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How to Control Your Anger Before It Controls You
Anger is universal. Unchecked, it can cause lasting damage in our lives: wrecked relationships, lost jobs, even serious disease. Yet in these increasingly stressful times, all of us have acted in anger—and often wished we hadn’t. Is there a way that really works to solve problems and assert ourselves without being angry?
The answer is a resounding yes, if you follow the breakthrough steps of Rational Emotive Behavior Therapy (REBT). This proven approach, developed by world renowned psychotherapist Dr. Albert Ellis, has withstood the test of time, helping countless people deal effectively with emotional problems.
Using easy-to-master instructions and exercises, this classic book will show you how to apply REBT techniques to understand the roots and nature of your anger, and take control of and reduce angry reactions. Here you will discover:
The rational and irrational aspects of anger
Special insights into your self-angering beliefs
How to think, feel, and act your way out of anger
How to relax
How to accept yourself with your anger
…and much more that will help you challenge and eliminate the anger that can frustrate success and happiness at home, at work, anywhere.
The answer is a resounding yes, if you follow the breakthrough steps of Rational Emotive Behavior Therapy (REBT). This proven approach, developed by world renowned psychotherapist Dr. Albert Ellis, has withstood the test of time, helping countless people deal effectively with emotional problems.
Using easy-to-master instructions and exercises, this classic book will show you how to apply REBT techniques to understand the roots and nature of your anger, and take control of and reduce angry reactions. Here you will discover:
The rational and irrational aspects of anger
Special insights into your self-angering beliefs
How to think, feel, and act your way out of anger
How to relax
How to accept yourself with your anger
…and much more that will help you challenge and eliminate the anger that can frustrate success and happiness at home, at work, anywhere.
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Albert Ellis
243books433followersAlbert Ellis was an American psychologist who in 1955 developed Rational Emotive Behavior Therapy (REBT). He held M.A. and Ph.D. degrees in clinical psychology from Columbia University and American Board of Professional Psychology (ABPP). He also founded and was the President of the New York City-based Albert Ellis Institute for decades.
He is generally considered to be one of the originators of the cognitive revolutionary paradigm shift in psychotherapy and the founder of cognitive-behavioral therapies. Based on a 1982 professional survey of USA and Canadian psychologists, he was considered as the second most influential psychotherapist in history (Carl Rogers ranked first in the survey; Sigmund Freud was ranked third).
He is generally considered to be one of the originators of the cognitive revolutionary paradigm shift in psychotherapy and the founder of cognitive-behavioral therapies. Based on a 1982 professional survey of USA and Canadian psychologists, he was considered as the second most influential psychotherapist in history (Carl Rogers ranked first in the survey; Sigmund Freud was ranked third).
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January 5, 2017
I found it interesting. Seems to be in line with many Buddhist teachings. Essentially, saying you have more control over your emotions than you may think. I found this book very engaging.
August 27, 2015
I have read 9 Albert Ellis books in the past month and a half. Obviously I recommend them.
May 13, 2015
Albert Ellis is an underrated genius.
May 10, 2011
While I agree with most of the concepts in this book, I found the book itself repetitive, dull, and annoying at times. I liked the section in the very beginning where he was discussing real client's issues with anger and how to address these issues. However, for some reason he abandoned this approach after the first few pages and stuck with the same hypothetical situation throughout the entire book. While this says something about consistency, it also leads the reader to feel as if they are beating a dead horse by the end of the book. If you decide to read this I would recommend taking the few wise nuggets and leaving the rest. The book probably would have been better written as a short pamphlet.
February 19, 2019
First published in 1997, this book reads more like that date was 1947 (We're going to lick this problem but good, old chum!). Aside from the cringey lingo, the advice is beyond stiff and clinical with the bulk of it centering around in-depth introspection and complex dissection of the feelings and assumptions that underlie the outward expression of anger; which is all but impossible in the heat of the moment. Definitely not recommended, I have to imagine there are better alternatives out there.
November 30, 2009
I learned a lot about self-acceptance and how insisting people "must" do something leads to anger and rage.
July 22, 2019
Good insights, but bogs down explaining the logic of self evident truth. Big premise in the book is because something exists it may cause displeasure, but it is not something that "must" not happen. Must and should are thoughts that drive anger by by promoting the illogical belief we will never be mistreated or experience negative life events. Recognize reality and the emotion it caused, a bad thing happened and it was frustrating, disappointing, etc. Is a healthier approach to creating logical beliefs to address anger and be assertive.
