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Have you ever written down your weaknesses and strengths?

If not, take a few minutes and write down your weaknesses and strengths on a piece of paper. I strongly suggest that you write down your weaknesses, because it’s easier for our brain to categorize, retain and memorize visual information. Ask a close friend or relative to help you discover your blind spots, those behaviors that you are blind to but others can see. Blind spots can include losing your temper easily, experiencing social phobia, being perfectionistic and being impatient. Be honest with yourself, and do this for your own good. Then, during conversations, try to recall your weaknesses and your strengths so you can consciously take control of your behaviors.

After any situation where your emotions have taken control of your behaviors, try to remember the responses of your body 15 to 20 seconds before your emotional peaks. Next time when your emotions begin to come to the surface, take deep breaths and smile. Try to control your emotions by recalling your weaknesses and the consequences of your previous actions. And try focusing on logical solutions instead of rushed actions. Don’t expect sudden changes; keep working on this and try to improve yourself gradually.

For example, when you feel jealousy taking over and feel that your emotion is starting to dominate your behaviors, try to interject your logic. The picture that’s taking shape in your head may be much different from the reality. Doubt and concern cause anger, and anger pulls you away from reality. In such situations, the best thing that you can do is to start a conversation and to give feedback, highlighting the points that are upsetting you. Also try to increase your confidence by recalling your strengths (which you have previously written down).

The seven medals of success presents the adventures of two children who win, one by one, the medals of courage, cooperation, curiosity, patience, creativity, perseverance and empathy. In their journey they are accompanied by Memo, the dwarf of their memory; he reminds them certain events in their life and they learn the rules of each psychological characteristic.
The book contains stories for children about developing personal success skills and it is based on psychological and pedagogical studies. Every chapter of the book has a Parent's Corner, with a short description of the psychological concepts and exercises for developing each personal trait. Also, every chapter includes a poem because psycho-pedagogical studies demonstrate children learn easier by combining the linguistic and the „musical� intelligence.
We, the authors are university researchers and professors: G. Panisoara has a Ph.D. in Psychology and I.O. Panisoara has a Ph.D. in Educational Sciences.
The patience poem (fragment from the ebook)
Do you know Trici � the caterpillar?
She cried: her beauty was no thriller
But time marched on, as it went by
She turned to a fine butterfly
Here is why:
You want time to pass by quicker,
“I want to play now,� you dicker,
You want to grow up much faster.
But patience is what you must master.
If you have patience you will learn
To calm yourself and wait your turn
Step by step you will succeed
Patience is the thing you need.

Hi Burc, extremely interesting comment/information. May I ask where you learned or heard of this technique? Even though I am in the psychology field, I still, like a lot of us,find it difficult to control my behavior when certain emotions, or situations arise in my personal life. I'm getting better, but it is w/o a doubt an ongoing process. Oops, duh, I just noticed the book @the top of your post. I am assuming it contains the techniques you mentioned? Ok, I would really like to read this book. Would you mind sending me a link as to where I might get a copy? I would really appreciate it. Thanks again for your post, it was quite interesting.