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“By choosing recovery and risking to be real, we set the healthy boundaries that say, "I am in charge of my recovery and my life, and no one else on this Earth is.”
― Boundaries and Relationships, Knowing, Protecting and Enjoying the Self
― Boundaries and Relationships, Knowing, Protecting and Enjoying the Self
“Cermak said, “Those therapists who work successfully with this population have learned to honor the client’s need to keep a lid on his or her feelings. The most effective therapeutic process involves swinging back and forth between uncovering feelings and covering them again, and it is precisely this ability to modulate their feelings that PTSD clients have lost. They must feel secure that their ability to close their emotions down will never be taken away from them, but instead will be honored as an important tool for living. The initial goal of therapy here is to help clients move more freely into their feelings with the assurance that they can find distance from them again if they begin to be overwhelmed. Once children from chemically dependent homes, adult children of alcoholics, and other PTSD clients become confident that you are not going to strip them of their survival mechanisms, they are more likely to allow their feelings to emerge, if only for a moment. And that moment will be a start.� (58)”
― Healing the Child Within: Discovery and Recovery for Adult Children of Dysfunctional Families
― Healing the Child Within: Discovery and Recovery for Adult Children of Dysfunctional Families
“The observer self, a part of who we really are, is that part of us that is watching both our false self and our True Self. We might say that it even watches us when we watch. It is our Consciousness, it is the core experience of our Child Within. It thus cannot be watched—at least by anything or any being that we know of on this earth. It transcends our five senses, our co-dependent self and all other lower, though necessary parts, of us.
Adult children may confuse their observer self with a kind of defense they may have used to avoid their Real Self and all of its feelings. One might call this defense “false observer self� since its awareness is clouded. It is unfocused as it “spaces� or “numbs out.� It denies and distorts our Child Within, and is often judgmental.”
― Healing the Child Within: Discovery and Recovery for Adult Children of Dysfunctional Families
Adult children may confuse their observer self with a kind of defense they may have used to avoid their Real Self and all of its feelings. One might call this defense “false observer self� since its awareness is clouded. It is unfocused as it “spaces� or “numbs out.� It denies and distorts our Child Within, and is often judgmental.”
― Healing the Child Within: Discovery and Recovery for Adult Children of Dysfunctional Families
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In an Unspoken Voice: How the Body Releases Trauma and Restores Goodness by Peter Levine
Complex PTSD: From Surviving to Thriving by Pete Walker
The Family: A New Way of Creating Solid Self-Esteem by John Bradshawn
Healing the Child Within: Discovery and Recovery for Adult Children of Dysfunctional Families by Charles Whitfield
Trauma Through a Child's Eyes: Awakening the Ordinary Miracle of Healing by Peter Levine & Maggie Kline
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