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This is our January 2018 Group Read. We only do these group reads sporadically and the book is slender so I hope Book Nook Cafe members will join in.
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I will have to live to 356 years old to get to the bottom of of the books I own but have not yet read !

Anita, you have plenty to read now. Most are part of a series, which is good because you already know you like the author's work. I hope it all rewards you.

Does your e-library do this? There was an unassigned copy of the book when i went to the website to locate the book. Usually they just let me "borrow" it but in this case i was put in the holding list. Within a couple of hours i got an email saying it was available for check out--well, technically, i think the "time" had already started. It was annoying because when i got the email i was on a different device. Why couldn't they just allow me to download it when i requested it? This has happened with this particularly library once previously, at which time i thought it was just a fluke.
Truly, it's not a big whoop, just a small bugging. :-)

I have The Vegetarian on my maybe TBR list. It made a lot of best of lists as I recall. I'll be interested in your thoughts.


The Life-Changing International Bestseller
Mindfulness reveals a set of simple yet powerful practices that you can incorporate into daily life to help break the cycle of anxiety, stress, unhappiness, and exhaustion. It promotes the kind of happiness and peace that gets into your bones. It seeps into everything you do and helps you meet the worst that life throws at you with new courage.
The book is based on Mindfulness-Based Cognitive Therapy (MBCT). MBCT revolves around a straightforward form of mindfulness meditation which takes just a few minutes a day for the full benefits to be revealed. MBCT has been clinically proven to be at least as effective as drugs for depression and is widely recommended by US physicians and the UK's National Institute for Health and Clinical Excellence—in other words, it works. More importantly it also works for people who are not depressed but who are struggling to keep up with the constant demands of the modern world.
MBCT was developed by the book's author, Oxford professor Mark Williams, and his colleagues at the Universities of Cambridge and Toronto. By investing just 10 to 20 minutes each day, you can learn the simple mindfulness meditations at the heart of MBCT and fully reap their benefits. The book includes links to audio meditations to help guide you through the process. You'll be surprised by how quickly these techniques will have you enjoying life again.


I begin that way because i am unfamiliar with the politics in SK, so cannot evaluate the book in that way. Because i learned after reading the book about this intent, i must say i didn't see politics at all, but can see how it may be true. She knows her purpose but i know that in the US, where we know little about their politics, do not mention that in comments.
Apparently this was written as three novellas which have been combined into one novel. I could see that, as the storyteller changes with each new section. First we hear from her husband, who, he admits, married her because she was very ordinary, not likely to cause problems to a man with some ambition. This story is first-person.
The second section is from the point of view of her brother-in-law, an artist whose wife (sister of the Vegetarian) supports him. And the final section is related from the story of that wife/sister. These two stories are third person narration.
And this is why it seems to me, that this book explores the difference between one person's actions/expression and another person's reception of said act. This is not a book about Vegetarianism per se. The woman who decides to become one had a dream as the catalyst for her action.
It is brutal in a place or two but it seems necessary to explore those reactions to her acts. I might even liken it to a sort of horror story, as the reactions are strong. I don't want to share much more because it's clear to me that people disagree about what the book is/means, if i judge by Å·±¦ÓéÀÖ comments.
South Korea has a rich film industry and some of the most fascinating films i've seen come from there. To me, this novella reflect that sort of storytellling. I like it, too. I think i would mostly say that the first section is the best and most gripping. The next is odd in that it almost seems separate, although the Vegetarian is a part of it, too. It seems many people disliked the final segment but i liked it, as it gave us more background.
Do i recommend it? Well, i rarely do that because i don't want to waste another person's time. It will give you much to think about your own life and the question of sanity. And, as i mentioned upthread our reactions to the actions of others is important here. This link is to the NY Times review of the book.


What an intriguing review, deb. I will have to check it out. Though I usually don't like very violent or disturbing reads.

I'll be interested in your thoughts on it after you've read it.

ANYway, i'm liking the book. Anyone interested in education would find it instructive, if their politics don't interfere with reading with an open eye. These women are definitely not fans of the present leader in the White House but nor are they fans of the way politicians have tried to run education via testing.
I was worried that, though a slim volume, it would be tough to read. It is not. In fact, i'm pleased to say it's been a pleasure to read. There is a bit of history of U.S. education interspersed, it is mostly about their philosophy (with examples) and practices as they developed the Boston school.

Thanks, deb. I've added it to my TBR notebook. I also mentioned it to 3 of my relatives who are public school teachers.