March 26, 2018
This book has a few useful tips and some good information.
January 18, 2020
La terapia creada por Albert Ellis, la TREC, ofrece herramientas para poder alcanzar manejo de las emociones; sin embargo, algunos de los argumentos que manifiesta necesarios no son muy factibles en el momento en que se dan las situaciones que llevan al individuo al descontrol.
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December 20, 2020I don't feel okay rating this as I began it during the summer and I listened to the last two hours on x2 speed while going home from work, just to have another book to add to ŷ. Oh well. It makes some good points.
July 17, 2023
Come tutte le tecniche molto evolute, per trarre vantaggio dalla REBT devi già stare piuttosto bene.
Ma vale la pena leggere Ellis, anche solo perché l'accettazione incondizionata aiuta in tutti gli ambiti della vita.
Ma vale la pena leggere Ellis, anche solo perché l'accettazione incondizionata aiuta in tutti gli ambiti della vita.
March 26, 2025
Feel like this book is one EVERYONE needs to read
January 4, 2024
Apie pyktį, mūsų reakcijas į situacijas ir kaip patys savyje tą pyktį sukuriame bei kurstome.
August 25, 2022
Foarte educativă si cu sfaturi explicite care sa te ajute sa iti gestionezi furia si alte emoții negative.
April 8, 2016
ARC received via Netgalley and the Publisher, in exchanged for an honest review.
Simply puy, this is a commonsense (& not mention , no nonsense) guide to anger, that fully breaks down the pathways to (the) rational and irrational beliefs that can help us to process our anger in a healthy or destructive manner.
In my opinion, this should be required reading for children, teens, and young adults as well. As a matter of fact, this should be part of every school's required curriculum.
With all of the goofiness going in in the world right now, everyone, and I do mean everyone, could benefit from learning how to identify and process their anger.
Giving this one: 5 stars
Simply puy, this is a commonsense (& not mention , no nonsense) guide to anger, that fully breaks down the pathways to (the) rational and irrational beliefs that can help us to process our anger in a healthy or destructive manner.
In my opinion, this should be required reading for children, teens, and young adults as well. As a matter of fact, this should be part of every school's required curriculum.
With all of the goofiness going in in the world right now, everyone, and I do mean everyone, could benefit from learning how to identify and process their anger.
Giving this one: 5 stars
March 7, 2016
The book started strong with great examples but lost steam when the technique was discussed. I though the example given during the technique was a little harder to follow than I had hoped it would be. I liked the information about the rational and irrational thoughts, and I will try to use that in the future. It would be interesting to have a parenting spin on this, with most focus on dealing with frustration.
January 31, 2017
This work on anger offers one main takeaway point. You and you alone create your own anger by harboring underlying anger creating beliefs. A few suggested exercises are designed to help the reader discover his or her own underlying absolutistic and demanding thoughts. The goal is to change your thinking to where you can embrace a person's 'rotten' behavior as their right to display this behavior.
June 7, 2015
Couldn't get through it. The plan is too wishy washy and "soft." Although I suspect there is no magic bullet to getting a better attitude. I'm going to just stick to meditation.
May 14, 2020
A relaxing book about how to control your thoughts in different situations, and how we are actually the ones that are making our lives worse and how to fix it of course. Enjoyable till the end
June 18, 2024
Nothing has been more helpful in managing my anger. Essentially it teaches you that your anger is based on irrational beliefs and that you need to change your beliefs in order to change your feelings of anger. Controlling your actions and suppressing your anger can only get you so far, you need to change the way you think if you don’t want to feel angry in the first place. Albert Ellis teaches that we make ourselves angry through our irrational philosophies and he have to work really hard to go dispute and debate our cognitive distortions.
REBT was formulated and founded by Albert Ellis and is the predecessor of CBT, which was also formulated by Ellis and is the widely preferred form of talk therapy used today. While CBT is very effective for anxiety and depression, It has never helped me in my search for anger management. REBT is different because it teaches you to be radically accountable for your own anger. CBT teaches that anger is a secondary emotion in response to some sort of need not being met, and we need to search for that need. But personally, this only ever invalidated my feelings of anger while simultaneously validating my core reasons for becoming angry, therefore making me feel even more angry. What REBT teaches you is that you’re fine. You are absolutely fine. You don’t “need� everything to go your way and everyone to treat you perfectly fair in order to be happy. The world will keep turning and you can still enjoy life if something isn’t right and there is no sense it logic or rationale in making yourself angry over it.
