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“Walter Isaacson, who ate dinner with the Jobs family while researching his biography of Steve Jobs, told Bilton that, “No one ever pulled out an iPad or computer. The kids did not seem addicted at all to devices.â€� It seemed as if the people producing tech products were following the cardinal rule of drug dealing: never get high on your own supply.”
― Adam Alter, Irresistible: The Rise of Addictive Technology and the Business of Keeping Us Hooked

“A sex addict is also emotionally anorexic â€� they must be in order to continue participating in isolated behaviour such as being addicted to pornography and being promiscuous or having multiple affairs. All of these secretive behaviour patterns affect a family and home.”
― Christopher Dines, The Kindness Habit: Transforming our Relationship to Addictive Behaviours

“Love addicts often pick partners who are emotionally unavailable because deep down, they don’t feel worthy of having a healthy, loving relationship. A love addict craves and obsesses about becoming enmeshed or ‘oneâ€� with another human being at all costs, even if it means putting themselves in potential danger.”
― Christopher Dines, The Kindness Habit: Transforming our Relationship to Addictive Behaviours

“Your addiction has a voice. A voice that constantly tells you to keep on feeding them.”
― Neeraj Agnihotri, Procrasdemon - The Artist's Guide to Liberation from Procrastination

“If you feel the need to constantly post on social media documenting your every move, chances are you're either addicted to social networking or there is a void somewhere in your personal life.”
― Germany Kent

“When we practise self-compassion, we look after ourselves just as though we are nurturing a small child. In fact, a major part of grieving our original pain work (so that we can heal and be emotionally liberated) is to re-parent ourselves and reconnect with our inner child.

This is what the author, John Bradshaw, meant by ‘reclaiming our inner childâ€�. In recovery, we can begin to nurture our inner child and connect deeply with our heart and spirit.”
― Christopher Dines, The Kindness Habit: Transforming our Relationship to Addictive Behaviours

“The Karpman drama triangle is a classic model of codependent behaviour. First of all, a codependent will rescue someone. Then, when their ‘brave and charitableâ€� work hasn’t been acknowledged, they become very angry at the person they have attempted to rescue. And finally, they start to feel like a victim. They feel sorry for themselves and complain how the person they rescued never appreciated them. The important thing to learn here is that if a person wants to change, it’s because they have made a decision to do so.”
― Christopher Dines, The Kindness Habit: Transforming our Relationship to Addictive Behaviours

“Your addiction has a voice. A voice that constantly tells you to keep on feeding it.”
― Neeraj Agnihotri, Procrasdemon - The Artist's Guide to Liberation from Procrastination

“You have the power to move mountains, yet all you are excited about is getting high and getting laid!”
― Abhijit Naskar, Hometown Human: To Live for Soil and Society

“A little money can buy happiness; a lot can buy addiction.”
― Brian Spellman, We have our difference in common 2.

“To stay true to ourselves and remain kind to others is an art. It does require daily vigilance and, at the same time, it’s important to remember that art can often get messy.”
― Christopher Dines, The Kindness Habit: Transforming our Relationship to Addictive Behaviours

“Healthy and non-shaming mirroring is an important part of the process. We can gain this from a highly emotionally intelligent and effective peer group that has our best interests at heart.”
― Christopher Dines, The Kindness Habit: Transforming our Relationship to Addictive Behaviours

“Ismsâ€� are described as transference of addictive patterns of dysfunctional behaviour, passed down from generation to generation. For instance, if a mother was an alcoholic who never made it into recovery, her behaviour would leave a mark on her children, husband, etc. Unless her adult children join some sort of recovery programme and adopt the mindfulness practice, they will have very similar behaviour traits to their mother but minus the alcohol abuse. There is a strong possibility that they will become codependent and form relationships with other codependents or alcoholics.”
― Christopher Dines, The Kindness Habit: Transforming our Relationship to Addictive Behaviours

“An obsessive is an addict-in-waiting.”
― Stewart Stafford

“All the commas in my life used to be drugs or cigarettes â€� get in the car have a cig, get out of the car have a cig, after dinner have a cig, before food have a cig, have a chat to you have a cig. And you can start doing that with drugs as well.”
― Matty Healy

“No one can control their results. We can, however, control our attitude. When we practise compassion, it is most effective when it is unconditional and free from seeking an outcome â€� compassion is a matter of choice rather than a self-seeking action. And so, if we assist another human being from a place of presence and compassion, we are not looking to find our happiness off the back of othersâ€� suffering. Nor are we trying to control them. Compassion is a conscious choice rather than an emotional knee-jerk reaction.”
― Christopher Dines, The Kindness Habit: Transforming our Relationship to Addictive Behaviours

“It was only when I started to reconnect with my inner child four years into recovery (I was over four years clean and sober off drugs and alcohol) and started to attend a love addiction support group that I was able to trust again and have faith that there are just as many honest and trustworthy women as there are women who are not interested in monogamy.