I'm still working on the education book but am reading another nonfiction on my iPad. I don't usually read two nonfiction books at once but this has been easy, as they are quite opposite one another.
Spy Who Couldn't Spell, The : A Dyslexic Traitor, an Unbreakable Code, and the FBI's Hunt for America's Stolen Secrets by Yudhijit Bhattacharjee is about a kid who grew up in New York and how he became a spy against the US. It was often sad because the guy was bullied in school but even as an adult working in the US government co-workers made fun of him. To be fair, i understood their problems with him and it's possible they felt their humor was the best way to point out to him the problems they felt he had (body washing, for instance). It just seems to me going to the supervisor might have been kinder.
ANYway, the guy could have been a success story but went the other way. Clever with codes, he created them to help conceal the papers he stole from his agency. In the process i learned much about codes and agencies within the US defensive umbrella. I'm liking it but there might be a bit too much about decoding.



On the recipe thread i shared one of three recipes she offered. Frankly, i'm not sure why she included them but it's her book, right? The one tip which interested me is her "Throw Away" box, which she suggested be no bigger than a shoebox. Into it are a few special love letters, a shell which is special to you & no one else, a description of yourself which continues to bring you joy. It's called "Throw Away" because your family has been instructed they can just trash it after your death. Of course, she admits she hopes they would open it & look inside but this is her way to help them use their time wisely by giving them permission to throw it away immediately.
It's a short book with drawings (she is an artist) so it's not a massive waste of time just not full of valuable info if you really want to get rid of stuff.

I didn't realize people wrote books about this topic until this one came out. It seems morbid, to prepare for your death by decluttering. I don't think everyone can do it (or even most people).

However, you have closets, a garage or basement filled with things that you never look at, will never use or are broken then no matter your age, get rid of it. Stuff like that weighs you down, causes stress, anxiety and is depressing.
I see no reason for a person who is elderly to feel the need to give up items they love even if ones relatives may not want or need them.
I think it's the wrong attitude and very selfish to say your old, so your feelings, wants and needs are less important then the young who I guess would be tasked with getting rid of your possessions. Heck, that's an easier job then the poor person who had to face death ! I see no reason for a elderly person to live the last quarter or so of their life like a monk and edit their possessions down to the essential just so others won't have to spend a few days putting the stuff out for the sanitation collectors or taking the stuff to good will. Good grief ! Is that too much to ask of family?

Now that both our fathers have died, i realize that those items i thought "will be worth something" aren't going to be so & are energy-draining to sell, it's time to weed yet again. To be fair, we haven't had a bed we've liked in over a decade, nor sofa or stuffed chairs. So, i am talking about the boxable items.
Author Magnusson was moving from her home of 20 some years to an apartment. In the process, she remembered the amount of time she had to take to get rid of things her mother & father had amassed. So she decided to use this moving opportunity to clear out most of her items. I want to add that it was clear to me that she also likes uncluttered furnishings--few knickknacks on flat surfaces and much open space in room decor. Several times she mentions how refreshing it is to have cleared table, desk and bedside tables--easy to dust and clean to look at.
One reason i find this topic so interesting is because i come from a line of would-be entrepreneurs who specialized in collectibles. As a result my parent's home had all sorts of vintage items purchased for eventual resale. Then the Internet (more specifically eBay) ended up making those items less valuable because they were readily available. It is a weird phenomena because the initial flurry of buying such items helped give eBay its name. Nowadays it's much harder to sell such things.
Ergo, my dad's house. And my own junk, amassed from auctions in the Dakotas. My mother-in-law liked what was promoted as "Country Farmhouse Decor", meaning themed rooms. She had a chicken-themed kitchen, for instance. When they moved from their home of 15 years, clearing things out was monumental but she was relieved when it was winnowed down to only what she wanted to live with. And on.
Living as we do now, without a permanent home/apt, i've learned that we can live with much less. More important, i am seeing that i boxed many items i will not want for decorating any future home. I just wasn't ready to give them up until now. And so it goes.
I feel as though i'm apologizing for Magnusson but there is a reason i read her book. I generally agree with all that others here have said. My sentimentality easily gets the better of me. In South Dakota i watched a family member go to the dump to rid her mother's home of their collected good that the auction house wouldn't sell. It broke my heart to see all her father's genealogical research abandoned there. LOL!
Besides, this gives me "one more chance" to treasure my items before giving them to charity or loved ones. I like that aspect, too. Incidentally, this book also mentions that angle.
Woo! I suspect i'm still processing my own weeding, what do you think?