It teaches that anger is much like anxiety except anger irrationally finds faults in external things. It finds something to blame while anxiety is focused inwards on yourself. Both are irrational fight or flight responses. Anger is “fight� and fear and anxiety is the “flight�. What you need to do is recognize that there is no real danger to your body or your mind and that you are reacting irrationally. How you do this is by identifying the irrational belief you are holding that is angering you (or rather making you anger yourself), and vehemently dispute it.
It’s fantastic and I notice a huge change not only in how I’m acting but how I FEEL. It’s not just anger management or suppression, it is truly an anger cure. Only reason it’s getting 4/5 is because it is honestly not written very well and could have done with quite a bit more editing. If you can look past that, this book is extremely useful and can change your life if you take it seriously.
REBT was formulated and founded by Albert Ellis and is the predecessor of CBT, which was also formulated by Ellis and is the widely preferred form of talk therapy used today. While CBT is very effective for anxiety and depression, It has never helped me in my search for anger management. REBT is different because it teaches you to be radically accountable for your own anger. CBT teaches that anger is a secondary emotion in response to some sort of need not being met, and we need to search for that need. But personally, this only ever invalidated my feelings of anger while simultaneously validating my core reasons for becoming angry, therefore making me feel even more angry. What REBT teaches you is that you’re fine. You are absolutely fine. You don’t “need� everything to go your way and everyone to treat you perfectly fair in order to be happy. The world will keep turning and you can still enjoy life if something isn’t right and there is no sense it logic or rationale in making yourself angry over it.
It teaches that anger is much like anxiety except anger irrationally finds faults in external things. It finds something to blame while anxiety is focused inwards on yourself. Both are irrational fight or flight responses. Anger is “fight� and fear and anxiety is the “flight�. What you need to do is recognize that there is no real danger to your body or your mind and that you are reacting irrationally. How you do this is by identifying the irrational belief you are holding that is angering you (or rather making you anger yourself), and vehemently dispute it.
It’s fantastic and I notice a huge change not only in how I’m acting but how I FEEL. It’s not just anger management or suppression, it is truly an anger cure. Only reason it’s getting 4/5 is because it is honestly not written very well and could have done with quite a bit more editing. If you can look past that, this book is extremely useful and can change your life if you take it seriously.
January 16, 2025
"Una de las grandes paradojas de la psicoterapia es que, siendo la ira una de las emociones más destructivas la gente suele estar bastante confundida al respecto"
Como alguien en preparación para el abordaje de la salud mental, la tristeza y la ansiedad patológicas son las emociones que más se abordan durante la consulta, pero son pocas las veces en que la ira se aborda y cuando se hace hay muchas contradicciones respecto a su manejo, ya sea adoptar una actitud pasiva o expresarla libremente sin tomar en cuenta que esto puedo aumentarla o las represalias de dichas decisiones. Por ello, decidí leer este libro.
Algo que puedo aplaudir, es utilizar la Terapia Racional Emotivo-Conductual para desmenuzar esta emoción como la experiencia y consecuencias físicas, las consecuencias interpersonales e internas, los consejos controversiales sobre su manejo y contención, las creencias racionales e irracionales que la componen así como consejos para disputar las segundas constantemente, la ira sana y malsana, ejercicios de contención y otras conductas para poder lidiar con ella que requieren disciplina para disminuir su intensidad.
Lo "negativo" que puedo darle a esta obra, es lo repetitivo que puede ser a partir de la segunda mitad del libro respecto a la disputa de creencias irracionales, pero es la adaptación de los ejemplos que acompañan a los consejos sobre que conductas y procesos cognitivos que se recomiendan tomar, aunque, desde luego se podría ilustrar de mejor manera con otros ejemplos. Por último, a veces los ejemplos sobre que proceso cognitivo llevar a cabo durante las disputas de las creencias irracionales, puede llegar a ser rocambolesco, porque al momento de iniciar el proceso el insight que se tiene sobre la ira propia es limitada; además de que, en mi experiencia, son pocas las personas que pueden tener un nivel de introspección tan complejo como lo ejemplifica el libro; sin embargo, se pueden adapatar los consejos de acuerdo a uno mismo o al paciente en el caso de los terapeutas o psiquiatras.
