but I say better to be contrarian than die a thousand little deaths of disrespect."
* "Don't dim your light so inferior men won't have to cover their eyes in your presence."
* "We expect women to be everything and take on more and more of the burden, while our expectations for men stay exactly where they are. Tell me, where's the equality in that?"
* "It's not our fault if we are born ignorant, but it is our fault if we die that way."
* "I committed to the idea that they were right about one thing: I wasn't like the other girls--I was going to be much, much worse."
* "You should never have to outsource the foundation of self-love. It was always meant to come from within."
August 24, 2024
I honestly think that this book, minus the profanity, would be excellent as required reading for high schoolers. Drew explains the real world implications of the patriarchy in easily digestible ways. Most of the book was review but nonetheless I am fat and a feminist and it still called me out on a few things. And it’s always good to be reminded to keep my standards high.
Overall, I wanted more memoir and less self-help.
Overall, I wanted more memoir and less self-help.
March 9, 2024
Most of us know her best for her crusade against misogynistic, trash men on the internet. She is a voice with confidence and courage against the patriarchy in order to pave the way to break down some of the oldest and most antiquated ideals bringing women down these days. Her debut book Loud; Accept Nothing Less Than the Life You Deserve is the perfect mixture of manual, memoir, and part manifesto making it clear that behind her loud and booming laugh is courage, confidence, supportive women, intelligence, and so much personality.
I had the chance to get my hands on the Ebook version of this book ahead of publication thanks to NetGalley and Farrar, Straus, and Giroux in order for an honest review.
The moment I knew she was writing a book I put it on my wishlist for pre-ordering before it’s release, then one lovely day I saw her pop up for advance reading and I was tickled pink getting the email that I was approved to read it. I laughed, I cringed (she wanted me to, I swear), and I teared up a bit (in a good way). All the way through her book was completely her through and through.
From the very beginning of the book she captivates the reader with her wit and writing, following up with sharing someone of the people around her that have had a big impact in who she is today, speaking beautifully about her family life and growing up as a proud Samoan woman. It becomes clear pretty quick that having such a strong, loving, and emotionally intelligent family is definitely a big catalyst into what has shaped Drew today.
As she moves further along the book she touches on some of the things that we as women not only do ourselves no favours but actively encourage the patriarchal constructs that have pushed us down and against each other since the beginning (i.e., women who go HARD for terrible men).
I found myself actively talking to my kindle as she had me pulling myself right back to my equally (if not more) cringe teen years, but it becomes clear that a lot of times it shapes a lot of who we are when we’re extra cringe in our teen years!
A lot of people see her comments section and can see that even some women stand up for these terrible and sometimes abusive men, we call this the Pick-Me, and we all know at least one. But the thing is we all exhibit pick-me behaviour, some of us do that later in life than others unfortunately but when we finally crack out of it the world is definitely so much better (and so much easier, damn).
To round it out she reminds us that it’s okay to be mean sometimes, often as women we are supposed to be soft, delicate, pliant, agreeable. Fuck that, we are whoever we want to be and if that soft and delicate then fine, but if its loud and honest instead then hell yeah.
Quotes have been removed from this review and will be added upon approval from the publisher
I consumed this book as an Ebook (unfortunately an exact page count is not available at this time for this format). It is also going to be available as a physical book and an audiobook! Set to release on July 30th 2024 it is currently available for pre-order on Amazon and many other major retailers!
I had the chance to get my hands on the Ebook version of this book ahead of publication thanks to NetGalley and Farrar, Straus, and Giroux in order for an honest review.
The moment I knew she was writing a book I put it on my wishlist for pre-ordering before it’s release, then one lovely day I saw her pop up for advance reading and I was tickled pink getting the email that I was approved to read it. I laughed, I cringed (she wanted me to, I swear), and I teared up a bit (in a good way). All the way through her book was completely her through and through.
From the very beginning of the book she captivates the reader with her wit and writing, following up with sharing someone of the people around her that have had a big impact in who she is today, speaking beautifully about her family life and growing up as a proud Samoan woman. It becomes clear pretty quick that having such a strong, loving, and emotionally intelligent family is definitely a big catalyst into what has shaped Drew today.
As she moves further along the book she touches on some of the things that we as women not only do ourselves no favours but actively encourage the patriarchal constructs that have pushed us down and against each other since the beginning (i.e., women who go HARD for terrible men).
I found myself actively talking to my kindle as she had me pulling myself right back to my equally (if not more) cringe teen years, but it becomes clear that a lot of times it shapes a lot of who we are when we’re extra cringe in our teen years!
A lot of people see her comments section and can see that even some women stand up for these terrible and sometimes abusive men, we call this the Pick-Me, and we all know at least one. But the thing is we all exhibit pick-me behaviour, some of us do that later in life than others unfortunately but when we finally crack out of it the world is definitely so much better (and so much easier, damn).
To round it out she reminds us that it’s okay to be mean sometimes, often as women we are supposed to be soft, delicate, pliant, agreeable. Fuck that, we are whoever we want to be and if that soft and delicate then fine, but if its loud and honest instead then hell yeah.
Quotes have been removed from this review and will be added upon approval from the publisher
I consumed this book as an Ebook (unfortunately an exact page count is not available at this time for this format). It is also going to be available as a physical book and an audiobook! Set to release on July 30th 2024 it is currently available for pre-order on Amazon and many other major retailers!
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