If living minimally is something that appeals, than they should go for that.
What I objected to was the guilt heaped on those that enjoy their possessions and don't want or need to get rid of them due to moving or other reasons. It just felt like it was being advocated that they should only possess the bare necessities so when they die it will be easier for those that need to dispose of their stuff. If it is such a burden there are people that can be hired to do the task.
In my mind I just pictured an elderly person sitting in a empty room bored, depressed and waiting to die.
Yikes. Why has this topic struck such a nerve. :) Where is that armchair psychiatrist when we need them.


To the other Julie- when my mother in law went to assisted living, I found free samples of medication I had given to her 20+ years before in her bathroom that had turned to brown. She just had a horribly hard time when we were moving her into assisted living and we would pack her stuff up and come back the next day and everything was put back. We finally moved her in and then cleaned out her house cause she was not able to deal with it.

To be honest with you, there was a taint of this in the beginning. The idea seemed to be to encourage those people with a two pronged approach--first, free your descendents from the burden of tossing things they know you loved and second, enjoy the items you've stored for so long, then free yourself of them. So, i don't think your interpretation is off.
Unopened spice Julie, when i went to auctions in South Dakota i would see a number of homes with spice bottles from as long ago as the '50s. I wondered if they felt they lost their oomph or if they just forget whether they had some or not. LOL!
The mother-in-law mover Julie, what a frustrating experience to have to repack after she moved things back. Sorry to say it's also kinda funny, which i'm sure you can see now.
I too wonder about the genetic aspect of saving/collecting stuff. My great-grandmother was one who collected string because it was pricey when she was young. The family legend was that she even had a box labeled, "String too short to save." Whether that's true or not, her immediate family saved very, very little, a direct result of having to go through their mother's estate.
Does it travel gene-wise? Maybe not, but i loved that my g-gmother saved all sorts of thing that i became quite the collector myself. So, not exactly genes but family lines, at least. Of my siblings, i'm the only one who really knew my g-gmother & the only one who saved stuff like old letters, bookmarks, small toys given me as a child, etc. Hmmmm.

My mom said that she thought my grandma never threw anything out because she grew up during the great depression. Also the reason that she preferred keeping a bunch of cash in the house instead of the bank....a habit that ended up being very bad when she got robbed.

When dad died we found a belt that he'd outgrown at some point. He "repaired" it by stapling parts of another belt onto the back of the outgrown one (the other was just worn out, but he'd saved it, of course). Indeed, he jerry-rigged a number of repairs and "fresh" furniture & appliances. The creativity factor was high, the finished product often looked awkward.
My mother, on the other hand, didn't experience the depression the way he did, so wasn't as thrifty. She was still fiscally tight (coupons, particularly). You are right, though, Julie, the Great Depression can account for much of this.

The one i did check out is Dear Fahrenheit 451: Love and Heartbreak in the Stacks: A Librarian's Love Letters and Breakup Notes to the Books in Her Life author Annie Spence writes about books she's read and how she feels about them. The contents indicate she'll address letters to Anna Karenina, The Complete Miss Marple Collection series, Fifty Shades Trilogy, Misery, Cannery Row, Blood Meridian, or the Evening Redness in the West and many more, including Fahrenheit 451. I'll keep you posted as i go.




I don't have the Kindle library.
But I do look at the Prime monthly Kindle books that you can select one for free. Unfortunately, most months they don't appeal to me even for free.



I didn't know about that. I just know the one where they give you 5 or so books to pick from each month. And then you own the book. Also the unlimited for $10.
Thanks !!
Edit--- I just checked and see now that you can borrow certain books.
I really appreciate the tip, John !

Kindle Lending Library only works on official Amazon devices like Fire tablets and phones!

Yes. I see they mix the titles in with unlimited. Still it's good to know and I'll keep an eye out for that when I am looking for a specific book.

Author Sonia Shah breaks the chapters down in addressing the topic, including the way diseases travel ("Locomotion"), "Filth", "Crowds" and "Corruption". It shows how breakdowns in any of these areas can make an outbreak worse. I can't take a walk in a field now without wondering about the straw upon which i tread or the horse poop i see. LOL! At least i'm not scratching myself raw.

There used to be an advertisement on the subway that caused an uproar. I forget the product, probably a hand sanitizer. Anyway, the signs in the subway would say something like 2680 people touched that poll today and 138 of them had a cold or flu. It was totally grossing people out. LOL.
Anyway I am the queen of the 24 hour hand sanitizer, Nano Pure


The other book is by retired general Michael V. Hayden, The Assault on Intelligence: American National Security in an Age of Lies. I haven't read his previous books but this one, again about lies, caught my eye. The book actually won't be released until next week, so maybe my dilemma about reading both books will solve itself.
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