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“Knowing who we are, what we want, and being able to express our needs, wants, and desires—so that we can find others to share them with—makes us poor targets for capitalism, because we can now access intimacy in many ways, with several beings, and even by ourselves.��

As an aro (greyromantic), I don’t normally disclose this aspect of my identity since I’ve always struggled with trying to match society’s expectations for what relationships “should�� look like, but this book has helped me accept that visibility is important, not just for me, but (obviously) others as well who identify as queer or are part of the LGBTQIA+ community. Life is Not Binary was insightful in recontextualizing my own self perception in a more positive light and becoming familiar with perspectives aligned with and beyond my own.

Also, glad to learn the term “decolonial love!”—I’ve tried describing this intuitively before, so it’s helpful to have a term for it (…though the book does encourage challenging categorization in favor of a more landscape-esque paradigm, which I find to be a necessary and refreshing paradox).

Another quote I resonated with, especially given the moment of now: ”When opinion and facts become equivalent, and when people’s lives become a matter of debate, that’s when we start to get into the lethal waters of fascist rhetoric masquerading as free speech.��