However, it was after ten years of continuous recovery that I started to really dig deep into my childhood grief work and was finally able to reclaim my inner child. I started to take risks again. On a practical level, you can’t get very far in this world if you resent and distrust the opposite sex and, sadly, many men and women suffer in this area. Rather than celebrating the opposite sex, they fear them. Empathy and self-compassion has helped me in this area too.”
― Christopher Dines, The Kindness Habit: Transforming our Relationship to Addictive Behaviours

“Let’s remind ourselves that to be compassionate and forgiving doesn’t mean we are endorsing dysfunctional behaviour. On the contrary, it’s essential the harm that was inflicted upon us is properly validated and grieved. Forgiveness isn’t an intellectual concept or an airy-fairy idea. It’s a painstaking process. To be compassionate and to forgive mean we are gradually letting go of poisonous, toxic feelings that are trapped in our minds and bodies.”
― Christopher Dines, The Kindness Habit: Transforming our Relationship to Addictive Behaviours

“Think of an untreated sex addict who spends hours every night until the early hours watching pornography on the internet instead of spending that time with their wife or husband, and then becomes so tired due to the late nights that their professional life suffers. The sex addict’s behaviour will cause resentment, destroy trust and create economic insecurities in the family and home.”
― Christopher Dines, The Kindness Habit: Transforming our Relationship to Addictive Behaviours

“A surface desire is one that conflicts with our Knowing. We must ask our surface desires: What is the desire beneath this desire? Is it rest? Is it peace?

Our deep desires are wise, true, beautiful, and things we can grant ourselves without abandoning our Knowing. Following our deep desire always returns us to integrity.

If your desire feels wrong to you: Go deeper.”
― Glennon Doyle, Untamed: Stop Pleasing, Start Living / A Toolkit for Modern Life

“In my view, compassion takes empathy to another level. With compassion, there is an internal calling to move empathy into action. Compassion is love in action.”
― Christopher Dines, The Kindness Habit: Transforming our Relationship to Addictive Behaviours

“In the addiction recovery community, we recognise that addicts can starve themselves of receiving social, sexual or emotional nourishment. Sex and love addicts starve themselves of a healthy, personal relationship and, consequently, deliberately avoid wholesome relationships with other human beings. We’re getting quite deep now, but there are many papers and books published on sexual and emotional anorexia. I have also suffered from emotional anorexia. It’s no myth!”
― Christopher Dines, The Kindness Habit: Transforming our Relationship to Addictive Behaviours

“Hello, I'm Stan and I'm a textaholic I am powerless over my thumbs”
― Stanley Victor Paskavich

“In the freedom from one thing, one becomes enslaved by another.”
― Juditta Salem

“Addiction is like a curse and until it is broken, its victim will perpetually remain in the shackles of bondage.”
― Oche Otorkpa

“Jack tried to reason himself into leaving but he couldn’t escape the lure of the big win, he couldn’t leave until it was his or there was no choice left, no choice left meant no change left. Still, the nudges kept coming, the cherries, never enough money to leave, always just enough left to keep going. Jack was in his own private nightmare; maybe this was where he belonged.

Finally, he lost it all, losing always felt good but never as good as this.”
― Jim Lowe, New Reform

“Too often too much social media and the latest internet trends drain us and erode us of creativity, drive, peace of mind and sense of purpose. ”
― Germany Kent

“Blame equals pain. Lies equal pain. Secrets equal pain. It’s as simple as that.”
― Brianne Davis, Secret Life of a Hollywood Sex & Love Addict: A Novel

“As you go down the spiral of self-afflicting negative behavior, take note of the actions you take, because you will have to undo these actions whenever you decide to win yourself back from the illusion.”
― Dr. Jacinta Mpalyenkana, PhD, MBA

“Lyrics of modern music are poison”
― Atef Ashab Uddin Sahil