Conclusión, recomiendo el libro, pero se debe adapatar su contenido de acuerdo al contexto individual con invitación hacia la introspección constante.
Como alguien en preparación para el abordaje de la salud mental, la tristeza y la ansiedad patológicas son las emociones que más se abordan durante la consulta, pero son pocas las veces en que la ira se aborda y cuando se hace hay muchas contradicciones respecto a su manejo, ya sea adoptar una actitud pasiva o expresarla libremente sin tomar en cuenta que esto puedo aumentarla o las represalias de dichas decisiones. Por ello, decidí leer este libro.
Algo que puedo aplaudir, es utilizar la Terapia Racional Emotivo-Conductual para desmenuzar esta emoción como la experiencia y consecuencias físicas, las consecuencias interpersonales e internas, los consejos controversiales sobre su manejo y contención, las creencias racionales e irracionales que la componen así como consejos para disputar las segundas constantemente, la ira sana y malsana, ejercicios de contención y otras conductas para poder lidiar con ella que requieren disciplina para disminuir su intensidad.
Lo "negativo" que puedo darle a esta obra, es lo repetitivo que puede ser a partir de la segunda mitad del libro respecto a la disputa de creencias irracionales, pero es la adaptación de los ejemplos que acompañan a los consejos sobre que conductas y procesos cognitivos que se recomiendan tomar, aunque, desde luego se podría ilustrar de mejor manera con otros ejemplos. Por último, a veces los ejemplos sobre que proceso cognitivo llevar a cabo durante las disputas de las creencias irracionales, puede llegar a ser rocambolesco, porque al momento de iniciar el proceso el insight que se tiene sobre la ira propia es limitada; además de que, en mi experiencia, son pocas las personas que pueden tener un nivel de introspección tan complejo como lo ejemplifica el libro; sin embargo, se pueden adapatar los consejos de acuerdo a uno mismo o al paciente en el caso de los terapeutas o psiquiatras.
Conclusión, recomiendo el libro, pero se debe adapatar su contenido de acuerdo al contexto individual con invitación hacia la introspección constante.
November 23, 2021
Nu trebuie să privim prea departe pentru a observa impactul distructiv pe care furia îl poate avea asupra vieților omenești. E suficient să pornim televizorul sau să citim un ziar și vom observa cu siguranță rolul jucat de furie în tot felul de atrocități, mari sau mărunte. Furia poate avea efecte la fel de dezastruoase asupra propriei tale vieți. Necontrolată, îți poate distruge unele dintre cele mai apropiate relații și-ți poate submina sănătatea fizică și mentală. Apare ca fiind unul dintre marile paradoxuri ale psihoterapiei faptul că, deși furia poate fi una dintre cele mai distructive emoții, este totodată emoția în privința căreia oamenii par a fi cei mai confuzi și asupra căreia aleg să lucreze cel mai puțin.
Deși multe cărți și reviste ne spun cum să ne gestionăm furia, niciunul dintre sfaturi nu pare a funcționa prea bine. Și câte contradicții! Unii ne recomandă să adoptăm o atitudine pasivă, lipsită de rezistență atunci când ceilalți ne tratează cu meschinărie. Se presupune că acest lucru le-ar arăta tuturor că suntem cu adevărat stăpâni pe propria persoană. Ar dovedi că avem fermitate și putere. Acceptarea pasivă conduce însă adeseori la continuarea nedreptăților. Mai rău, o poate ampli-
fica. Alte cărți despre furie ne îndeamnă cu degajare să ne exprimăm liber și pe deplin sentimentele de furie. Ventilează-le în mod asertiv! Lasă-le să iasă! Fii tu însuți așa cum ești, turbat de furie. Asta îi va învăța minte pe dușmanii tăi.
