“Things go smoother if you don’t let people get a rise out of you,� he says. “If you give them control over how you feel, they’ll always use it.� “Finally, I see your cynical side,� I say. He smiles, but his jaw is tight, and the smile doesn’t reach his eyes. “It’s not cynical. If you don’t give other people responsibility for your feelings, you can have a decent relationship with most of them.�
