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“Pain is inevitable. Suffering is optional.”
― haruki murakami, What I Talk About When I Talk About Running

“No tree, it is said, can grow to heaven unless its roots reach down to hell.”
― Carl Jung

“What you resist, persists”
― C.G. Jung

“To love someone is like moving into a house," Sonja used to say. "At first you fall in love in everything new, you wonder every morning that this is one's own, as if they are afraid that someone will suddenly come tumbling through the door and say that there has been a serious mistake and that it simply was not meant to would live so fine. But as the years go by, the facade worn, the wood cracks here and there, and you start to love this house not so much for all the ways it is perfect in that for all the ways it is not. You become familiar with all its nooks and crannies. How to avoid that the key gets stuck in the lock if it is cold outside. Which floorboards have some give when you step on them, and exactly how to open the doors for them not to creak. That's it, all the little secrets that make it your home.”
― Fredrik Backman, A Man Called Ove

“Men are what they are because of what they do. Not what they say.”
― Fredrik Backman, A Man Called Ove

“All roads lead to something you were predestined to do.”
― Fredrik Backman, A Man Called Ove

“A job well done is a reward in its own right,”
― Fredrik Backman, A Man Called Ove

“Perhaps that is the secret. It is not what we do, so much as why we do it.”
― George R.R. Martin, A Clash of Kings

“My dear Socrates … you know why they are putting you to death? It is because you make people feel stupid for blindly following habits, instincts, and traditions. You may be occasionally right. But you may confuse them about things they’ve been doing just fine without getting in trouble. You are destroying people’s illusions about themselves. You are taking the joy of ignorance out of the things we don’t understand. And you have no answer; you have no answer to offer them.”
― Nassim Nicholas Taleb, Antifragile: Things That Gain From Disorder

“Never listen to a leftist who does not give away his fortune or does not live the exact lifestyle he wants others to follow. What the French call “the caviar left,â€� la gauche caviar, or what Anglo-Saxons call champagne socialists, are people who advocate socialism, sometimes even communism, or some political system with sumptuary limitations, while overtly leading a lavish lifestyle, often financed by inheritance—not realizing the contradiction that they want others to avoid just such a lifestyle. It is not too different from the womanizing popes, such as John XII, or the Borgias. The contradiction can exceed the ludicrous as with French president François Mitterrand of France who, coming in on a socialist platform, emulated the pomp of French monarchs. Even more ironic, his traditional archenemy, the conservative General de Gaulle, led a life of old-style austerity and had his wife sew his socks.”
― Nassim Nicholas Taleb, Antifragile: Things that Gain from Disorder

“Since procrastination is a message from our natural willpower via low motivation, the cure is changing the environment, or one’s profession, by selecting one in which one does not have to fight one’s impulses. Few can grasp the logical consequence that, instead, one should lead a life in which procrastination is good, as a naturalistic-risk-based form of decision making.”
― Nassim Nicholas Taleb, Antifragile: Things That Gain From Disorder

“the best horses lose when they compete with slower ones, and win against better rivals.”
― Nassim Nicholas Taleb, Antifragile: Things That Gain From Disorder

“Recall that the fragile wants tranquility, the antifragile grows from disorder, and the robust doesn’t care too much.”
― Nassim Nicholas Taleb, Antifragile: Things That Gain From Disorder

“Increasingly, data can only truly deliver via negativa–style knowledge—it can be effectively used to debunk, not confirm.”
― Nassim Nicholas Taleb, Antifragile: Things that Gain from Disorder

“Note another element of Switzerland: it is perhaps the most successful country in history, yet it has traditionally had a very low level of university education compared to the rest of the rich nations. Its system, even in banking during my days, was based on apprenticeship models, nearly vocational rather than the theoretical ones. In other words, on techne (crafts and know how), not episteme (book knowledge, know what).”
― Nassim Nicholas Taleb, Antifragile: Things that Gain from Disorder

“Just as in matters of seduction, people lend the most to those who need them the least.”
― Nassim Nicholas Taleb, Antifragile: Things That Gain from Disorder

“Had Prozac been available last century, Baudelaire's "spleen," Edgar Allan Poe's moods, the poetry of Sylvia Plath, the lamentations of so many other poets, everything with a soul would have been silenced*....
If large pharmaceutical companies were able to eliminate the seasons, they would probably do so--for profit, of course.

*This does not mean that Sylvia Plath should not have been medicated at all. The point is that pathologies should be medicated when there is risk of suicide, not mood swings.”
― Nassim Nicholas Taleb, Antifragile: Things That Gain from Disorder

“How do you innovate? First, try to get in trouble. I mean serious, but not terminal, trouble. I hold—it is beyond speculation, rather a conviction—that innovation and sophistication spark from initial situations of necessity, in ways that go far beyond the satisfaction of such necessity (from the unintended side effects of, say, an initial invention or attempt at invention).”
― Nassim Nicholas Taleb, Antifragile: Things That Gain From Disorder

“anything that has more upside than downside from random events (or certain shocks) is antifragile; the reverse is fragile.”
― Nassim Nicholas Taleb, Antifragile: Things That Gain From Disorder

“A man is honorable in proportion to the personal risks he takes for his opinion.”
― Nassim Nicholas Taleb, Antifragile: Things That Gain from Disorder

“A half-man (or, rather, half-person) is not someone who does not have an opinion, just someone who does not take risks for it.”
― Nassim Nicholas Taleb, Antifragile: Things That Gain From Disorder

“The true hero in the Black Swan world is someone who prevents a calamity and, naturally, because the calamity did not take place, does not get recognition—or a bonus—for it. I will be taking the concept deeper in Book VII, on ethics, about the unfairness of a bonus system and how such unfairness is magnified by complexity.”
― Nassim Nicholas Taleb, Antifragile: Things That Gain From Disorder

“Nature likes to overinsure itself. Layers of redundancy are the central risk management property of natural systems. We humans have two kidneys (this may even include accountants), extra spare parts, and extra capacity in many, many things (say, lungs, neural system, arterial apparatus), while human design tends to be spare and inversely redundant, so to speak—we have a historical track record of engaging in debt, which is the opposite of redundancy (fifty thousand in extra cash in the bank or, better, under the mattress, is redundancy; owing the bank an equivalent amount, that is, debt, is the opposite of redundancy). Redundancy is ambiguous because it seems like a waste if nothing unusual happens. Except that something unusual happens—usually.”
― Nassim Nicholas Taleb, Antifragile: Things That Gain From Disorder

“The world is a story we tell ourselves about the world.”
― Vikram Chandra

“Men in their forties were so sexy: the calm assurance of what a man liked and didn’t, where he set limits and where he set none, experience and a sense of adventure. It made the sex so much better.”
― Andrew Sean Greer, Less

“But heartbreak - how can you avoid it except to renounce love entirely”
― Andrew Sean Greer, Less

“I know I’m out of your life / But the day that I die / I know you are going to cry.”
― Andrew Sean Greer, Less

“And by that destiny to perform an act Whereof what's past is prologue, what to come In yours and my discharge.”
― William Shakespeare

“Making love with a woman and sleeping with a woman are two separate passions, not merely different but opposite. Love does not make itself felt in the desire for copulation (a desire that extends to an infinite number of women) but in the desire for shared sleep (a desire limited to one woman).”
― Milan Kundera, The Unbearable Lightness of Being

“Love is the longing for the half of ourselves we have lost.”
― Milan Kundera, The Unbearable Lightness of Being