Deși multe cărți și reviste ne spun cum să ne gestionăm furia, niciunul dintre sfaturi nu pare a funcționa prea bine. Și câte contradicții! Unii ne recomandă să adoptăm o atitudine pasivă, lipsită de rezistență atunci când ceilalți ne tratează cu meschinărie. Se presupune că acest lucru le-ar arăta tuturor că suntem cu adevărat stăpâni pe propria persoană. Ar dovedi că avem fermitate și putere. Acceptarea pasivă conduce însă adeseori la continuarea nedreptăților. Mai rău, o poate ampli-
fica. Alte cărți despre furie ne îndeamnă cu degajare să ne exprimăm liber și pe deplin sentimentele de furie. Ventilează-le în mod asertiv! Lasă-le să iasă! Fii tu însuți așa cum ești, turbat de furie. Asta îi va învăța minte pe dușmanii tăi.
November 24, 2021
I remember enjoying ling this book throughout but I read it over such a long period of time that I've forgotten most of the contents. Regardless, psychologist Albert Ellis's point is easy to group. Basically he argues the number one reason we all get bent out of shape about things is we want the world to be one way and it turns out another. Ellis devises different exercises to try to get out of our own heads about this and really think about why the world ought to conform to our expectations and our preconceptions. One exercise is to argue with ourselves about just this point. When some event occurs we don't like, we might in the absence of being able to do anything about it ask why things should have happened the way we wanted. Still another exercise is to in our quiet moments to put ourselves in different frames of mind that would alternately calm us or anger us. That we, we can help ourselves realize that while external events are often the triggers to these stressful moments, it's what's going on in the head that's making all the trouble. He says in the end of the book that in the end with us we might not be able to outright eliminate our anger but if we could even make an effort to reduce the amount of anger we harbor by trying these exercises that is well worth the spilled ink of the book.
May 15, 2022
"Anger is the only negative emotion that people all over the world usually want to keep."-R.A. DiGiuseppe, Ph D.
Although I liked the author's "How to Control Your Anxiety" better, I believe that may be because it was my entry point into the world of Rational Emotive Behavioral Therapy (REBT). I first heard of Albert Ellis and this present volume through Eric Barker's excellent blog, "Barking Up the Wrong Tree", which provides research backed advice for dealing with the vagaries of life. I started with the book on anxiety because it was my main issue, however, this book is shorter and would be an excellent entry point for practical steps in dealing with anger or anxiety. Situational anxiety and depression is often anger turned inward.
The basic premise, from the last chapter:
"As a human being you often take serious problems and injustices-many of which you don't create-and you do create needless rage about them...Focus on solving life's difficulties instead of unhinging yourself about them. Once you see that although rage controls you, you have remarkable power to control and reduce it, you can train yourself to be much less angry."
Although I liked the author's "How to Control Your Anxiety" better, I believe that may be because it was my entry point into the world of Rational Emotive Behavioral Therapy (REBT). I first heard of Albert Ellis and this present volume through Eric Barker's excellent blog, "Barking Up the Wrong Tree", which provides research backed advice for dealing with the vagaries of life. I started with the book on anxiety because it was my main issue, however, this book is shorter and would be an excellent entry point for practical steps in dealing with anger or anxiety. Situational anxiety and depression is often anger turned inward.
The basic premise, from the last chapter:
"As a human being you often take serious problems and injustices-many of which you don't create-and you do create needless rage about them...Focus on solving life's difficulties instead of unhinging yourself about them. Once you see that although rage controls you, you have remarkable power to control and reduce it, you can train yourself to be much less angry."
April 3, 2023
La ira es un fenómeno universal que, si no se controla, puede ocasionar graves daños: la ruptura de una relación, la pérdida de nuestro trabajo o incluso una enfermedad grave.
La ira la encontramos en muchos momentos de nuestra vida: la tele, el periodico... Es una emoción destructiva que destruye nuestras relaciones personales.No nos ayuda en nada, ni a enfrentarnos en las situaciones dificiles. Muchos creen que la ira la dirigimos sobre aquellas personas que nos caen mal, pero siempre no enfadamos con aquellos que conocemos: hijos, pareja....
,Cuando el estrés es cada vez mayor, ¿quién no se ha dejado llevar por ella en alguna ocasión? ¿Existe alguna manera eficaz de resolver nuestros problemas sin que la ira entre en escena?.
aqui nos da unas pautas y unos ejercicios para controlarla.
La verdad que para quien siempre este muy irritado le van a ir bien , pero para mi no, pues suelo tener muy bien controlada la ira y de momento, no he explotado. Si que me he enfadado, se me pasa enseguida pero ahora estoy en aquella edad , de quien me la hace, la paga. No me enfado pero ya no soy la que haga todo el trabajo y ahora ya contesto
La ira la encontramos en muchos momentos de nuestra vida: la tele, el periodico... Es una emoción destructiva que destruye nuestras relaciones personales.No nos ayuda en nada, ni a enfrentarnos en las situaciones dificiles. Muchos creen que la ira la dirigimos sobre aquellas personas que nos caen mal, pero siempre no enfadamos con aquellos que conocemos: hijos, pareja....
,Cuando el estrés es cada vez mayor, ¿quién no se ha dejado llevar por ella en alguna ocasión? ¿Existe alguna manera eficaz de resolver nuestros problemas sin que la ira entre en escena?.
aqui nos da unas pautas y unos ejercicios para controlarla.
La verdad que para quien siempre este muy irritado le van a ir bien , pero para mi no, pues suelo tener muy bien controlada la ira y de momento, no he explotado. Si que me he enfadado, se me pasa enseguida pero ahora estoy en aquella edad , de quien me la hace, la paga. No me enfado pero ya no soy la que haga todo el trabajo y ahora ya contesto
February 18, 2025
O carte foarte analitică în care teoria și practica sunt bine îmbinate. Există, totuși, o problemă: Autorii pierd din vedere faptul că furia este una din cele 4 emoții fundamentale, alături de bucurie, frică și tristețe. Aș zice că furia e o emoție (dez)adaptativă în funcție de intensitatea și caracterul ei acut/cronic. Prin urmare, trebuie să ne gândim bine că uneori nu avem de ce să ne enervăm dar alte ori da, dacă ne enervăm cum a descris Aristotel: La intensitatea potrivită, pe persoana potrivită, la timpul potrivit, din motivul potrivit și în modul potrivit. Așa cum scriu ei, în gestionarea furiei e important să renunțăm la anumite idei absolutiste și să ne calmăm, dar sunt idei absolutiste adevărate, acolo ne putem enerva și e de recomandat să o facem, cu condiția să o facem controlat. Pe scurt, autorii sunt parțial dezinformați.
May 11, 2021
Are cateva contradictii, dar autorul explica un concept precum furia care are mai mult legatura cu partea ilogica intr-un mod rational exact ca pe o ecuatie: C=A*B sau in termeni mai simpli F(furia) = Actiune , amintiri, trairi *Beliefs adica sistem de valori , modul in care le percepem. Mi-a placut ca a incercat sa explice ceva care tine de modul in care percepem lumea ( perceptie evident subiectiva) intr-un mod cat de cat logic. Evident ca exista multe contratictii si multe discutii pe acest subiect , dar daca vrei sa-ti controlezi furia ,eu zic ca este un prim pas; restul depinde de tine cat 100% vrei si esti dispus sa aplici.
December 29, 2024
Не можу сказати, що книга погана або неінформативна, але тут занадто мало говориться про реагування на злість та гнів до інших людей саме в моменті діалогу. Є купа практик, підходів, думок як треба вибудовувати своє мислення і як реагувати на тригери, але 95% інформації - про поведінку задовго після тригерної ситуації та не перед людьми, які тебе виводять на емоції.
Тобто як заспокоїти самого себе через якийсь час завдяки логічному підходу, а не як вчасно замовкнути у момент розмови коли ти вже закипаєш.
Тобто як заспокоїти самого себе через якийсь час завдяки логічному підходу, а не як вчасно замовкнути у момент розмови коли ти вже закипаєш.
November 20, 2019
As I listened to this I just about had to laugh, what is the point of anger? NOTHING! Author provides a situation then examines how to deal with it and how not to think about. Includes exercises to somewhat humiliate yourself to feel stupid, yet not react in anger. Additionally, shares some relaxation exercises. When anger is broken down into a math problem it is mind-numbing. Some good information for those that know someone who is quick to anger, helpful to realize. Best wishes to you!
October 19, 2020
"First of all, we might consider a basic fact of life: that nothing important is achieved without accepting frustration. The idea that one can learn without effort, without frustration, may be good as an advertising slogan, but is certainly not true in the acquisition of major skills. Without the capacity to accept frustration man would hardly have develop at all. And does not everyday observation show that many times people suffer frustration without having an aggressive response? What can, and often does, produce aggression is what the frustration means to the person."
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